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Infidelity in committed relationships I: A methodological review

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Infidelity is perhaps the most complex issue encountered by couple therapists. Although clinical literature, opinion, and speculation on this topic are abundant, research literature is sparse. What little available research exists is, in most cases, neither robust nor helpful to the practicing therapist. This article provides, in both narrative and table format, a comprehensive methodological review of the available research literature on infidelity from 1980 to present. Topics addressed in the narrative include the lack of a consensus on the definition of infidelity; design challenges, such as retrospective research, confidentiality, measures, and variables, and sampling issues, such as diversity and randomization. Throughout the article, we offer suggestions for future research.

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... Una de estas conductas prosociales tiene que ver con la monogamia y las convenciones sobre la conducta de infidelidad como la transgresión de este acuerdo (Camacho, 2004;Varela Macedo, 2014). La monogamia es una conducta adaptativa (Canto Ortiz et al., 2009) y, desde el punto de vista biológico, se atribuye a la preservación de los genes, sin haber consenso sobre sus implicancias psicológicas y sociales (Blow y Hartnett, 2005), aunque es ampliamente aprobada como normativa social. Por otro lado, la transgresión del acuerdo monogámico con la decisión de infidelidad sigue generando efectos en la sociedad con su relación con las tasas de divorcio, la repetición del engaño o la inseguridad en posteriores relaciones, y el inicio de consultas en terapias de familia y relaciones (Canto et al., 2009;Fincham y May, 2017;Knopp et al., 2017). ...
... El comportamiento infiel es complejo de analizar (Blow y Hartnett, 2005), por lo que la intención de este artículo es solo circunscribirlo a los hechos observables en el lenguaje utilizado en los chismes de infidelidad y sus repercusiones de reputación y control social (Canto et al., 2009). Estos son el contenido social de los hechos y se reconocen sobre la línea de la aventura, la seducción y la experiencia sexual (Knopp et al., 2017;McAndrew et al., 2007), los cuales tienen una manifestación en el lenguaje usado en los chismes. ...
... Para las mujeres, el discurso de las causas, mayormente, gira sobre buscar una relación íntima y emocional con otra persona, el deseo de mejor sexo, la sensación de sentirse deseada y admirada, y vengarse de su pareja (Varela Macedo, 2014). En contraste, para los hombres, gira en torno a una necesidad de poseer a quien se desea, un impulso de excitación sexual, o un atractivo por la novedad (Blow y Hartnett, 2005;Varela Macedo, 2014). Todo esto puede indicar que, en el lenguaje usado sobre la infidelidad, hay un componente diferenciado. ...
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El artículo tiene como objetivo analizar el discurso del chisme de infidelidad en una pareja del espectáculo peruano, centrándose en la construcción de memoria sobre infidelidad en la red social X durante el año 2024. Se emplea una técnica de análisis cualitativo descriptivo basada en una selección de 115 tuits destacados y recopilados desde la API de X, con los términos Christian Domínguez y Pamela Franco. El análisis se enfoca en las categorías de monogamia, engaño e información sobre la infidelidad según el género. Los resultados indican que existe una diferencia en la interpretación de la memoria de infidelidad en el caso de Domínguez, con un mayor alcance y conversaciones que utilizan el humor como parte del discurso. En contraste, en el caso de Franco, se observan más juicios sobre su conducta, así como valoraciones relacionadas con sus emociones y su cuerpo, y una menor presencia de humor. En conclusión, la mediatización del chisme en el Perú sí genera distinciones en torno a quién es considerado infiel, y el género y la historia personal de cada individuo influyen en relación con esta conducta.
... Sexual infidelity has also been associated with low levels of agreeableness (Apostolou & Panayiotou, 2019;Blow & Hartnett, 2005;McAnulty & Brineman, 2007;Ingledew & Ferguson, 2005;Miller et al., 2004;Schmitt, 2002;Turchik et al., 2010;Zuckerman & Kuhlman, 2000), but Mahambrey (2020) reported that agreeableness was positively associated with spousal infidelity. For openness to experience, sexual infidelity is associated with higher levels of the trait (Apostolou & Panayiotou, 2019), whereas studies show that neuroticism has a positive link with chances of sexual infidelity (Allen & Walter, 2018; Isma & Turnip, 2019;Whisman et al., 2007). ...
... Thus, the hypothesis which stated that agreeableness would positively predict sexual infidelity was not supported. This result is contrary to some extant literature (Apostolou & Panayiotou, 2019;Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Ingledew & Ferguson, 2005;Mahambrey, 2020;McAnulty &Brineman, 2007;Miller et al., 2004;Schmitt, 2002;Turchik et al., 2010;Zuckerman & Kuhlman, 2000) which reported that agreeableness was positively associated with spousal infidelity. Agreeable individuals tend to be kind, cooperative, and empathetic, valuing harmony and positive social interactions. ...
... Thus, the hypothesis which stated that conscientiousness would positively predict sexual infidelity was supported. This result is in line with several research findings (Apostolou & Panayiotou, 2019;Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Ingledew & Ferguson, 2005;Isma & Turnip, 2019;McAnulty & Brineman, 2007;Mahambrey, 2020;Schmitt, 2002;Turchik et al., 2010;Zuckerman & Kuhlman, 2000) in which conscientiousness negatively predicted infidelity. Conscientiousness is a trait that involves being responsible, careful, thorough, hardworking and organized. ...
... Indeed, the terms commonly used to refer to infidelity (cheating, having an affair, being unfaithful, stepping out on, extradyadic involvement) betray the ambiguity in meanings. Tbis problem is evident in most of the relevant research, including studies of marital infidelity (see Blow & Hartnett, 2005a, for a review). The earliest studies tended to rely on narrow definitions of infidelity, particularly marital infidelity, in most cases, limited to engaging in sexual intercourse with a person other than the primary partner wbile being involved in an exclusive and committed relationship (see Lieberman, 1988, for example). ...
... In their review of infidelity research. Blow and Hartnett (2005a) offered the definition of infidelity as a "sexual and/or emotional act engaged in by one person within a committed relationsbip where such an act occurs outside of the primary relationship and constitutes a breach of trust and/or violation of agreed upon norms (overt and covert) by one or both individuals in tbat relationsbip in relation to romantic/emotional or sexual exclusivity" (pp. 191-192). ...
... In their review of infidelity in committed relationships. Blow and Hartnett (2005a) concluded that the most reliable estimates were derived from nationally representative samples of married, heterosexual couples and focused on extramarital sexual intercourse. In their National Healtb and Social Life Survey (NHSLS), for example. ...
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Experts address key issues—from attitudes and behaviors to harassment and homophobia—related to sexuality among college students. With essays by a wide range of knowledgeable contributors, Sex in College: The Things They Don't Write Home About draws on recent research to examine just about every aspect of its intriguing subject. The book begins with general chapters that offer historical, cross-cultural, and theoretical perspectives on college students' sexual attitudes and behaviors. One chapter offers a framework for understanding the unique developmental perspective of young adults. Another chapter explores the research methods used to study college students' sexual practices. Subsequent chapters cover: dating and intimacy on campus, the perspective of young adults about love, sexuality education and classes, and sexual orientation. The darker side of college sexuality is also examined in chapters centering on such topics as infidelity in college dating relationships, homophobia and sexual harassment on campus, sexual risk-taking and sexually transmitted infections, sexual problems and dysfunction among young adults, and sexual assault among college students.
... Infidelity is a topic which attracts high interest in popular culture, and it is constantly featured in popular media [1]. The term infidelity has been defined in many different ways by suggesting that it is cheating, having an affair or being unfaithful to your partner [2]. Early studies on infidelity tended to look at it from a narrow point of view, limiting its definition to having a sexual relationship with an individual other than the primary partner in a current exclusive relationship. ...
... There are three kinds of infidelity distinguished by researchers [2,5]. Emotional infidelity includes an individual who develops a bond or intense feelings with a person other than the primary partner. ...
... Sexual infidelity includes an individual who becomes sexually involved with another person other than their primary partner. Finally, composite infidelity involves an individual becoming sexually involved with another person other than their significant other while also creating a deep emotional bond with them [2,5,6]. Although, cultural differences, traditions and societal beliefs influence the existence of infidelity within a society, it is assumed that marital infidelity does exist in every culture to some extent [7]. ...
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Although relationship satisfaction has been widely explored, there is a gap in the literature on how factors such as the legal recognition of relationships, relationship orientation and gender affect intentions to engage in infidelity. This study aimed to explore the effect of the legal recognition of relationships, relationship orientation and gender on intentions to engage in infidelity, while controlling for relationship satisfaction. Three hundred forty-seven participants were recruited. The participants were aged between 22 to 79 years (M=41.48, SD=10.16) and in a relationship between 5 and 59 years (M=15.21; SD=9.41). The countries where the participants were raised were split into three categories: no, partial and full legal recognition. The Marlowe-Crowne Social Desirability Scale Short form, The Relationship Assessment Scale, The Intentions Towards Infidelity Scale were utilised. ANCOVA indicated that legal recognition is an important factor in intentions to engage in infidelity, furthermore females in heterosexual relationships from countries with full recognition had lower intentions to engage in infidelity. This study aimed to give direction for future research by highlighting the similarity of homosexual and heterosexual relationships when legitimised and focused more on gender differences.
... Blow and Hartnett (2005) highlight the lack of consistency in the de nition and conceptualization of in delity by pointing to the activities that might be considered in delity, such as having an a air, extramarital relationship, cheating, oral sex, friendships, etc. The problem of de nition looms larger when one thinks about the fact that even those in the same relationship might di erently de ne in delity and have di erent opinions about what constitutes in delity (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Hertlein et al., 2005;Moller & Vossler, 2015). ...
... highlight the lack of consistency in the de nition and conceptualization of in delity by pointing to the activities that might be considered in delity, such as having an a air, extramarital relationship, cheating, oral sex, friendships, etc. The problem of de nition looms larger when one thinks about the fact that even those in the same relationship might di erently de ne in delity and have di erent opinions about what constitutes in delity (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Hertlein et al., 2005;Moller & Vossler, 2015). Additionally, individuals in di erent forms of relationships (e.g., dating, in a relationship, engaged, marriage, cohabiting, polyamory, etc.) might have di erent views as to what constitutes in delity (Blow & Hartnett, 2005). ...
... The problem of de nition looms larger when one thinks about the fact that even those in the same relationship might di erently de ne in delity and have di erent opinions about what constitutes in delity (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Hertlein et al., 2005;Moller & Vossler, 2015). Additionally, individuals in di erent forms of relationships (e.g., dating, in a relationship, engaged, marriage, cohabiting, polyamory, etc.) might have di erent views as to what constitutes in delity (Blow & Hartnett, 2005). Some individuals might consider only sexual behaviors as in delity, such as engaging in sexual intercourse with someone other than the partner, engaging in sexual play with, receiving oral sex from, or giving oral sex to, someone else, romantic kissing and nonromantic kissing (e.g., on cheek); others may consider sexual fantasies about someone else or nonsexual/romantic fantasies about someone else to be in delity. ...
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This chapter highlights the variations and diversity of human mating systems and cultural differences and similarities in the nature of and attitudes toward infidelity. Altogether, this chapter reviews and shows what is constituted as infidelity in one culture might not necessarily be considered as infidelity in another culture. While there has been some cross-cultural research to evaluate differences and similarities across societies and populations in infidelity, the literature still lacks proper research on what is considered as infidelity in different cultures, societies, and traditions. The current issues of research such as lack of diversity, (i.e., sample limitation to heterosexual, middle-to-upper-class, white, undergraduate students, from Western and industrialized societies, majority from the United States) are noted. Moreover, this chapter argues that the intense interest among behavioral researchers in identifying a universal sex difference in distress over sexual and emotional aspects of infidelity has resulted in neglect of exploring the nature of infidelity and the cultural variations in the attitudes toward infidelity. Finally, by signifying a limited research that employed a behavioral ecological approach, this chapter calls for cross-cultural research based on a behavioral ecological approach on cultural differences and similarities in the nature of infidelity.
... Hertlein, Wetchler, and Piercy (2005) defined infidelity as either "engagement in sexual relations with a person other than one's partner," cybersex, looking at pornography, physical intimacy, or emotional intimacy with someone other than one's spouse [5]. Blow and Hartnett (2005) declared that, marital infidelity can be observed through several activities including: "…having an affair, extramarital relationship, cheating, emotional connections that are beyond friendships, internet relationships, pornography use" [6]. ...
... Hertlein, Wetchler, and Piercy (2005) defined infidelity as either "engagement in sexual relations with a person other than one's partner," cybersex, looking at pornography, physical intimacy, or emotional intimacy with someone other than one's spouse [5]. Blow and Hartnett (2005) declared that, marital infidelity can be observed through several activities including: "…having an affair, extramarital relationship, cheating, emotional connections that are beyond friendships, internet relationships, pornography use" [6]. ...
... Lusterman cited that some spouse are disloyal for a variety of reasons, which may be related to the family of origin, to beliefs about the opposite sex, or to a sense of vulnerability at some point in the life cycle, such as the birth of a child [59]. Allen et al. and Blow and Hartnett found links between a history of infidelity and intrapersonal (diathesis) characteristics such as age, religiosity, and attitudes toward infidelity, personality, and mental health [6,60]. Some of these components may have direct effects on extramarital sexual behavior, whereas other variables may have either indirect effects or represent the effects of a third variable. ...
... In the couple counseling field, infidelity remains a highly prevalent issue, with 25% of couples initially presenting to therapy for a revealed affair and 30% later disclosing it (Glass & Wright, 1992). The need for outcome research on evidence-based treatments for infidelity is evident, yet there remains a paucity of available studies on this essential clinical competency (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Peluso, 2019;Softas-Nall et al., 2008;Stamps, 2020). In prior surveys, roughly 70% of clinicians cited the lack of infidelity research as a significant deficit in the professional literature (Irvine & Peluso, 2022;Softas-Nall et al., 2008). ...
... For this study, sexual infidelity is defined as intercourse or other sexual acts with another individual outside of the primary relationship. To date, much of the infidelity literature has focused on extramarital sexual affairs among heterosexual married couples, with lifetime prevalence rates for this group ranging from 20% to 25% (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Fincham & May, 2017;Moller & Vossler, 2015). Moller and Vossler (2015) note that this form of infidelity is often understood to have "one universally understood meaning" (p. ...
... This study's findings demonstrate that infidelity is a culturally influenced social phenomenon. However, existing infidelity studies have predominately focused on the relationship norms and roles of White, cisgender, heterosexual, married couples (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Henriksen, 2007), thereby ignoring the contextual considerations of infidelity across diverse groups. Expressly, the infidelity research literature has historically omitted marginalized group members such as Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC) and Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer/Questioning (LGBTQ+) couples. ...
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The present study applies a Gottman Method Couples Therapy (GMCT) intervention, the Trust Revival Method (TRM), to couples' relationships following an affair, using a randomized control waitlist design. Couples (n= 84) were recruited nationally and internationally and subsequently randomized to either an immediate treatment group or a 3-week waitlist group. A 6-month post-trial follow-up was conducted for couples that completed treatment. The revised Specific Affect Coding System (Coan & Gottman, 2007) was used to code couples' interactions during a 10–15-minute conflict discussion. Significant effects were found when comparing couples' codes against treatment retention and later relationship functioning. Couples also completed various assessments three times during the study, including the 480-question Gottman Connect (GC) assessment tool. Couples on the 3-week waitlist completed one additional pre-treatment assessment before their 3-week wait commenced. Multivariate statistics with appropriate univariate follow-up procedures were employed to determine group differences between the control and experimental groups. Follow-up procedures were also conducted to investigate any differential rates of symptom reduction or treatment success. The researcher used path analysis procedures following Actor Partner Interdependence Model (APIM- Kenny et al., 2020) assumptions to examine the effects of the intervention on overall relationship satisfaction and subsequent affair recovery, revealing significant effects between assessment scores and coded behaviors. Clinical significance testing also showed significant effects in specific relationship domains. The results add to the current research literature, validating GMCT as an effective broad-based couple therapy approach to repair relationships following infidelity. Implications for clinical practice, graduate training, and research are discussed. ISBN: 9798841795896
... It is therefore not surprising that infidelity has received considerable scholarly attention over the past decades (for reviews, see Blow & Hartnett, 2005a, 2005bFincham & May, 2017). Research has explored both the determinants and consequences of infidelity (e.g., Negash et al., 2017;Previti & Amato, 2004;Shrout & Weigel, 2020), as well as the prevalence of and trends in infidelity, asking whether extradyadic behaviors become more or less common over time or are observed more often within specific groups or genders (e.g., Brand et al., 2007;Labrecque & Whisman, 2017;Zhang et al., 2012). ...
... Nevertheless, little agreement exists regarding the definition of which behaviors constitute infidelity. Various theoretical approaches exist to define infidelity (e.g., Blow & Hartnett, 2005a;Drigotas et al., 1999). According to Drigotas et al. (1999, p. 509), infidelity occurs if a person feels that the partner has violated a relationship norm by interacting with a third person, and this violation elicits sexual jealousy and rivalry. ...
... Clearly, not only extradyadic intercourse was regarded as infidelity by the respondents, although it was the most important single factor according to the present study. This is in line with existing research that consistently points to sexual intercourse as the clearest form of infidelity (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a;Thompson & O'Sullivan, 2016). ...
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Infidelity is more than extradyadic intercourse, but it is unclear where infidelity begins and how behaviors are related to each other. We investigated data from a factorial survey experiment implemented in the German Family Panel (pairfam). 9,104 respondents evaluated 26,633 vignettes on unfaithful behaviors including four dimensions: explicit behavior, emotional involvement, infidelity duration, and erotic online contact. Results suggest that item lists may not reveal the full picture of unfaithfulness. While intercourse is judged as unfaithful irrespective of the context, less explicit behaviors such as kisses or hugs were also regarded as infidelity. Nonphysical dimensions contributed to infidelity judgments more strongly when less explicit behaviors were evaluated. Even cases of no physical contact combined with erotic text messages and emotional involvement were evaluated as unfaithful. Women's judgments were stricter than men's, and younger respondents' evaluations were stricter than those from older respondents. No differences were found regarding the gender of the vignette character.
... Infidelity has been defined in many ways, including having an affair, emotional connections that are beyond friendships, cheating, sexual intercourse, kissing, or using pornography (Blow & Hartnett, 2005b). Thus, experiences defined as infidelity in one study are often very different from experiences defined as infidelity in another study (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a, 2005b. More recently, Thompson and O'Sullivan (2015) categorized infidelity into four sets of behaviors: sexual/explicit behavior with physical contact (e.g., sexual intercourse); computer-mediated behaviors (e.g., masturbating over webcam); romantic/affectionate behaviors that potentially convey romantic interest (e.g., watching movies in a dark living room with someone); and solitary sexual behaviors such as masturbation. ...
... Questions such as this may lead to underreported unfaithful behaviors or unfaithful individuals in at least two ways. First, this question directly asked the participants to self-acknowledge an experience involving deep relational pain and personal shame (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a). This approach can activate cognitive defense mechanisms that lead to false negative responses to protect one's image or self-esteem. ...
... Methodologically, studying a sensitive topic like infidelity can be challenging. Our results indicate that direct questioning substantially underestimates the incidence of infidelity, likely due to the stigma attached to unfaithful behavior (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a). The indirect approach overcomes this methodological shortcoming by pairing attitudes with their behaviors. ...
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Infidelity has been operationalized inconsistently across studies, and measurement approaches have been employed that are not ideally suited for addressing the stigmatized and subjective nature of infidelity, thereby limiting the conclusions that can be drawn from this body of literature. In 2016, Thompson and O'Sullivan took a step toward addressing these shortcomings by implementing an indirect measurement approach. We extend their findings using a sample of 465 married and divorced individuals via MTurk. Substantially more participants reported having engaged in infidelity via the indirect approach than the direct approach, and results suggest that-in contrast to findings from direct questioning-similar percentages of men and women engage in self-defined infidelity. Implications for research and clinical practice are provided.
... The researchers in the area of infidelity had to deal with the multifaceted understanding of this notion across previous studies, as it has been operationalized through various behaviors (Blow and Hartnett 2005a): having an affair, extramarital relationship, cheating, sexual infidelity, emotional infidelity, extra-dyadic sexual activities, emotional betrayal, internet infidelity and others. This heterogeneity partly stems from the fact that each type of relationship-marriage, cohabiting, heterosexual, or homosexual-has its specificities in defining infidelity (Blow and Hartnett 2005b). ...
... This paper presents two studies that describe the development of a reliable and valid measure of predilection for infidelity among married people, based on the most common motivations that previous studies have brought to attention for this behavior. Such an instrument may be useful in couples therapy, either premarital, as suggested by a systematic review by Haseli et al. (2019), or later, when therapists face the partners' difficulties in talking openly about infidelity (Blow and Hartnett 2005a). A measure that reveals a predilection for infidelity and the reasons behind it could guide the psychotherapeutic intervention. ...
... The assessment of infidelity among the married population or the propensity for unfaithful behavior is currently limited by important aspects: most current measures of this concept are designed strictly for investigations related to a certain context, focusing on a single element/behavior (Blow and Hartnett 2005a) or most often addressing only sexual and/or emotional infidelity, such as the measure developed by Drigotas et al. (1999) which analyzes past infidelity. Furthermore, the intention to engage in extramarital behaviors is most often expressed in the existing scales by assertions that do not specify the nature of the behavior (Jones et al. 2011) or by indicating approval or disapproval of a continuum of extramarital behaviors, such as flirting, kissing, falling in love, sexual intercourse, and a long-term sexual relationship with someone other than their partner (Buunk 1980). ...
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Most of the previously developed scales addressing infidelity were developed on young samples in dating relationships and with limited couple experience. The present study proposes an instrument to measure the proneness for infidelity among married people with substantial experience as a couple. Specific contexts described by the items, in which unfaithful behavior might occur, were selected from those revealed by previous research on people’s motives of past infidelity. Across two studies (N = 618) we examined the factorial structure and the psychometric characteristics of the Propensity towards Infidelity Scale (PTIS). Results revealed a one-dimensional structure of the PTIS and supported its reliability, its construct, criterion and incremental validity. PTIS emerged as negatively associated with two measures of adherence to moral standards, and positively related to past unfaithful behavior. Furthermore, the new instrument was found to bring a significant contribution in explaining these behaviors beyond two other scales of infidelity intentions.
... Nevertheless, a considerable number of people worldwide engage in non-consensual non-monogamy. Bearing in mind that different studies use different definitions of non-monogamy (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a, 2005b, it is estimated that non-consensual non-monogamy occurs in <25% of committed relationships in the USA. According to Luo et al. (2010), the prevalence of non-consensual non-monogamy can far surpass 25% depending on how it is defined. ...
... Men aged 40-60 years were most likely to report having had an extradyadic partner, and the likelihood decreased significantly among older men. However, as emphasized by Blow and Hartnett (2005b), as most studies are crosssectional, there is no way to decide if it is a development effect or a cohort effect. Even so, Kontula and Haavio-Mannila (1995) concluded that much of the sexual behavior change in Finland is a generational phenomenon. ...
... In their current marriage or cohabitation, less than one of five men and less than one of 10 women engaged in non-consensual non-monogamy, and about 2% engaged in consensual non-monogamy. Comparing these estimates to previous findings is difficult due to different definitions and operationalizations of "extradyadic sex" (Blow & Hartnett, 2005b). Even so, we would claim that the findings from this study largely support the findings of previous Norwegian studies (Traeen et al., 2007;Traeen & Stigum, 1998) as well as research from other countries (Hackathorn & Ashdown, 2021;Haupert et al., 2017aHaupert et al., , 2017b. ...
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The paper sets out to study Norwegians’ experiences of non-monogamy. Data were collected by questionnaires in a web-sample of 4160 Norwegians (18–89 years). 26.3% of men and 17.8% of women reported that they ever had non-consensual non-monogamy. Consensual non-monogamy was reported by 3%. Compared to participants with no or non-consensual experience, consensual non-monogamy was highly related to relationship intimacy and positive sexual attitudes toward sex and sexuality. At the most recent extradyadic event, 21.5% of heterosexual men and 47.1% of gay/bisexual men reported condom use, which implies a risk for sexually transmitted diseases.
... Aldatma oldukça karışık bir konu olarak karşımıza çıkmaktadır. Bu konuda klinik alanyazında oldukça fazla kuramsal düşünce olmasına rağmen, araştırma literatürü seyrek bir görünüm sergilemektedir (Blow ve Hartnett, 2005). Aldatma literatürünün azlığı toplumun aldatmaya ilişkin yaptırımları ile açıklanabilir. ...
... Evlilik dışı ilişkiler toplumumuzda sapkınlık olarak görülmektedir. Blow ve Hartnett (2005) aldatmayı metodolojik olarak ele aldıkları çalışmalarında; sadakatsizliğin tanımını iki kişi arasında üzerinde anlaşmaya varılan güvenin ihlali olarak kabul ederek, ilişkide sadakatsizlik olarak tanımlanabilecek tek davranışın açıkça cinsel ilişki olmadığını belirtmektedirler. Buna göre çiftlerin sadakatsizliği nasıl tanımladığı konusunda fikir birliğinin olmaması da ilgili çalışmaları güçleştirmektedir. ...
... Duygusal aldatma; kişinin mevcut ilişkisi varken başka bir kişiyle yakınlaşarak duygusal paylaşımda bulunmasını, cinsel aldatma ise yine kişinin ilişkisi varken başka biriyle cinsel ilişki yaşamasını ifade etmektedir. Bu ikisinin aynı anda olması durumunda ise hem duygusal hem cinsel aldatma kavramı ortaya çıkmaktadır (Blow ve Hartnett, 2005). Aldatma türlerine son yıllarda eklenen anonim aldatma ise son yıllarda oranı giderek artan tek gecelik ilişkileri ifade etmektedir (Amidon, 2007;Kantarcı, 2009). ...
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Geçmişten günümüze evlilik ilişkilerinin en yaygın çatışma sebeplerinden olan aldatma olgusu, kimi zaman ilişkinin sonlanmasına kadar gidebilen yıkıcı etkilere sahiptir. Aldatma; toplumsal, kültürel ve dinsel öğretiler ile yanlış olarak etiketlense de görülme sıklığı oldukça yüksektir. Bu derleme çalışmasının amacı aldatma ve boşanma ilişkisini Bağlanma Kuramı perspektifinden değerlendirmektir. Çalışmada önce yetişkin bağlanma stilleri ve evlilik uyumu ilişkisi ele alınmış, daha sonra bağlanma stilleri ile aldatma eğilimi ve boşanma ilişkisi değerlendirilmiştir. Kuramsal açıdan bağlanma ilişkisi bebeğin bakımverenle ilişkisine bağlı olarak gelişmektedir. Bu bağlanma stilleri yetişkinlikte de etkisini korumakta ve yetişkin bağlanma stilleri romantik ilişkilerde dinamikleri, iletişim becerilerini ve çatışma çözüm stratejilerini belirlemede oldukça etkili konuma gelmektedir. Yetişkin bağlanma stilleri evlilikte aldatma eğilimini anlamlandırmada kilit noktalardan biridir. Ülkemizde aldatma konusuyla ilgili yapılan çalışmalar sınırlıdır ve bağlanma stilleri ile aldatma ve boşanma ilişkisini ele alan çalışma bulunmamaktadır. Çalışma, oldukça güncel bir konu olan aldatmayı bağlanma kuramı perspektifinden ele alması bakımından önemlidir. Çalışmada derlenen bulgular, evlilikte dinamikleri anlamlandırma ve çatışmalara çözüm bulma noktasında alanyazına ve uygulayıcılara izlenecek yollara ilişkin önemli bir perspektif kazandıracaktır.
... In the United States, infidelity is relatively common and occurs in approximately 25% of married, heterosexual relationships (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a). Infidelity is often associated with significant negative consequences for individuals (e.g., decreased self-esteem, increased psychological distress; Blow & Hartnett, 2005b;Buunk, 1995;Cano & O'Leary, 2000;Shackelford, 2001;Wilson et al., 2011) and relationships (e.g., relationship breakdown; Garbinsky et al., 2020). ...
... The utility for narcissism to predict emotional infidelity could be attributed to the narcissists' low relationship satisfaction (Casale et al., 2020); a potential product of decreased attention and admiration over time (Gewirtz-Meydan & Finzi-Dottan, 2018). Given that low relationship satisfaction increases the chance of emotional infidelity (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a), and relationship satisfaction has been found to fully mediate the relationship between narcissism and intentions to be unfaithful (Altınok & Kılıç, 2020), logical connections can be drawn such that individuals with high levels of narcissism may be more inclined to be emotionally unfaithful. This result warrants further investigation. ...
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Infidelity is a common problem in intimate relationships and is often a main contributor to relationship breakdowns. The aim of the current study was to extend the infidelity literature by differentiating between physical, emotional, and malevolent forms of infidelity, and exploring individual differences (i.e., gender and The Dark Tetrad of personality) that are associated with perpetration in these forms. The sample comprised 240 participants aged 18 to 67 years (Mage = 29.41 years, SD = 10.32; 76.8% women). People with higher psychopathy were more likely to engage in all forms of infidelity. High narcissism was predictive of emotional infidelity, and high sadism was predictive of malevolent infidelity. Interestingly, gender was only predictive of malevolent infidelity, with women more likely than men to perpetrate this form of infidelity. Exploratory analyses indicated that many of the associations between Dark Tetrad and infidelity were moderated by gender. Results of the current study may support researchers and therapists in differentiating between different types of infidelity (i.e., emotional, physical, malevolent). Further, these findings may contribute to the development of screening tools for therapists working who provide support for infidelity in intimate relationships.
... These social conditions favouring concealers (that is, lower promiscuity, high cost of being aggressed against and low cost of perpetrating aggression) are perhaps likely to have been met in ancestral environments. First, not all males are promiscuous, and some are very low in promiscuity [115][116][117][118][119] . Second, female intrasexual aggression can impose high and long-lasting costs on targets [108][109][110]120 , and by adopting typically covert and non-physical tactics, female aggressors are thought to be able to avoid the costs associated with perpetrating more overt and physical acts of aggression 21,23,26,30,47,51,121,122 . ...
... One of the limitations of the present model is that male strategies were programmed to be relatively simple. For example, we assumed for modelling purposes that males were either promiscuous (investing only in mate search) or not promiscuous (switching to investing in offspring after mating) [115][116][117][118][119] . However, in the real world, male mating and parental investment strategies are more nuanced and complex [123][124][125] . ...
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After half a century of debate and few empirical tests, there remains no consensus concerning why ovulation in human females is considered concealed. The predominant male investment hypothesis states that females were better able to obtain material investment from male partners across those females’ ovulatory cycles by concealing ovulation. We build on recent work on female competition to propose and investigate an alternative—the female rivalry hypothesis—that concealed ovulation benefited females by allowing them to avoid aggression from other females. Using an agent-based model of mating behaviour and paternal investment in a human ancestral environment, we did not find strong support for the male investment hypothesis, but found support for the female rivalry hypothesis. Our results suggest that concealed ovulation may have benefitted females in navigating their intrasexual social relationships. More generally, this work implies that explicitly considering female–female interactions may inspire additional insights into female behaviour and physiology.
... Perselingkuhan didefinisikan sebagai keterlibatan dalam relasi emosional atau seksual di luar relasi pasangan utama yang memiliki komitmen tanpa persetujuan pasangan serta dianggap sebagai pelanggaran kepercayaan (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;Zare, 2011). Studi menunjukkan bahwa perselingkuhan dapat menyebabkan berbagai permasalahan psikologis yang mendalam bagi korban, termasuk perasaan dikhianati, menurunnya kepercayaan diri, kecemasan, depresi, trauma serta kesulitan dalam membentuk keterikatan di masa depan (Rusbult, 1994;Warach & Josephs, 2019;Winslow, 2024). ...
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Kasus perselingkuhan di Indonesia telah meningkat dalam beberapa dekade terakhir, dengan Indonesia menduduki peringkat kedua di Asia dalam jumlah kasus perselingkuhan pada tahun 2023. Kasus perselingkuhan berdampak signifikan bagi para korban, terutama dalam hal membangun kepercayaan dan keterikatan serta memengaruhi hubungan mereka di masa depan. Meskipun demikan, riset yang menyoroti persepsi korban perselingkuhan yang belum menikah terhadap pernikahan di masa depan masih terbatas. Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk mengekplorasi persepsi pernikahan pada individu yang menjadi korban perselingkuhan dalam relasi romantis. Dengan melibatkan 115 partisipan, studi ini menggunakan survei online kualitatif melalui pertanyaan terbuka pada google form. Data dianalisis dengan analisis tematik menggunakan aplikasi MAXQDA 2020. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa pernikahan bagi korban perselingkuhan adalah harapan pernikahan, ketidakamanan emosional, pentingnya kesiapan pernikahan, ancaman permasalahan, keengganan menikah, menjalankan ibadah.
... A second emerging trend is the increasing openness to having more than one emotional or romantic relationship. In modern monogamy, the couple is usually isolated from other intimate connections, and romantic pursuits outside of the relationship, such as flirting, are often viewed as infidelity, much like extradyadic sexual interactions (Blow & Hartnett, 2005). Even close friendships can be perceived as a threat to the couple's bond. ...
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This thesis explores the transformational dynamics of intimate relationships as they are currently situated within long-standing systems of norms and the pull of modernity's characteristics in Western societies. Drawing on historical, cultural, and theoretical perspectives, this thesis investigates how tensions within certain forms of intimate relationships lead to their transformation. It adopts a holistic approach, encompassing diverse forms of intimate relationships, including romantic, sexual, and platonic connections, which are all governed by beliefs and practices pertaining to three systems of norms: amatonormativity, mononormativity, and heteronormativity. The hegemonic form of intimacy-modern monogamy-is guided by these systems, which promote the dependence in and stability of a romantically and sexually exclusive couple. However, modern monogamy is also influenced by modernity, characterised by an emphasis on individual independence and equality. Applying Jaeggi's (2014) critique of forms of life framework, modern monogamy is constructed as a form of life in crisis, unable to solve the internal tensions between the institutionalised norms and the pull of modern values. As a result, alternative relationship forms emerge, which seek to resolve the issues and present a better problem-solving strategy, such as open relationships, polyamory or being single by choice. These alternative models break open some of the traditional norms to promote independence and equality of the individuals, while preserving dependence and stability within their relationship(s). However, this research argues that they merely shift around the normative systems as fixed points, providing a temporary relief, but ultimately failing to address the underlying issues causing the crisis: the imbalance of independence and dependence, and the idealisation of equality, while being embedded within a system of structural inequality, which they reinforce through their practices. This thesis highlights various paths to break the vicious circle, such as the deconstruction or transcendence of norms, and discusses issues of privilege and agency, which can limit individuals' ability to lead the relationships they desire. By situating the transformation of intimate relationships in their historical and cultural context, this research offers a critical examination of the evolving landscape of intimate relationships and the potential for future transformation towards more inclusive and equitable forms of intimacy.
... Kawasan bandar lebih tinggi potensi berlakunya kecurangan disebabkan bandar terdapat lebih banyak alternatif hubungan berbanding di kawasan pedalaman. Tambahan lagi, keadaan di bandar jauh lebih sibuk dan kemungkinan banyaknya berlaku interaksi antara lelaki dan wanita di luar perkahwinan lebih tinggi berbanding di pedalaman (Blow & Hartnett, 2005). ...
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... Finally, the researchers noted while focusing on depression and solitude that the main source of stress that results in psychological suffering is loneliness [14]. Similar research showed that 75% of persons who felt lonely believed that depressive symptoms were to blame for their loneliness [15]. Previous research has shown that, compared to other divorces, infidelity-related separations usually leave divorced individuals more predisposed to stress. ...
... Finally, the researchers noted while focusing on depression and solitude that the main source of stress that results in psychological suffering is loneliness [14]. Similar research showed that 75% of persons who felt lonely believed that depressive symptoms were to blame for their loneliness [15]. Previous research has shown that, compared to other divorces, infidelity-related separations usually leave divorced individuals more predisposed to stress. ...
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Background There are multiple studies that indicate that the psychological well-being of a couple and their life satisfaction depend on the family and society. Various factors such as family, family values, marriage style, married life, and education have a great impact on people's lives both directly and indirectly. It is important to understand the effects of these factors on married individuals' lives that lead to depression so that appropriate measures can be taken for its prevention. Objectives This research aims to find the relationship of depressive symptoms among married individuals with various factors such as their marriage style, education, and having children. Materials and methods The study included 433 married individuals from Istanbul who met the criteria for depression. The early identification and prediction of depression in married individuals have been demonstrated to benefit significantly from machine learning techniques. In this study, we used decision tree (DT) and random forest (RF) predictive modeling techniques to create a model to predict the occurrence of depression among married individuals. Results The accuracy of the DT approach was found to be 80%, and the RF approach was 60%. Our results showed that as compared to conventional statistical methods, machine learning models performed better for classifying couples. Conclusion Future support systems that employ a range of data sources to identify individuals who are extremely susceptible to developing depression among married people may be developed using these effective models.
... According to Waite and Joyner [7] , cheating or infidelity is a breach of the expectation of sexual exclusivity and unfaithfulness by virtue of being unreliable in a relationship despite the commitment to exclusiveness Cheating in marriage is synonymous with adultery, philander, an affair and infidelity that define uncommitted extramarital relationship. Blow and Harnett [8] , and Buss [9] agree that there is no doubt that cheating among couples exists, and but it has become a global extramarital practice that is destroying marriages. However, Brunk [10] posits that the trend varies according to orientations, cultures and social pressure. ...
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This paper investigates the dimensions of emotive language used by women to situate their stances on cheating husbands in Calabar, Southern Nigeria. The data for the study were generated by means of non-participant observation and semi-structured interviews, aided by audiotape recording and field notes. One hundred married women constitute the representative sample from whom the data were elicited. Findings show that the participants used emotional language to establish different stances in discourses on adulterous acts of their husbands. The participants' stances are construed to be nuanced in religious, punitive, revengeful, sociobiological, reconciliatory and legal considerations. Participants' choices were influenced by the women's religious, gendered and sociocultural orientations, educational background and level of exposure, family and social pressure, personal safety and psychological state. These differentials connect the appraisal patterns with the consequences of each stance which should also serves as expository guide on the rational for such decisions by women on cheating spouses. The emotive outbursts by the participants stress the need for men to be faithful to their wives to sustain mutual happiness and peaceful marriages.
... Treatment often includes addressing contextual factors associated with infidelity (Fife et al., 2008;Snyder et al., 2004), such as a partner's reasons for engaging in infidelity. Even though there are studies on the treatment and healing for individuals and couples following infidelity Gordon et al., 2004;Gossner et al., 2022;Mitchell et al., 2021), empirical research literature on infidelity itself is sparse, with little that is helpful for practicing clinicians (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a). Even less scholarship has focused on the thought processes or decision-making of individuals who engage in infidelity. ...
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... Infidelity can be a deeply distressing and complex issue within romantic relationships, requiring sensitive and effective treatment interventions to navigate the challenges and promote healing (Blow & Hartnett, 2005b). These interventions aim to rebuild trust, facilitate open communication, and address underlying issues contributing to the occurrence of infidelity (Young et al., 2013). ...
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This research delves into the intricate dynamics of dating infidelity within the context of modern romantic relationships. By examining behaviors, motivations, consequences, challenges, and treatment interventions related to dating infidelity, this study offers a comprehensive exploration of this complex phenomenon. The findings reveal a spectrum of behaviors, ranging from emotional connections facilitated by technology to seeking sexual novelty and exploring relationships outside of primary partnerships. Motivational factors, including emotional fulfillment, sexual exploration, and dissatisfaction within the current relationship, emerge as key drivers of dating infidelity. The implications of infidelity extend beyond individuals, impacting relationship well-being and household welfare. Challenges such as communication breakdowns and unrealistic expectations hinder effective relationship dynamics. Treatment interventions, such as couples therapy, communication training, and strategies for rebuilding trust, provide a roadmap for addressing infidelity and promoting healing. This research enriches relationship science by offering insights into the evolving landscape of modern romantic connections and underscores the importance of open dialogue and communication to foster healthier and more resilient relationships.
... Of note, although monogamous relationships would seem to have clear relationship agreements, there is considerable variation in how individuals define monogamy, and up to one-third of monogamous adults report being sexually unfaithful to a partner (Green et al., 2016;Swan & Thompson, 2016). Definitional issues pose challenges to individuals as well as relationship researchers and clinicians, with little consensus regarding what constitutes infidelity across dating and committed relationships (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;McAnulty & Brineman, 2007). The prevalence of infidelity among ostensibly monogamous dating and committed couples and lack of research on how, when, whether, and why monogamous couples agree upon their relationship structure speaks to the need for more research on whether and how monogamous individuals and couples form explicit agreements. ...
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Having a relationship agreement — a mutual understanding between partners regarding relationship and sexual behaviors both within and outside their relationship — has been linked with healthy relationship functioning. Yet research has been largely limited to sexual agreements among gay and bisexual men, with few studies regarding relationship agreement prevalence, types, and motivations among people of diverse sexual and gender identities and relationship types (e.g., polyamory, monogamy). This study sought to describe characteristics of and motivations for relationship agreements and examine associations between agreements and two metrics of relationship functioning: adaptive decision-making and satisfaction. In a cross-sectional online survey about sexuality, dating, and relationships among people of diverse sexual orientations, 722 U.S. participants (M age 29.3, 48.9% cisgender women, 83.7% non-heterosexual, 34.9% monogamous) provided data regarding relationship agreements, decision-making, and satisfaction. Bivariate and regression analyses were used to examine individual and relational correlates of having an agreement as well as associations between agreements, deciding, and satisfaction. A large majority of participants (N = 594, 82.3%) had a relationship agreement. Nearly two-thirds described their current relationship status as some form of consensual non-monogamy (CNM), with 41% having 2 or more current significant partners. Common reasons for making an agreement included building trust and honesty, protecting the relationship or partners’ feelings, managing expectations, and preventing HIV or STIs. Across participants, having an agreement — regardless of the type — was associated with higher scores on both satisfaction and decision making. Implications for couples/relationship researchers and therapists are discussed.
... Infidelity can be defined only depending on each couple's rules and boundaries. Some authors have defined infidelity as sexual or/and emotional behavior with another person exhibited by someone already in a committed relationship, and this behavior violates the agreement regarding sexual and/or emotional exclusivity in the romantic relationship [22]. In addition, the relational context is extremely important when defining infidelity. ...
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Little research has been focused on offline or online infidelity in GL dating relationships, especially in a post-communist socio-cultural context. Infidelity–related (IR) behaviors on social media sites might be as hurtful to relationships as offline infidelity, both in gay, lesbian (GL) and heterosexual romantic monogamous relationships. In this cross-sectional study, we aimed to examine the associations between dyadic satisfaction, attitudes toward infidelity, and problematic internet usage, with IR behaviors on social media sites among GL and heterosexual unmarried individuals in Romanian sexual minority communities. Results showed that GL respondents did not significantly differ from heterosexual participants regarding IR behaviors. Furthermore, we found the main effect of attitudes toward infidelity and problematic internet use on IR behaviors. Sexual orientation highlights the main effect of IR behaviors when analyzed with dyadic satisfaction. The current study may be a precursor to further research investigating correlations in online IR behavior among lesbian and gay individuals engaging in consensual nonmonogamy. Implications of the findings are discussed in the social context of a post-communist country where GL individuals may face discrimination and stigma because of their sexual orientation.
... However, it is most commonly characterized as short or long-term emotional and/or sexual involvement with someone outside of one's primary relationship (Brand et al., 2007). It can also be defined as a breach of trust or a crossing of the boundaries of the primary relationship (Blow & Hartnett, 2005) and is considered a violation of monogamy, which is perceived as unacceptable in Western culture (Fincham & May, 2017). Rayesh and Kalantar (2018) have observed differences between Muslim and non-Muslim behaviour regarding infidelity, with religion being a possible impact factor. ...
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Introduction: Infidelity is a breach of trust or a crossing of the boundaries of the primary relationship and it influences intimate relationships. It can be categorised as either sexual or emotional infidelity. In Portugal, there have been few studies on this subject using suitable instruments. Objective: This study aimed to analyse the factor structure, psychometric properties, and gender invariance of the Infidelity Scale (IS) in Portuguese adults. Method: The sample comprised 660 Portuguese adults (455 women and 205 men) between 18 and 79 years of age who had been unfaithful in their relationships. Results: The confirmatory analysis showed a structure with two factors (sexual and emotional infidelity), and good values for convergent and discriminant validity were found. The results displayed a satisfactory model fit and the non-invariance of the factor structure between women and men. Conclusion: This is the first Portuguese version of the IS, an instrument for the study of intimate relationships which contributes to the development of multicultural research.
... It is difficult to put an exact estimate on rates of infidelity due to problems with research methodology, inaccurate reporting, and a lack of agreement on a definition for infidelity. 2 General categories of infidelity include emotional only, sexual only, and combined sexual and emotional infidelity. 3,4 In terms of sexual infidelity, one study found that 25% of married men and 15% of married women admitted to having had extramarital sex at least once during their relationship. ...
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... Relationship status also bears upon infidelity. In comparison to married couples, those who are dating or cohabiting report significantly higher rates of infidelity (Blow & Hartnett, 2005;McAnulty & Brineman, 2007). These differences are likely, in part, driven by level of relationship satisfaction and commitment. ...
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Despite a tendency to form socially monogamous pair-bonds that carry expectations of sexual exclusivity, infidelity has been a recurrent feature of human mating across societies. The attitudes, social cognition, affect, and behavior associated with infidelity vary in patterned ways between women and men. In the current chapter, we use an evolutionary perspective to make sense of the historical and cross-cultural ubiquity of extradyadic behavior, as well the adaptive costs and benefits of men’s infidelity. Specifically, we review theory and research pertaining to men’s extra-pair mating and consider salient individual differences, romantic relationship dynamics, and social–ecological factors that influence mating strategies and extradyadic involvement. Following other scholars, we argue that men have evolved adaptations for short-term mating that facilitate opportunistic extra-pair behavior in a “quantity-over-quality” reproductive strategy. Consequently, on average, men are predicted to express a stronger desire to engage in sexual infidelity and to have more permissive attitudes toward extradyadic involvement than women. However, only particular men appear to execute a mixed mating strategy involving a long-term mate and an extra-pair partner, such as those with greater mate value. Satisfaction with and commitment to the relationship appear to be crucial in preventing men’s infidelity, and socio-ecological factors, including cultural dynamics (e.g., norms surrounding infidelity) and sex ratios that create conditions of mate scarcity, are inextricably tied to men’s extra-pair mating.
... While several predictors have been found to be associated with infidelity, the findings are often inconsistent (Blow & Hartnett, 2005a, 2005b. To address these inconsistencies, it is important to compare a number of factors in the same analyses. ...
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