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“A Different Economy of Bodies and Pleasures”?: Differentiating and Evaluating Sex and Sexual BDSM Experiences

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This study examines how BDSM participants understand sexual experiences. Data are drawn from 32 in-depth, semi-structured interviews and discussion board threads from a large BDSM community website. The analysis suggests that many BDSM participants perceive sexual BDSM experiences as not only significantly different from but also better than mainstream or “vanilla” sex. Three primary differentiation mechanisms are identified. First, BDSM participants construct sex as requiring genital contact while framing sexual BDSM as creating sexual fulfillment not requiring normative indicators of sexual experiences (e.g. orgasm). Second, participants construct sexual BDSM as centered around emotional and mental experiences, while perceiving sex as being centered around physical experiences. Third, participants perceive sexual BDSM experiences as facilitating deeper interpersonal connections than those available in sex. Importantly, these mechanisms serve not only a differentiating but also an evaluative function. Most participants in this study report a strong preference for sexual BDSM over sex.

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... The male-female gender binarism emerges to produce social and sexual differences between men and women through the fragmentation of the body, that are ideologically affirmed as a natural fact of life, which contributes to the reinforcement of the idea of desire between men and women (Butler, 2017;Firmino & Porchat, 2017;Preciado, 2017). Therefore, the social understanding of sex is defined by the heteronormative tradition of binary thinking that depends on sexual identity categories centered on gender identity and biological sex (Better & Simula, 2015;Bauer, 2014;Simula, 2019a). Hence, this model is limiting because it fails to accurately reach each person's experiences, preferences, and identifications, forcing them to identify as exclusively homosexual or exclusively heterosexual, which does not represent people's life experiences (Better & Simula, 2015;Savin-Williams, 2017). ...
... They even found several instances where their experiences in BDSM did not fit their sexual identity. Although participants reported monosexual identities (heterosexual and homosexual), they engaged in BDSM activities with partners of any gender, as they chose them based on the role they identify with (e.g., dominant, submissive) and not based on their sexual identity (Simula, 2012(Simula, , 2019a. According to the findings of Ritchie and Barker (2005), most of the people participating in their study revealed that they had had BDSM experiences with both men and women. ...
... Unlike what the normative model of (hetero)sexuality determines, one's BDSM identity or role can be the most important aspect of engaging in kinky practices, compared to social categories such as gender and sexual identity; depending on the contexts and participants, gender might not the be most important factor and even be irrelevant to the practice and choice of partners (Better & Simula, 2015;Carlström, 2017;Newmahr, 2010;Simula, 2012Simula, , 2019aSimula & Sumerau, 2017;Sprott & Hadcock, 2018). A disjunction is developed between the sexual identity of practitioners and their BDSM identity, thereby challenging the heterosexual and homosexual binary and the centrality of gender in sexual identities, practices, and relationships (Better & Simula, 2015;Simula, 2012). ...
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... LGBTQ+ individuals experience higher rates of sexual violence and consent violation than their cisgender, heterosexual peers both inside and outside of formalized alt-sex communities. LGBTQ+ emerging adults (18)(19)(20)(21)(22)(23)(24)(25) experience sexual violence almost twice as frequently as their cisgender, heterosexual peers (e.g., [8][9][10][11]). Previous research on consent violation among alt-sex practitioners indicates that over 40% of respondents who described their gender identity as genderqueer, transgender, or other (46%, 42%, and 44%, respectively) had been touched nonconsensually during a BDSM event compared to 39% of cisgender women and 18% of cisgender men [2]. ...
... Though pleasure has been under-researched within the domain of sexual health [16][17][18], it is often a motivator for engagement in sexual activity [19][20][21]. Alt-sex experiences may not be confined to sexual acts [22], and pleasure may extend beyond sexual pleasure. We draw upon literature related to sexual pleasure as sexual pleasure shows similarities to other pleasures from rewarding stimuli in its mechanisms [23]. ...
... Connectedness between partners has been shown to be linked to sexual pleasure [15]. The relationship with connectedness of partners in alt-sex contexts and pleasure may be similarly important, or even more so [22]. Findings from this study suggest that pleasure and connectedness may reinforce one another (such as previous consent violations reducing ability to connect with a partner or get into a sub headspace). ...
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... On one hand, kink can be considered a deviation from the everyday life. On the other hand, kink may present as a self-evident, yet an extremely important part of the everyday life defined by intimacy and authenticity (Newmahr 2010a;Harviainen 2015;Simula 2017). In addition, kink can be understood as a sexual identity or a sexual orientation (Simula 2015;Fennell 2018). ...
... Kink often, but not always, transgresses boundaries related to conventional norms and ethics and allows the immersion into spaces which create a potential violation of trust and which would in other situations be avoided (Newmahr 2011, 186). Kink may therefore provide a more intense intimacy and a deeper connection between partners (Simula 2017). For example, Sophia addresses kink as a means of showing affection and intimacy to her partner: ...
... What often is of utmost importance in kink is the mental aspect. The headspace, which is sometimes described as trance, high, or sub-space that can be achieved during play may be more desirable than, for instance, an orgasm (Simula 2017). According to Simula (2017), the physical parts are only a means to achieve the desired headspace and intimacy. ...
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... Most scholars operated with the same assumption until Newmahr (2010Newmahr ( , 2011, Williams (2009), and Williams et al. (2016) proposed that BDSM could perhaps be understood better as "serious leisure" activity, meaning that practitioners seek recreation, enjoyment, and satisfaction more than sexual pleasure. Newmahr, whose study focused on a pansexual BDSM community in New York, heavily de-emphasized the sexual aspects of BDSM in favor of this leisure perspective and generated a lively debate among BDSM scholars in the process (Simula, 2012(Simula, , 2019a. Bauer (2014) strongly critiqued Newmahr's perspective, accusing them 1 of trying to "clean up" the public image of BDSM by de-sexualizing it and arguing that Newmahr's sample was biased, and their analytical perspective heteronormatively biased as well (pp. ...
... Sloan (2015) further called into question the sexuality of BDSM by describing the presence and experience of "aces" (asexuals) in the BDSM subculture, who often do not frame their BDSM experiences or desires sexually either. Simula (2019a) treated the sexuality of BDSM as more of a theoretical and empirical question, arguing that rather than simplistically excluding BDSM from "sexual," scholars should perhaps extend their understanding of what "sexual" means to include a much broader range of experiences and desires. Simula argued that by "detaching sexual pleasure from genitally centered experiences" and "decentering orgasm and genital arousal," BDSM practitioners "create [emotional/mental] contexts in which their intent for a set of interactions comes to replace normative indicators of sexual experience" (p. ...
... 230). I wholeheartedly agree with Bauer's critique of Newmahr's sample and perspective, but my results are most in keeping with Simula's (2019a) perspective. My study provides more data to support the proposition that "sex" is not a simple, objective category, and that social context shapes our personal and collective understanding of what constitutes "sexual" experience. ...
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Drawing from extensive insider ethnographic work and an internet survey with a convenience sample of 1642 BDSM practitioners, I show that the social context of the BDSM subculture has a profound impact on pansexual BDSM practitioners’ interpretation of the relationship between BDSM and sex. Greater involvement in the public BDSM subculture and participation in feminine Dominance/masculine submission are both strongly associated with less preference for and experience of sexual BDSM. Greater involvement in the BDSM subculture increases participants’ likelihood of viewing their sexuality in terms of BDSM but decreases their likelihood of viewing BDSM in sexual terms. BDSM practitioners who meet new BDSM partners in BDSM subcultural contexts, even ones where sex is allowed, are much less likely to have sex with their partners than practitioners who met anywhere else. I argue that research should focus more on the social factors that influence participants’ experience and interpretation of BDSM, particularly on the influence of the BDSM subculture, and that theorists should think more broadly about the social determinants of “sex” and “sexual experience.”
... For example, what causes pleasure may not be sexual; what is erotic may not involve the erogenous zones. Even where we refer to the BDSM experience as bounded up with sexuality and including the involvement of the genital area, there are several differences with respect to "vanilla" sex (Simula 2017). For greater clarity, we will present the main differences in a list of bullet points: ...
... Each person entrusts the other not only with the secrets for the pursuit of his pleasure, but also with decisions about the choice of the practices to which he is subjected, voluntarily, and delegates the management of his safety in terms of survival. This also involves an emotional intensity amplified by the participants, since fear and pleasure are mixed in a much more impactful way than in less dangerous sexual experiences (Simula 2017). It must also be borne in mind that the meeting increases the participants' knowledge and awareness of themselves: not only of their pain tolerance threshold, but also in terms of the tension felt by the one who inflicts pain and feels responsible for the suffering inflicted on the other (Turley et al. 2018). ...
... For some practitioners, it is possible to talk about "vanilla sex" even in a BDSM framework. As mentioned above, though the term "vanilla sex" is used to mean sexual intercourse that includes the genital areas and the exchange of body fluids, the practice does not necessarily have to start or end with such an exchange, since the focus is still on de-emphasizing the pleasure linked to the genital area (Simula 2017). Attention, in fact, is concentrated on the dynamics of power and the various practices put in place, while being surrounded or accompanied by "vanilla" sexual acts which are regarded as secondary and therefore not characterizing the BDSM session itself. ...
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Research with individuals who practice consensual Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism (BDSM) has shed light on a complex and multi-faceted phenomenon. How much this experience relates to sexuality and sexual pleasure is a controversial topic in the literature. This review offers a critical re-conceptualization of the sexual component, comparing BDSM and non-BDSM sexual experiences, and highlighting the importance of the erotic construction of power as a source of pleasure. It also discusses whether the erotic power exchange experience (EPE) reveals a sexual or an erotic orientation. The variety of terms and acronyms used to designate the experience of eroticization of power (BDSM, EPE, S&M sadism and masochism, D/S or sadomasochism, Fetish, kink and kinky sex) reflects the many perspectives that have been taken in observing the phenomenon. Generalizing BDSM as an eminently sexual experience has obscured a more nuanced understanding of the specific meanings relating to the activities promoted by the communities and simplified a variegated geography of experiences. These experiences are difficult to summarize in terms of typifications and can be better described as “finite provinces of meanings”.
... The term 'kink' can also be used in reference to BDSM, an acronym used to encompass bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism, and various activities that involve the exchange of some form of power, pain or sensory deprivation (Faccio, Casini & Cipolletta, 2014;Pillai-Friedman, Pollitt & Castaldo, 2015;Freeburg & McNaughton, 2017). Whilst BDSM activities may sometimes (and are often assumed to) be located within a sexual context, BDSM practitioners have expressed feelings of fulfilment via emotional and mental experiences (which may or may not be experienced as sexual) rather than genital contact or orgasm being a requirement (Simula, 2019a). This suggests that being kinky does not necessarily equate to either being sexual per se, or engaging in sexual contact. ...
... This was akin to how BDSM practitioners frame their activities as an exploratory experience for both body and mind in a way not always achievable in 'vanilla' sex (Simula, 2019a; Kitten-play is a roleplaying activity that has recently become popular on the gay scene (Wignall & McCormack, 2017). Elune's final line in the extract above mirrored the views of many gay and bisexual 'pups'; pup-play can have a sexual element for some but can equally be non-sexual (Wignall & McCormack, 2017). ...
... This demonstrated the depth and value some of these participants placed on intimate, sensual activities, regardless of whether they were considered sexual. Connecting and bonding with another person (sometimes physically and) emotionally was viewed as highly desirable, a narrative previously reported in research with asexual and allosexual participants Simula, 2019a). Whilst these desires may mirror demisexuality , whereby there is the potential for sexual attraction to develop within the context of emotional intimacy, not all participants who discussed kink in these ways necessarily identified themselves as affiliated with this term. ...
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Prior research has found that asexual people may fantasise or participate in activities typically conceptualised within mainstream society as ‘sexual’. These behaviours may be considered paradoxical when an asexual person is conceptualised as someone who does not experience sexual attraction or desire. This research aimed to explore how kinks and fetishes are conceptualised, experienced, and negotiated by asexual individuals. Forty-eight participants were recruited via the first author’s social media accounts and asexuality forums to take part in an online qualitative survey. The data were thematically analysed and three themes were developed. In “Am I asexual?”: (How) can you be a kinky ace?, we discuss the feelings of doubt or distress that some participants reported in relation to what was seemingly sometimes understood as the paradox between their self-identity as asexual and their exploration of kinks and fetishes, and how this was negotiated by these participants. In the second theme, Between me and me’ and make believe: Kinks and fetishes as solo and imaginary, we report on how kinks, fetishes, and fantasies were often understood in a solitary context and as either undesirable – or impossible – to live out. In the final theme of Kink as a sensual enhancement in relationships, we highlight the ways in which participants positioned their kinks and fetishes as an agent for intimacy. These findings expand our knowledge and understanding of how asexual people negotiate kinks and fetishes and capture the complexities of asexual identities beyond a lack of sexual attraction or desire, particularly in relation to the notion of autochorissexualism.
... Despite the long-held assumption in scholarship on BDSM that BDSM is a sexual interest, identity, or activity, multiple studies over the last decade have challenged that assumption. While some empirical studies show that for some BDSM is a sexual experience (Faccio, Casini, & Cipolletta, 2014;Rehor, 2015), others show that BDSM does not always have a sexual meaning or that it may have a sexual meaning that is secondary to other meanings for participants (Lawrence & Love-Crowell, 2008;Newmahr, 2010Newmahr, , 2011Sagarin, Lee, & Klement, 2015;Simula, 2013Simula, , 2014Simula, , 2019Sloan, 2015). Building on the recognition that BDSM does not always have a sexual meaning for participants, BDSM scholars have expanded understandings of the range of meanings of BDSM. ...
... Sprott and Hadcock find that for these participants, BDSM activities can have many uses, including gender exploration and healing from shame and trauma related to sexual identity/orientation. Simula's (2012) work examines behavioral bisexuality but does not specifically address bisexuality as an identity. While some studies include pansexually-identified participants (Bauer, 2018a;Newmahr, 2010;Simula, 2019), whether and how plurisexual (e.g., bisexual and pansexual) BDSM participants' experiences differ from those of their monosexual (e.g., lesbian, gay, and heterosexual) counterparts is a pressing lacuna in the literature. ...
... In another study of a specialized interest and identity within the broader BDSM umbrella, Wignall and McCormack (2017) explore "puppy play"-role play in which BDSM participants adopt behaviors that mimic those of biological puppies for sexual and/or emotional gratification. They find that while some participants engage in puppy play primarily for sexual satisfaction, others rely on puppy play to achieve emotional fulfillment and relaxation, paralleling findings in studies of the broader BDSM population that show that relaxation and emotional experiences are common motivations for BDSM participation (Simula, 2019). ...
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Since the explosion of social scientific and sociological research on BDSM in the late 1990s and early 2000s, the field has grown exponentially. In this review, I identify three particularly fruitful recent lines of research in sociological and related approaches to BDSM. First, I discuss work that critically analyzes the meaning(s) of BDSM for participants and the role of debates about the sexual and the erotic in relation to BDSM. Second, I discuss work on BDSM identities, including scholarship that examines BDSM identities in relation to other identities. Here, I also discuss emerging lines of scholarship that focus on the ways in which privileges (particularly race/ethnicity and class) shape identification with and access to BDSM communities. Third, I discuss work on BDSM communities, examining the ways that community organization shapes BDSM experiences. I conclude with suggestions for future research in the field including deepening and broadening intersectional analyses of BDSM experiences, exploring specialized roles and identities that exist within the broader BDSM umbrella, and investigating similarities and differences between those who participate in BDSM on a time‐limited basis versus those for whom BDSM is an ongoing, continual core aspect of identity.
... They also highlight potential tensions within communities though acknowledging that much BDSM practice happens in private and outside formal community structures. A particularly interesting aspect of community engagement, which is also the cause of some internal tensions, concerns the acceptability of sex within BDSM spaces (see Sagarin, Lee, Erickson, Casey, & Pawirosetiko, 2018) and also whether BDSM is understood as sex at all (Simula, 2019). That is, for many practitioners there is a distinction between sex and BDSM, with the former the label used for "vanilla" sexual practice that is mostly physical (often genitally focused and orgasm based) and the latter describing practices that are more emotional and mental and which are felt to facilitate deeper connections between people (Simula, 2019). ...
... A particularly interesting aspect of community engagement, which is also the cause of some internal tensions, concerns the acceptability of sex within BDSM spaces (see Sagarin, Lee, Erickson, Casey, & Pawirosetiko, 2018) and also whether BDSM is understood as sex at all (Simula, 2019). That is, for many practitioners there is a distinction between sex and BDSM, with the former the label used for "vanilla" sexual practice that is mostly physical (often genitally focused and orgasm based) and the latter describing practices that are more emotional and mental and which are felt to facilitate deeper connections between people (Simula, 2019). ...
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This article presents a phenomenological investigation into the experience of engaging in a sexual practice known as “puppy play,” where participants role-play being puppies or handlers (those that look after or own puppies), often within a dominance/submission sexual context. Only one previous study has been conducted on this phenomenon, and the present study sought to provide new knowledge about the meaning of this practice for participants. We conducted a qualitative analysis of data derived from 68 individual experience descriptions and 25 semi-structured interviews with puppies and handlers. Through the use of a phenomenological methodology focused on experience, we identified the key constituents that comprise this phenomenon and help make sense of peoples’ desire to participate. The five themes include: (1) sexual pleasure; (2) relaxation, therapy, and escape from self; (3) adult play and vibrant physicality; (4) extending and expressing selfhood; and (5) relationships and community. We discuss this practice/identity in the context of enjoyment of the dominant/submissive sexual element, the perceived benefits of a form of mindful adult play, the opportunity to explore aspects of selfhood, and the value of relationships and community membership.
... Given the roots of puppy play in the wider BDSM/leatherman subculture, we also draw on empirical and theoretical work on BDSM to help frame and inform this study (including Langdridge, 2006;Langdridge and Parchev, 2018;Newmahr, 2011;Parchev and Langdridge, 2018;Simula, 2017;Weinberg, 2016;Weiss, 2011). Of particular significance to the present work is the ethnographic work of Weiss (2011), who studied the Janus community in San Francisco and sought to locate her analysis broadly within a Foucauldian framework, the recent work of Cruz (2016a, 2016b) on black women, BDSM and kink, and the theoretical arguments of Langdridge and Parchev (2018) concerning the political struggle for selfdetermination within BDSM communities. ...
... These moves shut down any sense of puppy play as a 'politics of perversion' (Cruz, 2016a(Cruz, , 2016b, in which it might act to subvert or transform normative sex and sexualities. This is not about redefining the boundaries of what is (or is not) sex as we have seen in BDSM (Newmahr, 2011;Simula, 2017) or engaging in some means of sexual subversion concerning erotic power or even a critique of 'speciesism', whether real or fantastical. It is instead about advocacy of a position through a socially acceptable -indeed, even desirable -discourse, of 'innocent' adult play, which may also be 'therapeutic' (Langdridge and Lawson, in review;Wignall and McCormack, 2017). ...
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In this article we explore the history, culture and practice of the phenomenon known as ‘puppy play’. Puppy play is a practice in which people take on the persona of a dog (or handler), with participants often wearing specialist gear to further enhance the experience of being a puppy. We argue that puppy play is best understood sociologically as a ‘postmodern-subculture’ (Greener and Hollands, 2006). Additionally, we use Irwin's (1973) model of scene evolution to explore the socio-history of the community. Whilst this practice appears to have its historical roots within the highly sexual gay leatherman subculture, there is a division within this community between sexual and social play, with some participants eschewing the sexual entirely. We explore possible reasons for this split through an analysis using recent political theory concerning technologies of the self, sexual citizenship and BDSM. Through this analysis we contribute valuable empirical evidence to debates and discussion about the development of sexual subcultures and tensions therein concerning claims for rights and the ‘politics of respectability’ (Cruz, 2016a, 2016b).
... We could hypothesize that the lack of mental representation of trans sexuality causes people to assume that their sexuality must necessarily be something other than the vanilla sex norm and therefore attribute kinky sexuality to trans individuals. Vanilla sex has been described as a way of experiencing sexuality as opposed to the one represented by the BDSM (bondage, dominance, discipline, submission, sadomasochism) community (Simula, 2019). ...
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Introduction Stereotypes around sex and gender have played an important role in shaping experiences of discrimination and social injustice for trans individuals. In addition, trans identities have been historically associated with sexual deviance and pathology in the psychomedical literature. In the present study, we investigated stereotypes associated with trans people’s sexuality. Methods We recruited 297 transmasculine and nonbinary individuals for an online study. In an open-ended question, participants were asked to describe stereotypes they have encountered regarding the sex lives of trans people they felt were inaccurate. Results Thematic analysis revealed four overarching themes: (1) deviance; (2) discomfort with trans sexuality as stigmatizing; (3) stereotypes based on gender; and (4) absence of stereotyping. Conclusion Results highlight the ways trans sexuality is exoticized. Findings also underscore that sexual stereotyping of trans individuals is, at times, based on assigned sex and, at other times, based on gender identity. Policy Implications Stereotypes, particularly those related to sexuality, may seem harmless, but they can have far-reaching consequences on interpersonal relationships and societal systems. Challenging stereotypes in policies and social environments is crucial for promoting inclusivity and community welfare.
... BDSM/kink does not necessarily require orgasm, nudity, genital contact, or even direct physical contact at all (Sagarin, Lee, & Klement, 2015;Simula, 2019b). Some people who identify as being on the asexual (or ace) spectrum enjoy various BDSM/kink activities (e.g., Jolene Sloan, 2015). ...
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Psychotherapists’ negative misconceptions about people involved or interested in BDSM/kink can result in unethical clinical practices and ineffective or harmful therapeutic outcomes. Five of psychotherapists’ common misconceptions about BDSM/kink are: that BDSM/kink relationships constitute a fringe relational style or “alternative lifestyle,” that BDSM/kink is inherently abusive and causes trauma, that involvement in BDSM/kink is caused by past trauma, that BDSM/kink relationships are inferior to or less meaningful than non-BDSM/kink relationships, and that BDSM/kink is not clinically relevant or appropriate to discuss in trauma therapy. This article challenges these five common misconceptions, discusses relevant research findings, and explains five of the essential clinical skills for trauma psychotherapists working with people interested or involved in BDSM/kink relationships and practices: understanding and identifying BDSM/kink relational roles and headspaces, distinguishing BDSM/kink from abuse, understanding and identifying key components of non-abusive BDSM/kink, determining the clinical salience of BDSM/kink, and identifying and managing freefall.
... It is argued that the cuckold scenario disrupts the pursuit of phallocentric peno-vaginal penetration that can often be found in club contexts. Instead, and similar to research undertaken on BDSM (Simula 2019), the erotic charge of the cuckold may lie outside of genitally focussed pleasure. As such, the erotic charge of the cuckold scenario operates outside of conventional scripts of gender sexual pleasure. ...
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This chapter explores how transgressions take place within the sex club. First, using a group sex encounter, it highlights the ways in which different forms of heteroeroticism can be understood as contesting the everyday routines of the club and broader notions of heteronormativity. Embedded within this section of the chapter is the notion of gaze and how this is a reversible process of looking and being looked at. The second part of this chapter focuses on sex between women. Whilst initially framing this as taking place within a heteropatriarchal gaze driven by forms of neo-liberal sexual entrepreneurialism, the chapter reflects on this approach by suggesting that it is within the limits of neo-liberalism where transgressive sexual practices might emerge. Finally, the chapter tentatively explores transgender experiences. In particular, it argues that transgression is not always a positive experience but can also result in sexual violence. The chapter concludes by arguing that where sexual practice exceeds economies of desire, it can be the source of intense sexual pleasure. At the same time, such transgressions can be physically and emotionally dangerous.
... It is argued that the cuckold scenario disrupts the pursuit of phallocentric peno-vaginal penetration that can often be found in club contexts. Instead, and similar to research undertaken on BDSM (Simula 2019), the erotic charge of the cuckold may lie outside of genitally focussed pleasure. As such, the erotic charge of the cuckold scenario operates outside of conventional scripts of gender sexual pleasure. ...
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This chapter explores how dark rooms within sex clubs shape and configure men and masculinities. Using interviews with men who have used and visited dark rooms, this chapter explores the erotic subjectivity of men. The starting point for this chapter is that the norms and values of the club that are embedded in the erotic hierarchies that circulate in the rest of the club help to define what happens in the dark room. The chapter by examining respectable masculinities then explores the same-sex practices between men and consent. The chapter then argues that by leaving behind a sexual performance based on masculinity, men in the dark room demonstrate an alternative way of configuring masculinity and sexuality. It is suggested as the chapter progresses that new forms of erotic configurations are assembled in the dark room that point to the possibilities of a post-masculinity. The chapter concludes by highlighting that sex clubs do have the possibility to produce a radical subjectivity that may signal an epistemological break with existing approaches to men and masculinity.
... It is argued that the cuckold scenario disrupts the pursuit of phallocentric peno-vaginal penetration that can often be found in club contexts. Instead, and similar to research undertaken on BDSM (Simula 2019), the erotic charge of the cuckold may lie outside of genitally focussed pleasure. As such, the erotic charge of the cuckold scenario operates outside of conventional scripts of gender sexual pleasure. ...
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This introductory chapter welcomes readers to the sex club. This chapter explains what the book is about and what readers should expect. The book then highlights the ethnographical research method that is used predominantly throughout the book. In so doing, it critically reflects on the limits of using ethnography to describe sexual encounters. The chapter then provides a synopsis of the chapters that are furnished with ethnographic encounters. Overall, this chapter provides an introductory insight into the sex clubs in the UK. The chapter concludes by describing the experience of the end of the night at a sex club and highlighting what we are yet to know about sex clubs.
... It is argued that the cuckold scenario disrupts the pursuit of phallocentric peno-vaginal penetration that can often be found in club contexts. Instead, and similar to research undertaken on BDSM (Simula 2019), the erotic charge of the cuckold may lie outside of genitally focussed pleasure. As such, the erotic charge of the cuckold scenario operates outside of conventional scripts of gender sexual pleasure. ...
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This chapter begins by framing sex clubs as a place of secrecy and discretion. It then begins to define what a sex club is, a potted history of sex clubs and their position within the law and planning permissions. The chapter then provides a short discussion of methodology, before moving on to provide information on who visits sex clubs, what their sexual preferences are and how we might think about sex clubs geographically. A number of key findings emerge from this chapter that include sex clubs are not simply places for swingers but are part of a more diverse range of erotic practices; it highlights how the majority of women visiting the club are likely to identify as bisexual or bi-curious; clubs are geographically located and clustered; it provides an understanding of the racial dynamics of those who attend clubs and begins to map out sexual practices with geographical locations. In summary, this chapter provides important background information behind sex clubs.
... It is argued that the cuckold scenario disrupts the pursuit of phallocentric peno-vaginal penetration that can often be found in club contexts. Instead, and similar to research undertaken on BDSM (Simula 2019), the erotic charge of the cuckold may lie outside of genitally focussed pleasure. As such, the erotic charge of the cuckold scenario operates outside of conventional scripts of gender sexual pleasure. ...
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The chapter focuses on the racialization of black men within sex clubs. It begins by recognizing the ways that clubs promote thematized events. Such events create a way of promoting fantasies that may lead to the satiating of desires. The chapter moves from discussing the commodification and fetishization of the body to considering how it is practiced within clubs. It discusses the notion of the ‘Black Bull’ and how black bodies become naturalized as through an appeal to animality. It is argued that this animality is historically located in the notions of black slavery. The chapter then explores how white women utilize this racialized desirability as a form of erotic consumption. The chapter argues that the role of women in black men’s slavery provides the contours for how they consume and commodify black bodies within the club. The chapter then moves on to discuss cuckolding and hotwifing and the implications this has for white masculinity. The chapter concludes by highlighting the role of racialized sex nights in clubs as a source of pleasure and agency for the men involved.
... In addition to describing specific practices, kink play also refers to the active engagement of sexual power dynamics. Power in this sense is about personal control, and the exchange of power describes (consensually) gaining control over someone else or allowing someone to have control over you (Simula, 2019). Jonathan (59, NZ) is an avid kinkster. ...
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This article explores the ways gay and queer men employ the concept of 'play' in relation to sex. Using Judith Butler's theory of performativity to analyse the experiences of 16 individuals from Aotearoa New Zealand and Australia who identified as a gay and/or queer man or a member of the gay community, I present how my participants used 'play' to refer to casual and/or kinky sexual encounters, describe certain safer sex practices, and delineate the difference between queer and straight sexual identities. 'Playing' also involved a range of personally cultivated rules connected to the pursuit of well-being. When these rules were broken, the activity no longer felt 'playful' and became risky for some. 'Play' was ultimately a way for my participants to discuss how risk, pleasure, desire, identity, relationships, and personal well-being related to sexual practices.
... They also argued it should be understood as a leisure activity, mirroring how the leisure framework has been applied to other kink activities (e.g., Newmahr, 2010;Prior & Williams, 2015;Williams et al., 2016). Wignall and McCormack also argued pup play could be both a sexual and social activity, depending on the setting and context in which it is practiced (see also Simula, 2019b). They emphasized the relaxed rules in how one can engage pup play, highlighting the personal and playful nature of pup play, and the sharp contrast to the more traditional ways of engaging in kink subcultures (see Rubin, 1991). ...
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This study presents findings from a community survey on pup play. Pup play is a kink activity and a form of role play that is growing in popularity internationally, and gaining increasing attention in sexology, yet prior research on pup play has almost entirely employed qualitative methods and primarily involved gay and bisexual men. Using survey data of 733 pup play participants primarily from the US, but also internationally, this study reports on the demographics of participants, how they engage in pup play, its social and sexual elements, and how it relates to social identity and mental health. Unique pup names and identifying with breeds of dogs were used to foster a sense of individuality within pup play, while the majority of participants owned and wore gear when engaging in pup play. We also found significant associations between being younger and identifying as a pup. Most participants reported that pup play improved their mental health. Binary logistic regression analyses indicated that having a mental health diagnosis was associated with identifying with a more social style of pup play and self-reporting the mental health benefits of pup play. We find that the conceptualization of pup play in the existing literature to be accurate to this international sample and highlight areas where further research is needed, alongside limitations of the study.
... Experiences with discrimination, minority stress, and differences in TSS adherence may result in SGD groups conceptualizing and experiencing sexual communication in different ways. Indeed, there is evidence that differences in sexual scripts and definitions of 'good sex' may vary by gender/sex and sexual orientation [116] and other demographic variables (e.g., kink [117]; relationship constellation [118]). Accordingly, it is feasible that differences in conceptualizations may also emerge for sexual communication. ...
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Purpose of Review The purpose of this review is to summarize the current knowledge on sexual communication among sexual and gender/sex diverse (SGD) groups. Complementing an existing review of the literature on safer-sex communication with SGD individuals (Parrillo & Brown, 2021), we focus on sexual communication related to promoting sexual satisfaction. Recent Findings The two-pathways model of sexual communication has yet to be generalized with SGD samples. Research comparing SGD with non-SGD individuals has varied in whether there are differences between groups. There is some evidence of differences between gender diverse and non-gender diverse groups in sexual communication. Emerging evidence of the unique strengths and challenges of sexual communication among gender/sex diverse groups highlights the importance of deepening gender/sex diverse-specific sexual communications research. Summary A lack of literature regarding sexual communication in SGD groups is reported. Results on whether there are differences between and/or within groups are mixed and confounded by inconsistent methodologies for measurement of demographic and sexual communication variables. Clearly, further research is needed to increase our understanding of sexual communication in SGD groups. As such, we provide recommendations for future research, specifically regarding inclusive demographic and analytical considerations.
... In this line, a survey of Fetlife participants conducted by our group in 2017 (n=364) indicated that 87% of the respondents experience BDSM as being erotic and that 70% combined BDSM with sex at least regularly (unpublished data). This is corroborated by an interview-based study in which practitioners elaborate upon the sexual nature of their BDSM experiences [15]. ...
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Introduction BDSM is an abbreviation used to reference the concepts of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism, enacted by power exchanges between consensual partners. In recent years, attention has shifted from the idea of BDSM as a pathological and tabooed niche practice towards viewing BDSM as a healthy form of intimacy. Aim This systematic review brings together all existing literature on the biology of BDSM and places it in a broader biological context. Method A systematic search was conducted on Pubmed, Web of Science and PsycARTICLES, of which ten articles are included and discussed in this systematic review. Results There is evidence for cortisol changes in submissives as a result of a BDSM interaction, suggesting involvement of the physiological stress system. Endocannabinoid changes implicate the pleasure and reward system. In dominants, this biologically measured pleasure seemed to be dependent on power play rather than pain play. Testosterone and oxytocin are also implicated in BDSM, though their role is less evident. Research into brain region activity patterns related to BDSM interest suggests a role for the parietal operculum and ventral striatum in the context of the pleasure and reward system, the primary and secondary somatosensory cortex in the context of pain perception, empathy-related circuits such as the anterior insula (AI), anterior midcingulate cortex (ACC) and sensorimotor cortex and the left frontal cortex in the context of social and sexual interactions. Pain thresholds are shown to be higher in submissive individuals and a BDSM interaction may cause pain thresholds to rise in submissives as well. Conclusion BDSM interactions are complex and influenced by several psychological, social and biological processes. Though research is limited, there is emerging evidence for an interaction between several biological systems involved in these types of interests and activities. This means there is an important role for future research to replicate and supplement current results.
... Another aspect of kink identity and sexuality relevant to relationships, in particular the kink and CNM intersection, is the complicated relation between kink and sex (Bauer, 2014;Simula, 2019b;Sprott et al., 2020). For some kink-identified people, kink and sex are separate activities. ...
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People who engage in both kink and consensual non-monogamy (CNM) have received little attention in research. The present article reports on the characteristics, relationship experiences, and unique motivations for engaging in CNM of kinky and consensually non-monogamous individuals using data from two U.S. samples—one large, national (N = 690) quantitative survey, and one qualitative study (N = 70) of adults in Northern California. The results describe the prevalence of universal (e.g., jealousy, sexual desire discrepancy) and population-specific relationship experiences (e.g., kink interest discrepancy, “coming out” about relationship structure). Findings indicate that discrepancies in desire for kink are a common relationship experience for kink–CNM individuals and that managing kink interests is an important motivation for CNM in this particular population. Implications for future research and clinical practice with kinky and consensually non-monogamous individuals are discussed.
... BDSM practitioners fall within normative ranges for honesty-humility, agreeableness, and conscientiousness (as well as emotionality and extraversion; Hébert & Weaver, 2014). BDSM is more than 'hot' sex: BDSM practitioners consider sex and BDSM to be separate from one another, with the amount of overlap between the two varying considerably on an individual basis (Simula, 2019a;Sprott et al., 2020). ...
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Research has begun to investigate subclinical levels of sadism including “everyday sadism:” an enjoyment of cruelty in normal, everyday situations. Thus far, subclinical sadism has been conceptualized as inherently antisocial, as with Internet trolls. We examined a potentially prosocial manifestation of sadism: self-identified sadists in the BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism) community who cause pain only to consenting partners. A total of 532 BDSM practitioners and non-practitioners completed measures of everyday sadism with consent explicit, non-consent explicit, or consent ambiguous, and known correlates of everyday sadism (empathy, HEXACO traits, and Dark Triad traits). Across both samples and all conditions, everyday sadism correlated negatively with affective empathy, agreeableness, and honesty-humility, and positively with Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and narcissism. These results support the validity of the measure of everyday sadism among BDSM practitioners. Psychopathy uniquely predicted everyday sadism among BDSM practitioners when non-consent was explicit. BDSM sadists differed significantly from non-sadistic BDSM tops only on the physical subscale of everyday sadism and only when consent was explicit. These findings suggest that most BDSM sadists are not everyday sadists, and that BDSM sadism might represent a prosocial manifestation of subclinical sadism, but that BDSM sadists with high levels of psychopathy might be everyday sadists.
... Second, participants constructed sexual BDSM as centered on emotional and mental experiences, while perceiving sex as being centered on physical experiences. Third, participants perceived sexual BDSM experiences as facilitating deeper interpersonal connections than those available in sex." [37] The benefits of BDSM practice are evident, whether or not these benefits are linked to an active sexuality. ...
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... Several studies scrutinized the sexual nature of BDSM and surveyed the role of BDSM in sexual activity of participants. A recent interview-based study 83 showed that a small sample (n ¼ 32) of practitioners indicated that their sexual BDSM experiences were primarily emotional and psychological in nature and that these were preferred over mainstream ("vanilla") sexual interactions. In contrast, Pascoal's small-scale survey study (n ¼ 68) 84 revealed that BDSM and non-BDSM sexual activities were experienced as equally satisfying and that most practitioners did not exclusively engage in BDSM-oriented sexual practices. ...
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Background: BDSM (Bondage and discipline, Dominance and submission, and Sadism and Masochism) increasingly receives attention from the scientific community. Where earlier research efforts mainly focused on epidemiological characteristics, psychological and biological factors driving BDSM preferences have recently gained interest as well. Aim and Methods: The current systematic review brings together all the existing literature on BDSM from a biopsychosocial perspective. Results: Biological factors like gender identity, sex hormone levels and the neurological constitution of the brain’s pain and reward systems influence BDSM orientation. With regard to psychological factors, both personality traits (f.i. higher levels of openness or extraversion) and the presence of a personality disorder have been associated to a heightened BDSM interest, although only limited supporting evidence is available. Additionally, sensation seeking levels and impulsivity seem to contribute, as they presumably guide one’s drive to explore new and/or more intense kinks. As attachment styles impact couple dynamics they also influence willingness to explore limits in a BDSM context. Lastly, education levels impact relational and/or sexual dynamics. Strengths and Limitations: The limitations of the current review reflect those of the topical scientific literature. Although the number of studies focused on all aspects of BDSM is exponentially growing, most of these are only descriptive and very few focus on underlying driving processes. Conclusion: From this biopsychosocial perspective, we offer a dimensional approach while integrating the factors driving the onset and evolution of BDSM interests.
... As we describe below, BDSM practitioners share many characteristics with participants in other collective sex environments, and BDSM parties, events, and conventions have many characteristics that fit the definition of collective sex environments. Such expansion would challenge the label "collective sex environments," as many BDSM scenes do not include activities typically thought of as sex and many BDSM practitioners conceptualize their activities as not constituting sex (Simula, 2017). Nevertheless, we believe that accommodating BDSM would not require a fundamental change to the construct but, rather, an expansion of the definitions of sexual partners and sexual activities and a consideration of a broader range of motivations for such activities. ...
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