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Clarissa E Steffen, Ed.D., N.D, BCC , 2013
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Building a Foundation for Confidence Thinking in the Acquisition and
Development of New Choices
Abstract:
Choice is connected to higher critical thinking involving decision-making and is a skill
that can be developed by building a foundation for confidence thinking. In decision
making the individual gathers input at a sensory and critical thinking level, which may
then be integrated into a plan of action. Choices can require a simple yes/no response
or can be complex and multi-faceted. Not all choices require deep critical processing;
but when faced with decisions that require this; the individual may feel more confident if
they trust their ability to make choices accurately, with confidence, and efficiently. An
assessment to explore confidence thinking from a three-tiered level approach is offered
as a tool to bring definition to an individual’s level of functioning in the critical thinking
skills involved in choice. Level one thinking skills are focused on cognitive-behavioral
skills development; level two at the development of positive psychology skills, and level
three at the development of conscious thinking at a transcendent level. This
assessment tool is at a preliminary stage and will require further development to bring
reliability and validity, but currently offers a 150 question test that taps into nine traits
related to levels 1-3 confidence thinking that is involved in the development of critical
thinking skills related to choice. The model Cognitions of Choice© offers twenty-four
critical thinking skills that are connected to the development of choice. The levels
approach is meant to assist the individual in moving into deeper critical thinking levels
by neutralizing negative thinking patterns, reprogram neural hotwiring and construct
healthier social perceptions and life choices.
Introduction:
Choices can require a simple yes/no response or be complex and multifaceted. For
some individuals and for anyone in certain situations even the simplest choice can be
difficult. Choice is connected to a larger domain-making of behavioral skills related to
decision-making. With this assessment confidence thinking is defined by nine separate
traits that are critical thinking skills that allow people to make choices that may be
fundamentally necessary in the development of choice. The nine traits are factored into
three levels that differentiate the level of skill and confidence to make choices. While it
is true people can have more or less confidence in different areas of their life; this
assessment provides a global view at how one goes about making choices to provide
the individual a snapshot of their skills to determine where there may be room for
growth and development in the development of confidence for choice-making. The
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three levels model provides the individual feedback and a place to begin working on
improving skills in confidence levels for making choices.
The nine traits are sub-divided into three categories that define the level of
confidence thinking in choice making to begin exploration in defining the individual’s
current level of functioning. Each of these nine domains fall under a broader category
of decision-making (Levels 1-3) used to examine the development of confidence skills
for choice-making.
Levels of Choice Thinking:
Let’s take a look at how gathering this information may be useful in developing
confidence for choice making.
Decision-Making: A critical thinking skill in which an individual gathers input at a
sensory and critical thinking level which is integrated to create a decision or plan
of action, i.e. in this case “confidence for choice making.”
The Levels of Choice involves a step process toward deeper critical thinking that
are social memories, thoughts, feelings, behaviors and underlying beliefs that can be
learned or are the result of feedback and perceptions. Thoughts and feelings
(Cognitions) influence underlying beliefs and behavioral choices. It is these cognitions
that drive the belief structures that influence beliefs and behaviors; therefore, the
interest in exploring the individual’s “cognition of choice.” These choices are made from
a composite of life experiences the individual has integrated into their definition of self or
identity. Some choices are healthy others may be unhealthy and can influence our
perception of self, empowerment, and view of our position in the world.
Because choices are influenced by learning and a set of responses we store in our
memory bank; we can learn new responses and develop skills to create new choices.
Many choices occur in response to automatic thinking. If the individual’s automatic
thoughts are negative or unhealthy, it will limit their available options to choose and
create a more satisfying response. As the individual gains more freedom in their ability
to make choices and knows more about personal limits and boundaries; choice can be
a more readily accessible skill. When the individual becomes more familiar with the
manner in which they engage in choice, make-decisions, process information and
create options they have a wider range of responses available to them. In time, the
individual can be assisted in experiencing a higher level of comfort and move away from
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a mechanical automatic response to choices that involve critical thinking at a conscious
level. To accomplish this, the individual may require the assistance of a counselor or
therapist to provide the necessary feedback to challenge inaccurate, limiting, or
unhealthy perceptions of self.
Not all choices require deep critical processing; but when faced with decisions that
require this; the individual will feel more confident if they trust their ability to make
choices accurately, with confidence, and efficiently.
Sometimes in life we are over-whelmed by having too many available choices.
Having the ability to discern what may lead toward results that yield options that are
satisfying, results in safety, or create desirable outcomes is optimal. Some choices
pose dilemmas that may involve moral decision-making or tap into aspirational values
that allow the individual to face a challenge or stretch to grow and transcend beyond the
mundane. Choice at this level may exist at a more pure conscious level and afford a
higher degree of freedom, and emotional intelligence.
Admittedly, no one assessment can possibly measure and define individual
confidence in choice-making. This is offered to provide the individual with a tool to better
understand their ability to engage in choice with confidence, assess their level of
decision-making with choice, and set goals for developing critical thinking skills that
open the door for them to experience more freedom to choose at a conscious level.
Although categories may never truly be entirely discrete; the levels are presented in this
manner for didactic purposes and for ease of teaching the concepts that will allow the
individual to learn or aspire to develop the skill set in each category.
Creating Confidence Thinking Assessment Purpose: The acquisition of critical
thinking and decision-making skills to assist in the generation, and development
of confidence within making new choices.
Level 1: Choices at this level focus on specific cognitive-behavioral skills. This
option is to move from fear-driven response patterns toward assertive engagement
which result in congruency between thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and underlying belief
structures. When there is congruency the pathway offers a more open channel and less
anxiety, or stress may be experience in choice-making.
Level 2: As the individual moves away from automatic negative response patterns
they engage with a health and wellness perspective or positive psychological thought
process. The goal in this level is to develop an optimistic viewpoint and see oneself as
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having options that create desirable outcomes. Moving toward empowerment of self
and others in a healthy manner promotes a wellness mentality. Ultimately, as the
individual gains more freedom to choose; a higher level of skill and confidence and trust
in their ability to make choices will emerge and they will align with empowerment and
replace automatic thought patterns that may be self-destructive or unhealthy. Optimally,
this new found positive perspective is meant to reduce anxiety or stress and support a
congruent perception within thoughts, feelings, behaviors and underlying beliefs that
they have acquired in working through Level 1 skills development of confidence
thinking. The goal in Level 2 is to build resiliency in the individual to allow them to
experience movement in creating choice at a conscious level. In moving out of feeling
trapped into making automatic responses (challenged at Level 1), they are guided
toward creating choices at will that enable them to experience positive psychological
thoughts that fortify a healthy self-identity and move toward a higher degree of
confidence with respect for life.
Level 3: This involves aspirational goals for living at a level that transcends the
mundane. Often in life we are faced with challenges that involve existential themes, i.e.
love/hate; life/death, etc. Although our day to day existence may not always present
these themes so apparently; they exist in our thoughts at an unconscious level and may
color our experiences and responses to choice. In moving toward relying on higher
level critical thinking the individual may experience some initial increase in anxiety;
therefore, support from a trusted therapist or counselor would be beneficial. The
challenge at this level is to stretch the boundaries and expand thinking to go outside the
box and to aspire toward living on a higher plane. In our individualistic Westernized
culture we expect many freedoms that do not always translate into a collective
consciousness of respect for all living things.
Societal values may impose judgments or perceptions that result in “us/them”
thinking that does not necessarily translate into viewing all living creatures as worthy of
dignity. Finally the integration of living with the consciousness of dignity and respect for
all creates integrity that guides the individual toward choice that transcends mechanistic
or automatic thoughts, goes beyond the self-concept of empowerment which is a
necessary building block to the development of higher consciousness and transcendent
thinking.
The Levels Approach: Each of the lower Levels 1 & 2 is a fundamental building
block toward Level 3. In therapy or counseling the goal may focus on development of
Level 1 or 2 as the end objective. Not all individuals would desire to work on the
development of Level 3 confidence/choice/critical thinking. Not all life choices require
Level 2 or Level 3 thinking skills in order to make a healthy choice with confidence.
Regardless, having an understanding or framework for choice development may be a
healthy life-skill. Accessing critical thinking allows a wider range of response, and a
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broader locus of control. Knowing how to make choices, and applying basic decision
making surrounding who, what, where, when, and why can prevent unwanted life
experiences from occurring. Knowing when to act and make a choice (timing) can be
the difference between having a desired opportunity or not available to you. The more
an individual is armed with information about their choice making ability, and they
practice and rehearse the skills of choice making, the more confident they will become
and the better they will be at making choices. Knowing when to pull back can prevent
someone from becoming over-whelmed. We are often bombarded by choices; and
having a clear sense of owns ability may assist in eliminating unwanted stress or
anxiety. Having a model to apply in situations that evoke choice making may assist the
individual in assessing the situation, consider the required level of choice, and
determine whether or not a decision of choice needs to be made.
Recognizing that not any one model is perfect and imposes inherent limits will allow
for an honest and accurate assessment of this instrument. It is only a tool, and one
means within the experience of therapy or counseling. The individual may gather more
self-information. When recognized within the limits that are present; it can be a valuable
teaching too to assist the individual in self-development of the skills of confidence,
positive perceptions, and conscious thinking to make healthy life choices and promote a
wellness mentality. As a foundational model for the development of critical thinking
skills for confidence in choice making it explores the individual’s cognitions of choice,
how they connect to choice at a personal level, and see themselves in their ability to
apply choice with confidence. It is a fluid model that moves from a mechanistic view of
self to a highly conscious and transcendent view. This model is based in the thinking
that since unhealthy thoughts and behaviors can be learned; they can unlearned. It
offers a hopeful approach to treatment that allows and promotes the individual to
engage, acquire new skills and thinking to be applied in a variety of settings, and
experiences so that it will generalize and be maintained at the newly acquired level of
consciousness in choice and decision-making.
Many times when client or patients came into treatment they do not recognize they
have options or the ability to choose. Sometimes they simply lack the skills necessary
to make a choice. This assessment will provide them a starting place to work with their
therapist, or counselor. Knowing there is a solution and a pathway to learn a skill or set
of skills that will address an identified problem can provide comfort. Recognition and
validation from a trusted therapist or counselor for effort to change unhealthy behaviors
can spur motivation to learn and change unhealthy patterns of behavior. As stated, this
is a foundational model that provides three tiers or levels of critical thinking for
confidence thinking in choice-making that is viewed under the broader umbrella of
decision-making. The nine traits; three at each level ascribe factors that are used to
define each level of critical thinking to offer better understanding and bring definition to
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, 2013
their skill in choice making. Although there may be many factors that align with each
level of
critical thinking in the development of confidence in making choices these
variables have been carefully chosen as they are considered the primary focus within
each level of choice. Limiting each level to three conceptual traits assist in teaching
these c
oncepts to the individual that will promote ease of understanding in committing
the concept to memory, and applying these concepts to everyday life experiences.
Choice is aligned with freedom which is highly valued in Western culture. When an
individual has freedom to choose they are less likely to experience anxiety or
depressive symptoms. Trusting one’s skill and ability to choose may result in a higher
l
evel of confidence. Accessing critical thinking generates a wider range of choices
which
is the stated intent or purpose
of skills to generate
confidence in the development of
Levels
Acquisition of Decision
Thinking for New Choices
Conscious Thinking
Positive Psychology
Skills Development
, 2013
their skill in choice making. Although there may be many factors that align with each
critical thinking in the development of confidence in making choices these
variables have been carefully chosen as they are considered the primary focus within
each level of choice. Limiting each level to three conceptual traits assist in teaching
oncepts to the individual that will promote ease of understanding in committing
the concept to memory, and applying these concepts to everyday life experiences.
Choice is aligned with freedom which is highly valued in Western culture. When an
individual has freedom to choose they are less likely to experience anxiety or
depressive symptoms. Trusting one’s skill and ability to choose may result in a higher
evel of confidence. Accessing critical thinking generates a wider range of choices
is the stated intent or purpose
of this assessment tool
along with the acquisition
confidence in the development of
new life-choices.
Acquisition of Decision
-Making S
kills to Improve Confidence
Thinking for New Choices
Level 3
Conscious Thinking
Level 2
Positive Psychology
Level 1
Skills Development
•
Existential
•
Tanscendent
• Positive
Thoughts
•
Perceptions
• Cognitive
•
Behavioral
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their skill in choice making. Although there may be many factors that align with each
critical thinking in the development of confidence in making choices these
variables have been carefully chosen as they are considered the primary focus within
each level of choice. Limiting each level to three conceptual traits assist in teaching
oncepts to the individual that will promote ease of understanding in committing
the concept to memory, and applying these concepts to everyday life experiences.
Choice is aligned with freedom which is highly valued in Western culture. When an
individual has freedom to choose they are less likely to experience anxiety or
depressive symptoms. Trusting one’s skill and ability to choose may result in a higher
evel of confidence. Accessing critical thinking generates a wider range of choices
along with the acquisition
kills to Improve Confidence
Existential
Tanscendent
Perceptions
Behavioral
Clarissa E Steffen, Ed.D., N.D, BCC
, 2013
Traits
and Critical Thinking Skills
Confidence:
Trait theory suggests that each individual possess a combination of traits that make
up their personality which uniquely defines them.
development of personality and are considered to remain constant; others are
secondary an
d a reaction to a situation. Central Traits can be defined as habitual
patterns of behavior, thought, and emotion. The age old nature
persists in questioning whether or not biology or environment more strongly influences
our development.
An individual may possess the traits of
ability to exhibit
confidence, but not have developed a high degree of confidence due to
environmental factors, learning opportunity, trauma events, loss, abuse, or any number
of situation
s that may have interfered with the development and maintenance of critical
thinking skills that support healthy choice.
presented in a three levels approach to correct the neural programming that interferes
wi
th the utilization of higher critical thinking skills that result in healthy choice or decision
making skills. The
creating confidence thinking assessment
individual’s relationship to choice making to provide a window as to wher
confidence thinking skills development.
Foundational Traits
for
Level 1
•Fear Reduction
•Assertion
•Congruency
•
Skills Development/Working Through Unconscious Messages
Level 2
•Optimism
•Empowerment
•Resiliency
•
Development of Positive Psychology/Working Through the Meta Messages
Level 3
•Integrity
•Dignity
•Respect
•
Conscious Thinking/Mindfulness and Integration
, 2013
and Critical Thinking Skills
Developmental
Model in Building
Trait theory suggests that each individual possess a combination of traits that make
up their personality which uniquely defines them.
Some traits are
central
development of personality and are considered to remain constant; others are
d a reaction to a situation. Central Traits can be defined as habitual
patterns of behavior, thought, and emotion. The age old nature
-
nurture argument
persists in questioning whether or not biology or environment more strongly influences
An individual may possess the traits of
or disposition toward the
confidence, but not have developed a high degree of confidence due to
environmental factors, learning opportunity, trauma events, loss, abuse, or any number
s that may have interfered with the development and maintenance of critical
thinking skills that support healthy choice.
Cognitions of Choice offers a model that is
presented in a three levels approach to correct the neural programming that interferes
th the utilization of higher critical thinking skills that result in healthy choice or decision
creating confidence thinking assessment
is designed to analyze the
individual’s relationship to choice making to provide a window as to wher
e to begin
confidence thinking skills development.
for
Confidence Thinking:
Critical Thinking in the
Development of Choice
Skills Development/Working Through Unconscious Messages
Development of Positive Psychology/Working Through the Meta Messages
Conscious Thinking/Mindfulness and Integration
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Model in Building
Trait theory suggests that each individual possess a combination of traits that make
central
to the
development of personality and are considered to remain constant; others are
d a reaction to a situation. Central Traits can be defined as habitual
nurture argument
persists in questioning whether or not biology or environment more strongly influences
or disposition toward the
confidence, but not have developed a high degree of confidence due to
environmental factors, learning opportunity, trauma events, loss, abuse, or any number
s that may have interfered with the development and maintenance of critical
Cognitions of Choice offers a model that is
presented in a three levels approach to correct the neural programming that interferes
th the utilization of higher critical thinking skills that result in healthy choice or decision
is designed to analyze the
e to begin
Critical Thinking in the
Development of Positive Psychology/Working Through the Meta Messages
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COGNITIONS OF CHOICE (COC): PHILOSOPHY FOR LIVING
Cognitions of Choice (COC) is a compliment to Habits of Mind.* COC offers a
network of neural programming that engages self-dialog between automatic thinking,
critical thinking, mindfulness, and integrated life choices. It evokes an active process of
resiliency and hopefulness for living in the present with a healthy respect for future
orientation and a transcendent wellness perspective.
Cognitions of Choice are used to neutralize negative self-defeating cognitions that
interfere with self-harmony and creating balanced life choices. These cognitions not
only offer patterns of thinking that may be deeply programmed or engrained at the level
of core identity, but also offer intuitive guideposts for making healthy life choices. If they
are not already present within the parameters of thought, with practice they can be
taught at varying levels of cognition and become a part of the integrated life filter or
functional force as a means of offering psychological immunity.
Cognitions: Are not just the thoughts we hold, but incorporate the actions we take
based upon these patterns of thinking. Cognitions connect to our values and
personality traits that create our neural hotwiring or programming that construct our
social perceptions and life choices. Our cognitions guide our habits of being and life
philosophy.
Unconscious (automatic thought)
Meta (Thoughts about thinking)
Conscious or Mindfulness
Integrated or Authentic Perception
Harmonious Balance: Life is constantly changing and creating obstacles, challenges,
or directional changes that we may or may not be prepared to face. It is essential to
focus on establishing a core center that stems from our functional force that allows us
zone awareness and holistic immunity from imbalance or trauma.
Grounding
Consciousness/Mindfulness
Integral
Effortless/Authentic Resonance or Oneness
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Golden Rule: Is a simple reminder of the importance of life protection and reciprocal
respect. It is a relational rule that reinforces Integrated Cognition or Harmonious life
balance.
Don’t Hurt Yourself
Don’t Let Anyone Hurt You
Don’t Hurt Anyone Else
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, 2013
Cognitions of Choice~ Philosophy for Living
Cognition
Image
Consider Options
Create
Alternatives
Discernment
Altru
ism
Positive Mental
Attitude
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Cognitions of Choice~ Philosophy for Living
Motto
Aspirational
Guidepost
Motto:
There are
always
choices!
Slow down and
review, while
exploring
possibilities
Motto:
Let’s see
another
way I can
look at this!
You can always
create a plan B,
and think
ahead, and
even in life
situations where
you can’t you
still have
choices
Motto:
I
can
discriminate
between
healthy and
unhealthy
choices
Remain true to
your values and
respect
personal
boundaries for
yourself and
others
Motto:
I am giving
back
because I
am grateful!
It is not about
seeing others
as less
fortunate; it
involves
understanding
loss and trauma
can happen to
anyone
Motto:
Things
have a way
of working
out !
Life is an
exceptional gift
to be
appreciated at
all levels of
functioning
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Disposition
I present
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Cultural
Appreciation
Motto:
Aesthetics
are present
in all
aspects of
life
Appreciate the
differences
because that is
where real
natural beauty
exists
Open
Communication
Motto:
I want to
connect to
you!
Listening occurs
only when we
are present and
receptive,
without this no
intimacy occurs
Commitment
Motto:
I am here
for the long
haul!
Being
connected
allows us to
prevent isolation
and anxiety,
and is an
opportunity to
validate one
another
Congruency &
Compatibility
Motto:
Things
need to fit
to maintain
wellness
Complimentary
views or
perspectives
can exist within
us and between
others, it
creates
harmony
Transcendence
Motto:
I can see
the future!
We need to live
in the present
while being
mindful of the
future; without
this we can
become
vulnerable to
discouragement
or despair
Clarissa E Steffen, Ed.D., N.D, BCC , 2013
12
Future Orientation
Motto:
I am
hopeful!
Passing the
baton allows the
rely to occur
between
generations and
creates
continuity in life
Seeking
Solutions
Motto:
I
Investigate
life with an
open mind
and heart
Investigation
with an open
mind and heart
goes beyond
simple problem
solving, it
involves
relational joining
Respect for
Equality
Motto:
We
all do the
best we can
and have
something
to offer
We don’t all
have the same
abilities or gifts
but on a human
level we all
matter and
contribute to life
Integrity
Motto:
I will
do the best
I am able
and respect
all living
creatures ~
I give you
my word!
Being authentic
and
representing
what you
communicate to
others with
consistency
offers a solid
foundation
Sharing
Motto:
I have more
than
enough!
One of the
greatest joys is
giving to others
willingly and not
expecting
anything in
return
Reciprocal Joy
Motto:
We matter
to each-
other!
Learning to
appreciate
another beyond
our flaws is a
reason to
celebrate
Clarissa E Steffen, Ed.D., N.D, BCC , 2013
13
Protective Bond
Motto:
I am
there for
you with
love,
acceptance,
and
forgiveness
I will nurture you
and release
when you
communicate
you are ready to
go forward
Courageous Acts
Motto:
I will take a
reasonable
risk!
We all have
limitations
because moving
forward and
being able to
ask for help
when needed
allows us to live
a successful life
Harmonious
Balance
Motto:
I live
life in
balance
Life will through
us curve balls
and we can feel
off balance, but
protecting our
core allows us
holistic wellness
Whimsical
Spontaneity
Motto:
Life
is fun~
Let’s see
what
happens
We need to
learn to laugh at
ourselves, and
enjoy others
who grow from
doing the same
Fearless
Conviction
Motto:
I am ready!
Fearlessness is
being committed
to trying and
being in a state
of readiness to
learn
Clarissa E Steffen, Ed.D., N.D, BCC , 2013
14
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Charisma
Motto:
My
authentic
self is the
best version
of me!
Accepting
ourselves,
forgiving our
limitations, and
loving ourselves
provides us with
a magnet that
will draw others
who focus on
living in
wellness toward
us
Self
-
Encouragement
Motto:
I got this!
The world
doesn’t always
offer ready-
made
encouragement
or self-
empowerment,
we have to
learn how to
find it to
progress and
stay well
Self
-
Respect
Motto:
It is my
time!
For everything
there is a
season and
understanding
that we are
worthy and
deserving
allows us to live
authentically