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Values-Based Parenting: A Methodology for the Internalisation of Values in Young Children

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This chapter presents a methodology that empowers parents to impart values to children. It suggests that parents adopting values (practical moral constructs such as respect for the elderly or consideration for others) when raising their children may offer an effective method of fostering sustainable good behaviour. Using moral constructs to encourage behaviour choices conveys and reinforces the binding nature of values based on moral imperatives. Values-based parenting gives parents a valuable tool, putting moral values at the heart of the family and child’s choice-making.

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