The comfort in touch: Immediate and lasting
effects of handholding on emotional pain
Razia S. SahiID
*, Macrina C. Dieffenbach
, Siyan Gan
, Maya LeeID
, Laura I. HazlettID
Shannon M. Burns
, Matthew D. Lieberman
, Simone G. Shamay-Tsoory
1Department of Psychology, University of California Los Angeles, Los Angeles, CA, United States of
America, 2School of Education and Psychology, Pepperdine University, Malibu, CA, United States of
America, 3Annenberg School of Communication, University of Pennsylvania, Philadelphia, PA, United
States of America, 4Department of Psychology, University of Haifa, Haifa, Israel
Consoling touch is a powerful form of social support that has been repeatedly demonstrated
to reduce the experience of physical pain. However, it remains unknown whether touch
reduces emotional pain in the same way that it reduces physical pain. The present research
sought to understand how handholding with a romantic partner shapes experiences of emo-
tional pain and comfort during emotional recollection, as well as how it shapes lasting emo-
tional pain associated with emotional experiences. Participants recalled emotionally painful
memories or neutral memories with their partners, while holding their partner’s hand or hold-
ing a squeeze-ball. They additionally completed a follow-up survey to report how much emo-
tional pain they associated with the emotional experiences after recalling them in the lab
with their partners. Although consoling touch did not reduce emotional pain during the task,
consoling touch increased feelings of comfort. Moreover, participants later recalled emo-
tional memories that were paired with touch as being less emotionally painful than those
that were not paired with touch. These findings suggest that touch does not decrease the
immediate experience of emotional pain and may instead support adaptive processing of
emotional experiences over time.
Three out of four people report that their most painful life experience was emotional in nature,
rather than physically painful . Emotional pain, defined as an unpleasant feeling (or suffer-
ing) associated with a psychological, non-physical origin, often stemming from thwarted psy-
chological needs , undergirds a range of psychiatric issues, including depression, anxiety,
borderline personality disorder, and suicidal ideation [3,4]. Given the prevalence of emotional
pain, and the negative outcomes associated with such pain, it is crucial to examine how indi-
viduals effectively cope with and process it.
When we experience negative events or hardships, support from others can mitigate the
harmful effects of those experiences and buffer us from trauma or prolonged distress . For
example, talking through our problems or finding a welcome distraction during a tough time
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Citation: Sahi RS, Dieffenbach MC, Gan S, Lee M,
Hazlett LI, Burns SM, et al. (2021) The comfort in
touch: Immediate and lasting effects of
handholding on emotional pain. PLoS ONE 16(2):
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Received: August 14, 2020
Accepted: January 26, 2021
Published: February 9, 2021
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can be valuable in helping us to regulate our emotions . But there are also powerful forms of
social support that more implicitly communicate understanding and concern, such as when a
loved one holds our hand [7,8]. This type of physical support, often referred to as consoling
touch, is observed across species and across cultures , and has been shown to reliably reduce
the experience of physical pain [10–12]. Notably, however, research has yet to experimentally
assess whether touch reduces the subjective experience of emotional pain in the same way that
it reduces the subjective experience of physical pain.
Extensive research has documented the importance of physical touch in emotional wellbe-
ing. From a developmental perspective, touch plays a vital role in infants’ physical develop-
ment, neurodevelopment, stress relief, and the development of attachment [13–15]. From a
therapeutic perspective, touch is thought to provide comfort and facilitate healing [16–19].
While research suggests that touch can increase positive feelings like security, and decrease
negative feelings like stress , the majority of research on the pain-relieving effects of touch
have focused on how consoling touch affects individuals experiencing physical pain, such as
treatment-related pain, or painful shocks administered in experimental settings. This work
suggests that handholding, especially with a romantic partner, attenuates subjective distress
associated with physical pain, as well as activation in neural regions associated with threat
A body of research suggests that physical pain and emotional pain are processed in overlap-
ping neural regions [22–24], although the extent of this overlap is still debated . While
physical pain and emotional pain differ insofar as physical pain has a sensory component (e.g.
stinging, burning)  and emotional pain stems from psychological events rather than physi-
cal stimulation , they both involve an affective component (e.g. unpleasantness, distress).
Prior research suggests that consoling touch reduces the affective component of physical pain
, suggesting that consoling touch also has the potential to reduce the subjective unpleasant-
ness associated with emotional pain.
A recent study suggests that consoling touch can increase subjective feelings of comfort and
decrease responsivity in affective-pain related neural regions such as the anterior cingulate cor-
tex and anterior insula during negative emotional experiences . However, it remains an
open question whether consoling touch reduces subjective feelings of emotional pain, such as
the pain of social rejection, in the same way that it reduces subjective feelings of physical pain,
like the pain of receiving a physical shock. One (though not the only) notable difference
between emotional and physical pain is that physical pain is often temporally bound (i.e.
restricted to a certain amount of time), whereas emotional pain is often more enduring. Thus,
it is possible that physical and emotional pain differ in terms of how consoling touch shapes
their immediate and lasting experience.
The current investigation
This study applied a novel approach to understanding the emotional benefits of touch by
examining how handholding with a romantic partner, one form of consoling touch, shapes
experiences of emotional pain and comfort during emotional recollection, as well as how it
shapes lasting emotional pain associated with emotional experiences. Participants recalled
emotionally painful memories or neutral memories with their partners, while either holding
their partner’s hand or holding a squeeze-ball. Building on extensive research demonstrating
the role of consoling touch in reducing physical pain, we hypothesized that handholding dur-
ing the emotionally painful memories would result in lower feelings of emotional pain and
greater feelings of comfort from their romantic partner as compared to holding a squeeze-ball.
Since relationship satisfaction often moderates the effect of social support on wellbeing
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institution. Data access queries can also be sent to
the IRB at webIRBHelp@research.ucla.edu. Our
data and analysis materials are also hosted on the
Open Science Framework for researchers who
meet the criteria for access to confidential data:
Funding: This work was supported by grant
funding from the United States – Israel Binational
Science Foundation awarded to Drs. Naomi
Eisenberger (N.I.E.) and Simone Shamay-Tsoory
(S.S.) (grant number 2015068).
Competing interests: The authors have declared
that no competing interests exist.
outcomes [29–31], including the effect of handholding on the experience of physical pain ,
we additionally hypothesized that relationship satisfaction would play a moderating role in the
effect of touch on emotional pain and comfort, such that greater relationship satisfaction
would enhance the soothing effects of touch. Finally, participants completed an exploratory
follow-up survey to assess whether there were any lasting effects of handholding on the experi-
ence of emotional pain. In other words, we aimed to test whether emotional memories paired
with handholding in the lab would later be recalled with less emotional pain than those that
were paired with holding a squeeze-ball. Given the exploratory nature of this follow-up study,
this data is considered preliminary in elucidating how consoling touch potentially shapes the
lasting experience of emotional pain.
The University of California Los Angeles (UCLA) Institutional Review Board (IRB) has
approved this study (IRB#17–001474). UCLA’s Federal-Wide Assurance (FWA) with Depart-
ment of Health and Human Services is FWA00004642. Informed written consent was obtained
for all participants.
We recruited 60 male-female romantic couples (N= 120 individuals) from the UCLA campus
and surrounding community through flyers and emails. All couples were in relationships for
at least 6 months (mean relationship length = 7.37 months). All interested participants sepa-
rately completed an email interview to assess eligibility for participation; prospective partici-
pants who reported having any psychiatric or neurological disorder, or any serious physical
illness, were not enrolled in the study. As part of this study, we also measured neural changes
in participants using functional near infrared spectroscopy. These neural data were designed
to serve as exploratory pilot data for a future neuroimaging study. However, because of this
component of the study, all participants were required to be right-handed. The final sample
(mean age = 21.81 years) included approximately 30% White, 32% Asian/Asian American,
11% Latino/a, 2% Filipino/a, 2% Black, and 11% multiracial participants. The remaining par-
ticipants chose another identity or preferred not to answer.
Sample size rationale
The rationale for our sample size derives from recently published work on affective touch [12,
32,33]. Since these studies found effects of touch on pain with samples of 16–43 dyads, we
aimed to obtain a sample of 60 dyads for our within-subjects design.
Session 1. This study included two sessions. At session 1, which took approximately 1
hour, we assigned each person within the couple to be either the “storyteller” (i.e., the person
experiencing emotional pain) or the “listener” (i.e., the comforting partner). The storyteller in
this study is the person who would ultimately receive support, and the listener is the person
who would give support. Half of the male participants were assigned to be the person receiving
support and the other half were assigned to be the person giving support so that we could
examine potential gender differences in our outcome variables. Both participants completed
questionnaires, and then the listener, i.e. the support giver, left the lab.
Then, the person assigned to receive support recounted stories about past experiences. For
these stories, participants began by completing a form that allowed us to select which negative
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stories they would recount based on: (a) whether the experience was emotionally painful at the
time of the event and (b) whether they were comfortable discussing the experience on camera.
This form is available on our OSF repository (titled: “Story Selection”). After selecting which
stories they would share, participants recounted a total of 4–5 unrehearsed stories, each lasting
about 3 minutes, as we video recorded them. Two stories were about neutral experiences, such
as walking around their current residence or campus. Another 2–3 stories were about negative
social experiences, such as betrayal, loneliness, loss, or rejection. We specifically asked partici-
pants not to discuss experiences that involved a former romantic partner so that they would
not feel discomfort at later watching these recordings with their current romantic partner.
Participants were asked to focus their stories on how they felt at the time of the event, how
they dealt with their feelings, and how they feel about the event now. To clarify, participants
were not imagining emotional pain. Rather, they were being asked to reflect on and relive their
own personal emotionally painful experiences by describing negative events from their past
and the feelings those memories brought up in detail [34,35]. This method for manipulating
emotion is consistent with countless studies that have used writing or talking about past emo-
tional experiences to evoke an emotional response [36,37], as opposed to using impersonal
standardized stimuli to induce negative affect.
During each of the recordings, the experimenter waited outside of the experiment room so
that participants could recount their stories in privacy. The camera was continuously rolling
throughout the session. Reminders for each prompt were presented via Qualtrics. Once the
participant was ready to tell their story, they would flip a 3-minute hourglass to help them
keep track of time and speak towards the camera. After each story, they responded to questions
on Qualtrics about how they felt while sharing the stories (i.e. “emotional pain at first recall”,
see Measures for more details). At the end of the session, participants were reminded not to
discuss the content of these videos with their partners until after session 2, which was approxi-
mately 1 week after session 1.
Before session 2, two experimenters independently watched the set of videos to ensure par-
ticipants appropriately followed the study instructions. As they watched each video, they were
asked to provide an overall rating on a scale of 1–10, 10 being the highest, based on the follow-
ing question: “To what extent did the participant experience emotional pain in the video?” For
videos to be considered similar enough for our experimental manipulation in session 2, ratings
had to be within at least two points of each other (e.g. 9 and 7). Each rater selected the two vid-
eos that they rated as most similar based on the above question. Videos additionally had to be
approximately the same length (within 18 s, about 10 seconds of the total video length). If the
two raters agreed on which two videos were most similar, those videos were prepared for use
in session 2. If the raters disagreed (approximately 22% of the time), a third rater was asked to
provide a rating. If no consensus was reached, or no two videos approximately matched on
emotionality and length, the couple was excluded from participating in session 2 (see Exclu-
sion Criteria for details).
Session 2. At session 2, which took approximately 1.5 hours, the romantic couples
returned to the lab together to watch 2 neutral and 2 negative videos recorded at session 1.
Prior to each video, they were cued via PsychoPy to either hold hands or hold a squeeze ball
such that participants underwent four conditions in a randomized order: (a) hand-holding
during a negative video (i.e. consoling touch condition); (b) hand-holding during a neutral
video (i.e. touch only control condition); (c) holding a squeeze ball during a negative video
(emotional pain only control condition); and (d) holding a squeeze ball during a neutral video
(full control condition).
After each video, participants underwent a minute of “rest” which involved closing their
eyes as they continued to hold their partner’s hand or hold the squeeze ball. After the rest, they
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heard a beep that cued them to turn their attention to their laptops to answer questions via
Qualtrics about their feelings, including “how much pain”, “how hurt”, “how sad”, “how
angry”, “how much stress or anxiety”, “how emotional”, and “how comforted by their partner”
they felt on a Likert scale of 1 to 10. The first six items were used to measure “emotional pain
during the task”, whereas the last item measured “comfort during the task” (see Measures for
more detail). Following these questions, participants completed a shape match task for 1 min-
ute to distract them from the previous video in preparation for watching the next video.
Throughout the task, participants sat on opposite sides of a curtain from each other to pre-
vent them from communicating verbally or through other non-verbal cues (e.g. body language,
facial expressions). Both participants could hear and see the videos on a single screen on the
wall across from them, such that the support receiver and support giver experienced the sti-
muli simultaneously. During the two handholding conditions, they held hands through the
curtain. Thus, participants were aware of the presence of their partner in all four conditions,
but their contact was limited to the two conditions that included touch. Experimenters waited
outside of the testing room to allow participants some privacy, but monitored the session
using Google Hangouts (with participants’ permission) to ensure that the task ran smoothly
and that participants followed instructions. At the end of all four story-videos, participants
completed a brief end-of-study questionnaire.
Exclusion criteria. Participants were not invited to return to the lab for session 2 if the
videos they recorded at session 1 were unusable, either because of technological issues with the
recordings or because they did not follow the video prompt instructions. Ten couples were not
eligible for session 2 for this reason. Two additional couples dropped out of the study after ses-
sion 1 due to scheduling issues. One additional couple was removed from analyses due to tech-
nological issues during session 2, leaving a total of 47 couples in the sample.
Follow-up survey. To examine potential lasting effects of consoling touch on emotional
pain, participants who received support completed a brief exploratory follow-up survey. These
surveys were sent out electronically after we completed in-lab data collection for all of our
dyads. Thus, participants completed the survey between 1.28 and 7.82 months after session 2
(M= 4.01 months). Because we decided to add this follow-up assessment to our investigation
while data collection was ongoing, this portion of the project was an exploratory addition to
the original research plan. These surveys included personalized cues to remind participants of
the emotional stories they shared (e.g. “When you participated in our study you recorded a
video about the loss of your grandmother.”), followed by questions about how much emotional
pain they associated with those memories, including how much pain they experienced at the
time of the event, and how much pain they experience when thinking about the event now (i.e.
lasting emotional pain, see Measures for more detail). We received responses from 79% of our
couples (N= 31).
Emotional pain at first recall. To account for the fact that different memories can elicit
differing amounts of emotional pain, we asked participants to rate the extent to which they felt
different negative emotions on a scale of 1 to 10 during each video recording at session 1.
These negative emotion ratings included “how much pain”, “how hurt”, “how sad”, “how
angry”, “how much stress or anxiety”, and “how emotional” they felt. Cronbach’s alpha for
these items on conditions involving emotional content (negative video 1: α= 0.90; negative
video 2: α= 0.91) indicated a high degree of covariance between the six individual items. Thus,
the items were averaged into a single “emotional pain at first recall” composite for each of the
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stories that we used to control for differences in the relative painfulness of reliving the different
Emotional pain and comfort during the task. To assess how participants felt when
recalling the memories with their partner, and either holding hands or holding a squeeze-ball,
we asked them the same set of negative emotion questions used to create the “emotional pain
at first recall” composite described above. Once again, Cronbach’s alpha indicated a high
degree of covariance between the six individual negative affect items (consoling touch condi-
tion: α= 0.92; emotional pain only condition: α= 0.92). Thus, the items were averaged into a
single “emotional pain during the task” composite for each condition.
Meanwhile, “comfort during the task” was assessed with a single item asking participants
how comforted they felt by their romantic partners as they recalled each memory on a scale of
1 to 10. To test the association between participants’ emotional pain and comfort, we exam-
ined the correlation between these variables in each condition. These variables were correlated
during the consoling touch condition, r= 0.47, p<0.01, and the emotional pain only condi-
tion, r= 0.30, p= 0.04, but not during the touch only condition (i.e. holding hands during a
neutral video), r= 0.14, p= 0.37, or the full control condition (i.e. holding a squeeze-ball dur-
ing a neutral video), r= 0.03, p= 0.83. Since emotional pain and comfort represent related but
distinct concepts, they were maintained as separate outcome variables.
Lasting emotional pain. To assess whether touch shaped the lasting experience of emo-
tional pain, we asked participants the following questions in a follow-up survey on a Likert scale
of 1 to 10: (a) “How much pain did you experience at the time of the event that you described in
that video?” and (b) “When you think about this experience now, how much pain do you expe-
rience?” The first question would serve as a baseline assessment of how participants recalled
feeling at the time that the event originally occurred, and the second question would indicate
how much emotional pain they currently associated with the event (i.e. lasting emotional pain).
Relationship satisfaction. As a measure of relationship satisfaction, participants com-
pleted the 32-item version of the Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI), which includes items such
as “I have a warm and comfortable relationship with my partner” and “I really feel like part of
a team with my partner” . The full scale can be accessed through our OSF repository.
For our analyses, we used the statistical package R (Version 1.2.1335) to create linear mixed
models (LMMs, i.e. multilevel regression) with participant ID as the group level variable, fixed
effects, and random intercepts. We used the “lmer” package in R, which by default uses the Sat-
terthwaite degrees of freedom method and bases confidence intervals and p-values on the t-
distribution. This analytic approach allowed us to account for non-independence of errors due
to our repeated-measures design, which would result in underestimated standard errors and
inflated risk of type I error, while also providing more modeling flexibility than repeated-mea-
sures ANOVA. Since repeated-measures ANOVA only uses list-wise deletion, multilevel
regression is additionally better at accounting for missing data, and therefore has greater statis-
tical power than repeated-measures ANOVA. Data and analysis materials can be accessed
through Open Science Framework upon request to the first author.
As a first step, we conducted exploratory analyses to investigate potential gender differences
in our primary outcome variables (i.e. emotional pain, comfort) by running LMMs with
valence of the videos, touch, gender, and interactions between them as predictor variables.
There were no significant main effects or interactions with gender on any of the outcome vari-
ables (p’s >0.05). Thus, gender was not included in any subsequent models. A full report of
these analyses is included in our S1 File.
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To test how touch shaped emotional outcomes for participants as they recalled the memo-
ries with their partners, we ran two separate LMMs with emotional pain during the task and
how comforted they felt by their partner as the outcome variables. These models included
valence of the videos (negative vs. neutral), touch (hand vs. ball), and the interaction between
them as predictors. To account for potential differences in the emotional intensity of the differ-
ent memories being recalled, we included the measure of emotional pain at first recall
(assessed at session 1) as a covariate in these analyses.
To follow-up on these analyses, we conducted tukey-adjusted pairwise comparisons with a
focus on the contrast between the consoling touch condition and the emotional pain only con-
trol condition (i.e. holding a squeeze-ball during a negative video) to examine the following
hypotheses: (1) participants’ emotional pain will be significantly lower during consoling touch
than emotional pain only, and (2) participants’ comfort will be significantly higher during con-
soling touch than emotional pain only.
Both of these models (assessing the effect of consoling touch on participants’ emotional
pain and comfort) were then re-run with participants’ relationship satisfaction (i.e. CSI) as a
possible moderator of the association between consoling touch and emotional pain/comfort.
These models included valence, touch, relationship satisfaction, and interactions between
them as predictors, and emotional pain at first recall as a covariate. We followed up on signifi-
cant interaction terms that included relationship satisfaction by obtaining estimated marginal
means for our model using the “emmeans” package. This method uses the given model to
approximate the outcome variable at different levels of a continuous moderator, adjusting for
other variables in a model .
To analyze the results of our follow-up survey probing potential lasting effects of consoling
touch, we ran a separate LMM with touch as the predictor and participants’ current emotional
pain when thinking about the event as the outcome variable. To clarify, valence was not
included in this model because the follow-up survey only asked about the two negative emo-
tional memories, not the two neutral memories. To account for potential differences in the
emotional intensity of the different memories being recalled, we included how participants
recalled feeling at the time of the event (assessed at follow-up) as a covariate in this analysis.
We then ran this analysis with relationship satisfaction as a possible moderator of the effect of
touch on current emotional pain. To assess whether the amount of time between the in-lab ses-
sion and the follow-up survey affected the results, we also ran the model with time as an addi-
tional control variable. Finally, since this follow-up study involved a smaller subset of
participants than our primary analyses, we re-ran our primary analyses using this smaller sub-
set of participants to ensure consistency in our results (see S1 File for a full report of these anal-
yses and accompanying figures).
Does consoling touch decrease emotional pain?
Controlling for potential differences in the emotional intensity of the different memories
being recalled (i.e. emotional pain at first recall), b= 0.49, t(175.83) = 9.96, p<.001, 95% CI =
[0.39, 0.59], there was a significant main effect of valence, b= -1.18, t(170.47) = -4.47, p<.001,
95% CI = [-1.69, -0.66], no main effect of touch, b= -0.05, t(136.18) = -0.28, p= 0.78, 95% CI =
[-0.44, 0.33], and no interaction between valence and touch, b= 0.05, t(135.50) = 0.16,
p= 0.87, 95% CI = [-0.50, 0.59], on how much emotional pain participants felt. Participants
felt significantly more emotional pain during the negative videos (M= 4.17, SD = 1.82) than
the neutral videos (M= 1.23, SD = 0.35) (Fig 1A). Contrary to our hypothesis, pairwise com-
parisons indicated no significant difference between how much emotional pain participants
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felt during the consoling touch condition versus the emotional pain only condition, t(136) =
0.28, p= 0.99, 95% CI = [-0.46, 0.57]. When including participants’ relationship satisfaction
scores in the model as a potential moderator, we found that relationship satisfaction did not
moderate the effects of touch, b= 0.01, t(132.48) = 1.17, p= 0.24, 95% CI = [-0.01, 0.04],
valence, b= 0.00, t(132.48) = 0.37, p= 0.71, 95% CI = [-0.02, 0.03], or the interaction between
touch and valence on participants’ emotional pain, b= -0.02, t(132.45) = -1.03, p= 0.31, 95%
CI = [-0.05, 0.01].
Does consoling touch increase feelings of comfort from one’s partner?
Controlling for potential differences in the emotional intensity of the different memories
being recalled (i.e. emotional pain at first recall), b= 0.22, t(177) = 2.09, p= 0.04, 95% CI =
[0.01, 0.44], there was no main effect of valence, b= 0.12, t(160.71) = 0.22, p= 0.83, 95% CI =
[-0.98, 1.23], a significant main effect of touch, b= 2.80, t(131.95) = 6.74, p<.001, 95% CI =
[1.99, 3.61], and no interaction between valence and touch, b= -0.84, t(131.35) = -1.43,
p= 0.15, 95% CI = [-1.98, 0.30], on how comforted participants felt by their partner. Partici-
pants felt more comforted by holding their partners’ hand (M= 5.2, SD = 2.82) than by holding
a squeeze ball (M= 2.77, SD = 2.16) (Fig 1B). Consistent with our hypothesis, pairwise com-
parisons indicated that participants felt significantly more comforted during the consoling
touch condition (M= 5.98, SD = 2.59) than the emotional pain only condition (M= 3.11,
SD = 2.01), t(133) = -6.74, p<.001, 95% CI = [-3.88, -1.72].
When including participants’ relationship satisfaction scores in the model as a potential
moderator, we found that relationship satisfaction did not moderate the association between
valence by touch and comfort, b= -0.05, t(128.22) = -1.42, p= 0.16, 95% CI = [-0.11, 0.02], or
the association between valence and comfort, b= 0.00, t(128.23) = 0.16, p= 0.88, 95% CI =
[-0.04, 0.05], but did significantly moderate the association between touch and comfort,
b= 0.07, t(128.27) = 2.96, p= .004, 95% CI = [0.02, 0.11]. While relationship satisfaction did
not enhance comfort during the squeeze-ball conditions, b= 0.02, t(74.4) = 0.04, p= 0.97, it
did enhance comfort during handholding such that those with high relationship satisfaction
Fig 1. Handholding does not decrease emotional pain, but does increase comfort. Participants’ feelings of
emotional pain (A) and comfort (B) plotted by touch and valence conditions. Participants felt more emotional pain
during the negative videos than the neutral videos, and felt more comforted whenhandholding during the negative
video (i.e. consoling touch) than holding a squeeze-ball during the negative video.
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reported greater comfort during handholding (EMM = 5.97) as compared to those with low
relationship satisfaction (EMM = 4.39), b= 1.59, t(74.6) = 2.82, p= .006 (Fig 2).
Is there a lasting effect of consoling touch on how emotionally painful
events are recalled?
When controlling for emotional pain at the time of the original emotional event (“How much
pain did you experience at the time of the event that you described in that video?”), b= 0.50, t
(54.03) = 5.37, p<.001, 95% CI = [0.32, 0.69], touch significantly predicted current pain about
the emotional memory (“When you think about this experience now, how much pain do you
experience?”), b= -0.58, t(29.02) = -2.24, p= 0.03, 95% CI = [-1.09, -0.07]. Specifically, partici-
pants’ current pain when recalling the past event was lower for the emotionally painful mem-
ory that was previously paired with handholding (M= 3.74, SD = 2.08) as opposed to the
emotionally painful memory that was previously paired with holding a squeeze ball (M= 4.26,
SD = 1.88) (Fig 3). When including relationship satisfaction as a moderator in the model, we
did not find a significant interaction between touch and relationship satisfaction, b= -0.02, t
(28.06) = -0.75, p= 0.46, 95% CI = [-0.06, 0.02].
In addition, when controlling for emotional pain at the time of the original emotional
event, b= 0.50, t(53.38) = 5.33, p<.001, 95% CI = [0.32, 0.69], and the amount of time that
passed between the in-lab manipulation and the completion of the follow-up survey, b= -0.00,
t(28.35) = -0.78, p= 0.44, 95% CI = [-0.01, 0.00], we still found a significant effect of touch on
current emotional pain, b= -0.58, t(29.05) = -2.24, p= 0.03, 95% CI = [-1.09, -0.07]. Further-
more, when using our measure of emotional intensity from the in-lab portion of the study (i.e.
emotional pain at first recall), b= 0.44, t(57.32) = 3.81, p<.001, 95% CI = [0.21, 0.66], instead
of participants’ self-reported emotional pain at the time of the original event assessed at fol-
low-up, we still found a significant effect of touch on current emotional pain, b= -0.59, t
(29.76) = -2.15, p= 0.04 95% CI = [-1.12, -0.05].
A robust body of work demonstrates that consoling touch can reduce the affective experience
of physical pain [10–12], and that physical pain and emotional pain share a common neural
system [22–24, c.f. 25]. Intuitively, then, we may assume that consoling touch reduces subjec-
tive reports of emotional pain. Surprisingly, however, our results indicate that consoling touch
does not decrease the immediate subjective experience of emotional pain relative to holding a
squeeze ball in the presence of one’s romantic partner. But, it does lead individuals to feel
more comforted by their partner than holding a squeeze ball, particularly when they have
greater relationship satisfaction with their partner. This finding is in line with other work sug-
gesting that consoling touch increases subjective feelings of comfort during emotional pain
, and that relationship satisfaction plays an important role in how we feel during consoling
touch . We found no effect of gender on our outcome variables. Given that the majority of
touch studies have only examined female participants [10,12,21], with some work finding
gender differences during the experience of physical pain , further research is needed to
clarify how gender shapes the outcome of consoling touch.
A somewhat surprising finding was that participants’ feelings of emotional pain and com-
fort were positively correlated in the emotional conditions, particularly during consoling
touch. Intuitively, comfort and emotional pain seem to be opposite experiences, such that feel-
ing comforted by a social support figure should result in lower subjective emotional pain.
However, participants in our study reported feeling more comfort from their partners as they
experienced greater emotional pain, suggesting that emotional pain may be to some extent
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Fig 2. Relationship satisfaction moderates the effect of handholding on feelings of comfort. While relationship satisfaction did not enhance comfort
during the squeeze-ball conditions, it did enhance comfort during handholding such that those with high relationship satisfaction had greater comfort
during handholding as compared to those with low relationship satisfaction.
Fig 3. Negative memories that are associated with handholding in the lab are later recalled with lower emotional
pain. Emotional pain when recalling a negative emotional memory at follow-up plotted by touch condition (hand or
ball). Participants felt significantly less pain recalling an emotional memory after that memory was paired in the lab
with handholding as compared to holding a squeeze ball.
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necessary to feel comforted. In other words, people may feel the most comforted when such
comfort is needed (i.e. there is something to comfort them about). This finding is interesting
to consider in terms of how negative emotional experiences are socially regulated, and whether
feelings of comfort simply provide a source of positive affect during a negative emotional expe-
rience, as opposed to decreasing the negative affect associated with that experience.
This set of findings suggests a potentially important difference between emotional pain and
physical pain in terms of how negative experiences are regulated in these two contexts. During
physical pain, it may be adaptive to down-regulate immediate distress, particularly in a lab setting
where the pain is not necessarily helpful in recognizing and escaping some sort of threat. How-
ever, during emotional pain, down-regulating immediate distress may not always be adaptive
since such distress may be stemming from personally meaningful events that need to be processed
and reflected on over time. Indeed, research suggests that individuals often feel motivated to expe-
rience negative emotional states because they are helpful in navigating certain experiences (e.g.
anger when preparing for a conflict, sadness in coping with a loss), even if those emotional states
feel unpleasant [40–42]. Thus, subjective distress may be necessary to some extent to process emo-
tional memories in a way that supports adaptive long-term outcomes and resolution. This idea is
consistent with research demonstrating that exposure to negative emotional stimuli (e.g. spiders
for phobic patients) can be instrumental in reflecting on and changing harmful cognitions associ-
ated with those stimuli over time [43,44]. In other words, we may need to feel certain emotions
in order to process and learn from them, allowing us to heal and regulate over time.
Although preliminary, a particularly interesting finding is that emotional memories that
were paired with touch were later recalled with less emotional pain than those paired with
holding a squeeze-ball. While this finding is novel with regards to the effect of touch on emo-
tional memories, it is interesting in light of other research showing that close others can acti-
vate feelings of safety, which can have lasting effects on fear-learning processes [45,46]. Thus,
it is possible that consoling touch promotes a feeling of safety while recalling emotionally pain-
ful memories, facilitating a form of counter-conditioning that diminishes the negative affect
associated with the painful memory .
Ultimately, this study indicates an interesting distinction between the social regulation of
physical and emotional pain via touch, and suggests that while consoling touch can be helpful
in both contexts, it may be helpful in different ways. Although this study sheds light on the
potential benefits of consoling touch in emotional contexts, it is only a preliminary step in
understanding how consoling touch supports emotional well-being. The potential lasting effect
of consoling touch on the experience of emotional memories particularly warrants future
investigation, and boundaries on this effect should be explored in terms of when and how
changes in emotional pain take place, and whether the experience of such emotional memories
is related to other measures of well-being. Additionally, future work can build on these find-
ings to more specifically target certain mechanisms that might predict the magnitude of these
effects, and explain possible pathways through which consoling touch shapes the immediate
and lasting experience of emotional pain.
We are thankful for thoughtful feedback on study design and results from members of the
UCLA Social and Affective Neuroscience Lab and UCLA Social Cognitive Neuroscience Lab.
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Conceptualization: Razia S. Sahi, Macrina C. Dieffenbach, Shannon M. Burns, Matthew D.
Lieberman, Naomi I. Eisenberger.
Data curation: Razia S. Sahi, Macrina C. Dieffenbach, Siyan Gan, Maya Lee, Laura I. Hazlett.
Formal analysis: Razia S. Sahi, Macrina C. Dieffenbach.
Funding acquisition: Simone G. Shamay-Tsoory, Naomi I. Eisenberger.
Investigation: Razia S. Sahi, Naomi I. Eisenberger.
Methodology: Razia S. Sahi, Naomi I. Eisenberger.
Project administration: Siyan Gan, Maya Lee.
Resources: Shannon M. Burns, Matthew D. Lieberman, Naomi I. Eisenberger.
Software: Shannon M. Burns.
Supervision: Macrina C. Dieffenbach, Naomi I. Eisenberger.
Writing – original draft: Razia S. Sahi, Naomi I. Eisenberger.
Writing – review & editing: Razia S. Sahi, Macrina C. Dieffenbach, Shannon M. Burns, Mat-
thew D. Lieberman, Simone G. Shamay-Tsoory, Naomi I. Eisenberger.
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