Social Media and Divorce Case Study of Dutse

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IOSR Journal Of Humanities And Social Science (IOSR-JHSS)
Volume 20, Issue 5, Ver. II (May. 2015), PP 54-59
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Social Media and Divorce Case Study of Dutse L.G.A.
Jigawa State
1 Saleh, M. and 2 Mukhtar, J. I.
1,2, sociology Department, Faculty Of Arts And Social Sciences,Federal University Dutse, Pmb 7156 Jigawa
State, Nigeria
Abstract: This paper examined the impact of social media on marital relationship. Specifically, it aims at
studying how social media can lead to divorce among couples. Using stratified random sampling technique, a
structured questionnaire was distributed to 140 respondents as well as interview with two more respondents.
The data collected from the surveys were presented in a frequency distribution table with simple percentage.
Qualitative method was also employed to reflect the data sourced from interview. The study found that, more
women are subscribing to the social media and irrespective of sex differences, social media users are spending
more time using the social network sites. Facebook is the most frequently used social network site in the study
area. Moreover, majority of the respondents believed social media can lead to infidelity and all of them agreed
it can lead to divorce. The paper suggests that, people should be wary of how they utilize the social media, who
they interact with in social media platform, and what they post or share. New human invention is not entirely
positive; society should therefore check the possible damages it can cause to our collective morality. Society can
achieve this by orientating young people and adults alike on proper social media usage.
Keywords: Communication, divorce, infidelity, social media, social network sites
I. Introduction
The information revolution is both a blessing and a vice to the modern man and woman alike. One
remarkable aspect of the revolution is not just the bombardment of news but also drastic transformation of social
network. In some recent decades, the term social network was merely a form of social connectedness between
individuals by virtue of physical interaction and communication. With the emergence of social media,
electronic-based forums are created, discovery of new information and new acquaintances are enhanced,
reconnection with lost friends is facilitated, and communication by people from around the world has become
easier. And it had been interestingly found that, before the year 2012, in every four people worldwide, one uses
social network sites to communicate and share ideas with one another (Seopressor, 2014).
This is fascinating because with the widespread of internet usage around the world, social media have
become important platforms for establishing intellectual connections, social movements’ outreaches, awareness
creation, sharing political views and/or interest. In addition, the social media websites are also strategic for
engagement of businesses with customers. Besides all these functions, social media are threats to families and
moral values. Marriage, an institution that surmounts interpersonal interaction and attraction, is very important
topic of sociological concern. People who became friends through social media can subsequently be declared as
husband and wife, but the marriage is becoming more vulnerable to threats posed by the social media. In other
words, Social media connect individuals who found themselves mutually compatible and ultimately become
spouses. Just like they build homes, social media equally break families.
Because of the possible damages that divorce can cause, social media should be used as a avenue for
warning against marriage dissolution rather than instigating more spousal disputes. Divorce is one of the most
often mentioned major life events (Gähler, 1998) and can cause major stress and upheaval for many, and a sense
of relief and opportunity for personal growth for others. It is no wonder that divorce and family instability have
attracted wide attention among social scientists (Harkonen, 2013). With so many people online and connecting
in new ways, it’s hard to predict just how far this problem will go before it’s routed (Stetzer, 2014).
This paper aims at examining the contribution of social media increase in divorce among couples. Like
other human inventions, social media has both the good and bad sides. As one of the emerging negative roles,
the relationship between social media and divorce would be brought to empirical appraisal in this study.
Suggestions will also be made at the tail end of the paper on how to properly utilize social media lest any
possible termination of marital union at any home due to social media.
Statement of the Problem
The evolution of social network sites (SNSs) and their widespread usages have provided
communication and psychology researchers with an avenue to investigate, more than ever, computer mediated

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communication. As a result, scholars have compiled a body of research that has systematically investigated the
dynamic, complex interactions between SNS use, health, and romantic relationship outcomes. In fact, several
studies have found that Facebook-induced jealousy, partner surveillance, posting ambiguous information,
compulsive Internet use, and online portrayal of intimate relationships which could be damaging to romantic
relationships. (Clayton,2014).
Social media have become a necessary evil today, with lots of harm but a trend cannot be done without.
With Facebook having the greatest number of users (over 900 million) worldwide (2014), one-third of females
aged 18-34 check Facebook when they first wake up, even before going to the bathroom. In the U.S. alone,
Facebook has been linked to 66 percent of divorces and the 81 percent of the nation’s top divorce lawyers
claiming clients have cited using social networks as damning evidence against their spouses in the past five
years (Abramovich, 2013). Another study released July 2014, analyzed the relationship between social media
platforms, marriage satisfaction, and divorce found that there is a link between Facebook and increasing divorce
rates (Snider, 2014).
The above facts and figures are telling the world that, social media have effect on marital instability
and destroy family. The facts also showed that, Facebook is the busiest social network sites. It is not surprising
that Nigerian people subscribe and log on to the Facebook more than they do to the other social network sites.
With the current wave of the social media subscription, the paper therefore seeks to draw attention of the people,
especially young people who have been reported to be more tech savvy (very proficient) in using ICTs in
general, and social media in particular (Bashir, 2013), to make cautious use of such sites for education,
entertainment, awareness creation, positive relationship and spread the message of peace and unity across the
not spousal cheating and evil. Uthaymin (2011) also warned the youth against non judicious utilization of time.
If social media is to be regarded as something beneficial to the society, it must be used be used wisely and in
productive manner not on flirting and obscenity.
Definition of Concepts
Social media, according to Merriam Webster Dictionary (2014) referred to as electronic
communication (as Web sites for social networking and micro-blogging) through which users create online
communities to share information, ideas, personal messages, and other content (as videos).
It is worth noting that, social media has evolved and become more complex whereby no single concept
can represent the variety of services it enhances. As a result, communication scholars developed a systematic
typology so that each social network site can neatly fall under one category or the other. Grahl (2014) identified
six (6) types of social media: 1) social networks, 2)bookmarking sites, 3)social news, 4)media sharing, 5)micro-
blogging, 6)blog comments and forums. Divorce is the termination marital union. From the legal point of view,
divorce is defined as “the legal separation of man and wife, effected, for cause, by the judgment of a court, and
either totally dissolving the marriage relation, or suspending its effects so far as concerns the cohabitation of the
parties (The Law Dictionary,2014).
II. Methods And Tools
Because the study is on social media and divorce, the target population consists of the entire male and
female users of the social media in the study area (Dutse L.G.A.) that are married and those who once were
married but are presently not living with the partner due to divorce or death (widow/widower). However, the
study is also beneficial to young people who are the future husbands and wives, but they are not part of the
study population.
From the entire population, a sample of 142 is selected. Out of the 142 respondents, 140 were given
structured questionnaires. The questionnaire inquired on issues demographic characteristics, type of social
network site(s) used, intensity or frequency of the usage, the gender category that has highest share among
respondent’s friends in the social media, relationship problem due to social media usage, respondent’s
perception on social media and infidelity and possibility for social media can lead to divorce. The sampling
technique used was stratified random sampling method because there are areas with preponderance of educated
people such as Yadi/Gida Dubu, Takur site/Godiya Miyetti, Garu, Zai,Bokoto, danmasara, and Fatara. These
areas usurped more of the respondents; therefore the stratification is on the literacy level not on the basis of
population size of a given area. And it descended based on the same criteria. For example, 12 questionnaires
were administered in the perceived highest educated area, Takur site/Godiya Miyetti, because majority of the
residents in the area are civil servants and by implication active social network sites’ users are found there. The
area with least literacy level is Chai-Chai, where only two (2) questionnaires were administered.
The remaining two respondents were interviewed an open-ended questions. The instruments of the data
collected are therefore mixed modes of inquiry rather than qualitative or quantitative alone. This would be
reflected in the presentation and interpretation of the result. Another source of the data in this study is secondary
source-journals, internet sources and text books.

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III. Results
Here, the outcomes of the survey in this study are to be presented. But out of the 140 questionnaires
being distributed, 125 were retrieved and only 119 are useful for they are legible and correctly filled (except
where option is given). Thus, the result is built on the available and useful questionnaires (N=119).
Table 1: Respondents’ gender distribution (N=119)
Sex
Frequency
Percentage
Male
49
41.2
Female
70
58.8
Total
119
100.0
Source: Field Survey, 2014
Table 2: Types of social network site(s) used by the respondents (N=119)
Type of social network site
Frequency
Percentage
Facebook
58
49
Twitter
-
-
Wattsapp
20
17
2go
-
-
Vadoo
-
-
Two or more
41
34
Total
119
100.0
Source: Field Survey, 2014
Table 3: Distribution of frequency on respondents’ log in to social media (N=119)
Time
Frequency
Percentage
Once a day
69
58
Two times a day
22
18.5
One time in a week
8
6.7
Two times in a week
20
16.8
Two times in a month
-
-
Once in a year
-
-
Total
119
100.0
Source: Field Survey, 2014
Table 4: Whether or a respondent’s spouse uses social media (N=119)
Respond
Frequency
Percentage
Yes
59
49.6
No
60
50.4
Total
119
100.0
Source: Field Survey, 2014
Table 5: Whether a respondent ever had a relationship problem because of social media (N=119)
Response
Frequency
Percentage
Yes
20
16.8
No
99
83.2
Total
119
100.0
Source: Field Survey, 2014
Table 6: Respondent’s perception of whether social media usage can lead to infidelity (N=119)
Can it lead to infidelity
Frequency
Percentage
Yes
94
79
No
25
21
Total
119
100.0
Source: Field Survey, 2014
Table 7: Respondents’ opinions on whether social media lead to divorce (N=119)
Can social media lead to divorce?
Frequency
Percentage
Yes
119
100
No
0
0
Total
119
100.0
Source: Field Survey 2014
In addition, respondents were asked of the gender category that has the highest share among their social
network site friends. It was found that, 34 males (28.6% of the total sampled and 69% of the number of males in
the total sample) have more male friends than females. 15 male respondents (12.6% of the total sample and 31%

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of the number of males in the total sample) have more female friends than male in the social media. From the
female respondents also, 33 respondents (27.7% of the total sampled and 47% of the number of females in the
total sample) have more male friends than their female counterparts. So also, 37 female respondents (31.1% of
the total sampled and 53% of the number of female within the total sample) have more female friends than
males. During the conduct of interview, the first and second respondents were asked on the experience they
had because of the social media usage. Each of them was asked whether social media can lead to spousal
cheating or infidelity. However, the interviews took place at different places and times, both reflected similar
responses (Yes!). The first responded confessed how the use of social media connected him to one lady with
whom he never came in physical contact, unless by phone contact, and they began to love each other while, it
was few weeks to his marriage. The respondent said,
I met a woman whom I never seen or known before. But because of the frequency of our chat and
exchange of mails, I began to develop interest in her, although my wedding was around the corner as at then.
We even began to communicate on phone and we have been communicating till her marriage few months ago…
This happens, in fact, my friend a woman via social network site contacts. It depends on your intention.
Although, the other respondent believes social media can lead to divorce, he said, “I do not have any
chaos at home because of social media. I have time for the Facebook and time for my wife also”.
IV. Discussions
The results of the study feed the research with important information. Beginning from the respondents’
gender in Table 1 it surprisingly represents an irony of our society. Our society is known to be patriarchal or
male dominated society, but the finding shows that female outnumbered the male here, where female
respondents account for 70 (58.8%) and male respondents 49(49.2%).
Coming to the Table 2, Facebook, like in other societies, is the most patronized social network sites in
the study area and probably in the whole world. Facebook has 58(49%), Wattsapp 20(17%), while 2go, twitter
and vadoo had zeroes. But there are respondents that subscribed to more than one social media sites and they
took the rest of the figures, i.e. 41(34%).
The Table 3 represented the frequency of the respondent’s log in to the social network site. This is
important because it shows how active social media user is different from the non-active. And the intensity of
loggin into the sites determines the possibility for domestic crisis as a user gives little or no attention to the
partner’s rights. Here, those that log in once a day are 69(58%). Those that log in twice a day account for 22
(18.5%), weekly log in was 8(6.7%), twice a week has 20(16.8%), monthly logging and one time in a year had
nil. This implies that, people are increasingly devoting much of their times on social media, hence active social
media usage was ranked highest. Clayton (2014) cautions that, while social network sites may be beneficial in
helping users keep in touch with others, research has shown that excessive social network sites use can be
detrimental to romantic relationships. Relationships, both personal and impersonal, are social in nature, and
therefore involve one’s social networks. Since Twitter and Facebook use maps on to one’s social networks it has
potential role in the process of relationship maintenance and termination seems quite likely (Tong 2013).
Table 4 showed the responses of the sampled elements on whether or not their spouse subscribed to any
social network site. Out of the 119 respondents, the partners of 59 (49.6%) of them are using the social media.
Those whose partners are not using social media were 60 (50.4%).
In the Table 5, we had seen how some of the respondents faced relationship problems because of the
social media usage. As indicated on the table, very few of them, 20 (16.8%) had familial crisis because of social
media. The vast majority of the respondents, 99(83.2%) did not have any relationship problem due to the social
media. We can discern that, if people can use the social media cautiously, they may not face any conflict.
Failure to that can cause a person a great cost, lost of reputation and marital union. The U.S. Census shows that
the divorce rate in 2008 was 5.2 persons per 1,000 people, aged 15 to 64 years. This was down from the rates of
6.2 in 2000 and 7.2 in 1990. The divorce rate may have dipped in the past few decades, but drama still exists in
the courtroom. Now, social media and web information has become a factor in many divorce cases, with
lawyers taking the online evidence to support their clients (Landers, 2013).
As table 6 shows, 94 (79%) of the respondents agreed that social media can lead to infidelity in
marriage, while 25 (21%) believed that it will not. The issue of infidelity on social media is worrisome, because
individuals with propensity to infidelity might have no opportunity to cheat before the emergence of these
modern communication technologies. With the advent of the social media, connections of like minds become
very easy. According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML), 81% of its members have
used evidence plucked from social networking sites, including Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, YouTube, and
LinkedIn, in the past five years. The AAML has a membership of 1,600 matrimonial attorneys throughout the
country. “Sometimes a person will discover a spouse’s infidelity through a Facebook posting,” says Ken
Altshuler, president of the AAML. “More commonly, lawyers can gather evidence from people who post

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information on their Facebook page concerning their income and employment, lifestyle activities, or a change in
relationship status.”Web information is used in court, particularly if it shows that one party is seeking out
companionship while still married, according to Dickey.
The last table (table 7), the study found that, all of the respondents agreed that social media can lead to
divorce. There is no established causality (on the direct impact of social media on divorce), but the outcome
supported the study as people generally believed that, there is relationship between the two variables.
In addition, the remarks made by the first respondent who was subjected to interview indicated that
infidelity can creep into the social media users’ romantic relationships. Notwithstanding, people shall not turn a
blind eyes on the positive sides of the social networks in our socio-economic and political lives. Social media is
really fascinating in the contemporary era for many reasons. A Divorce Financial Strategist, Jeff Landers states
that: I am seeing more and more that not only can social networks and digital communications contribute to
the breakup of a marriage, they can have unforeseen consequences in divorce settlement negotiations, as well.
Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, Instagram and other social and professional networking websites and smartphone
applications have become important part of how people interact in today’s culture. They are fun and useful, and
these days, they are second nature to many of us. When something happens in our lives, we post about it to let
our friends know. When something happens in our careers, we update our profiles to enhance professional
connections. We are sharing personal and professional news, triumphs and tragedies, laughs and tears…. And
lots and lots of pictures (Landers, 2013).
V. Conclusion
The study explored the relationship between social media and divorce and it found that majority of
people that subscribe to one or more social network sites have it in mind that it can lead to infidelity and to
divorce as well. It also discovered that more females are now subscribing the social network sites. This trend
reveals that, unlike before, women are not underrepresented in the social activities today. The new trend also
shows how literacy level among females is increasing nowadays. While social media can be a fun place to
reconnect with old friends and keep up with new and current ones, it can also play a deadly role in a marriage.
With so many people online and connecting in new ways, it is hard to predict just how far this problem will go
before it is routed (Stetzer, 2014). Society must therefore orientate young people and adults on proper use of the
social media if it is to safeguard its moral tenets and prevent media-mediated divorce.
VI. Recommendations
The paper recommends the following:
- more studies on the same or related topic should be taken to contribute more to the area because there are
few studies;
- people should be wary of how they use social network facilities. There are always two ways of acting-the
good and the bad. Let us cherish our moral values and avoid the bad company even through the faceless
interaction;
- Usmani(2011) advice people in marriage about avoiding anything that can injure the marriage relationship.
If social media can cause a slight domestic problem, person shall do away with it and make their marital
lives survive. Despites its significance, social media is new trend and avoiding it will not subject a person to
emotional disturbance, but marital breakup will. Marriage is an oldest institution in human history as such it
must not be downplayed by the social media;
- people should also know with whom they are interacting. Some people could come to your life in order to
destroy it rather than improving it. Some may seek to know your secret and then leak it to the world. Some
friends are disguised enemies. So knowing about the sincerity of friendship they establish with fellow social
network users is paramount;
- there is growing concern on the activities of hackers in the social media today. Not all information and
content is real, therefore, if one sees something shocking or immoral related to their spouse, they should
jump and take action. Simulation of reality has in many ways came to be easy by ICT experts. The
appropriate action is to investigate carefully about the veracity of the content or information;
- lastly, religious leaders, family members, friends and media institution shall create awareness of the
unwanted result of the improper social media use.
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