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When serious romantic relationships are terminated, partners are faced with convoluted and complex challenges of detachment from their previous partner, negative feelings about the overall situation, and the need to move forward in life. When faced with this relational upheaval, some individuals employ and find relief in superficial or noncommittal rebound relationships, which act as a means for coping with the loss of the previous relationship and the severed emotional attachment to an ex-partner, but which are under studied by empirical researchers. In a study of 201 participants, men were predicted and found to be more likely to enter rebound relationships in the aftermath of a relational termination based on lower levels of social support, more emotional attachment to an ex-partner, and displaying the ludus (or game playing) love style. In addition to the measures of these variables, gender socialization and parental investment theory provide further support for the study's claims. In sum, rebound relationships were employed by men as a distraction from their feelings of emotional attachment for their ex-partner, but also as a source of support and due to inherent ludic characteristics.
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Soc. Sci. 2014, 3, 24–43; doi:10.3390/socsci3010024
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Coping with Break-Ups: Rebound Relationships and
Gender Socialization
Cassie Shimek
1
and Richard Bello
2,
*
1
Department of Communication Studies, Louisiana State University, Baton Rouge, LA 70803, USA;
E-Mail: cassieshimek@yahoo.com
2
Department of Communication Studies, Sam Houston State University, Box 2299, Huntsville,
TX 77341, USA
* Author to whom correspondence should be addressed; E-Mail: bello@shsu.edu;
Tel.: +1-936-294-1516; Fax: +1-936-294-1336.
Received: 27 November 2013; in revised form: 18 January 2014 / Accepted: 22 January 2014 /
Published: 27 January 2014
Abstract: When serious romantic relationships are terminated, partners are faced with
convoluted and complex challenges of detachment from their previous partner, negative
feelings about the overall situation, and the need to move forward in life. When faced with
this relational upheaval, some individuals employ and find relief in superficial or
noncommittal rebound relationships, which act as a means for coping with the loss of the
previous relationship and the severed emotional attachment to an ex-partner, but which are
under studied by empirical researchers. In a study of 201 participants, men were predicted
and found to be more likely to enter rebound relationships in the aftermath of a relational
termination based on lower levels of social support, more emotional attachment to an
ex-partner, and displaying the ludus (or game playing) love style. In addition to the
measures of these variables, gender socialization and parental investment theory provide
further support for the study’s claims. In sum, rebound relationships were employed by
men as a distraction from their feelings of emotional attachment for their ex-partner, but
also as a source of support and due to inherent ludic characteristics.
Keywords: rebound relationship; emotional attachment; Lee’s love styles; emotional
distress; gender; social support; gender socialization; parental investment theory
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1. Introduction
Romantic relationships are a challenging endeavor that individuals seek as a primary goal to
achieve in life, and when these relationships end, the termination can be detrimental and emotionally
distressing. When taking a look at traditional romantic relationships, who, males or females, would
handle this life-changing event worse? The stereotypical inclination would lead one to believe that
women, who are more emotionally sensitive according to conventional wisdom, would handle this type
of life event far worse than men because they are more relationally involved with others. Research has
actually found that because men have more emotional and practical needs met in romantic
relationships, they will suffer more from the ending of the relationship than do women [1]. Against
conventional wisdom, men fall in love more quickly than women do, as well as actually taking
relationship dissolution harder [1,2].
Ample evidence shows that gender differences heavily prevail within the dissolution of romantic
relationships [1,3,4]. Men and women are socialized differently, therefore establishing a foundation in
which gender differences become prevalent theoretically and socially. Specifically related to this
study’s argument, different approaches to love, diverse perspectives on parental investments, and
distinctive usages for social support networks are approached through the lens of gender socialization.
Key polarizations within these variables allow for men and women to employ coping mechanisms that
are suited to their pivotal characteristics. The premise established from research is that men do not fare
well when trying to cope with the termination of a romantic relationship, which therefore creates
distraction mechanisms in order to relocate or bypass the negative emotions. This distraction could
possibly lead men, more so than women, into rebound relationships, which acts as an instrumental
switch in focus from the recent relational termination to the new found love interest.
Rebound relationships have little empirical research support, therefore allowing a developmental
need to be addressed. An operational definition of rebound relationships includes the following
characteristics: occurring after termination of a romantic relationship, superficial in nature, a means for
coping with the previous termination, and occurring around six weeks after the termination [5]. The
following review of gender differences within several different variables establishes the necessary
foundation for analysis of the employment of such relationships. Based on support provided by
previous research, key variables influence the likelihood that males, rather than females, will utilize
rebound relationships to cope with a previous relational termination.
2. Review of Literature
The intention of this study is to focus on whether gender influences one’s likelihood to begin a
rebound relationship. To support the reasoning for why the socialization of gender would influence the
initiation of a rebound relationship after a relational termination, three specific variables are included
as evidence: Lee’s love styles [6], parental investment theory [7], and social support networks. Each
reinforces the idea that gender socialization will affect which coping mechanism will be employed
when one is experiencing high levels of distress, and more specifically, whether males or females are
more likely to enter rebound relationships.
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2.1. Relational Termination from a Gendered Perspective
Although relational termination can be at the mutual consent of both partners, it is usually chosen
by one partner, the breakup initiator, leaving the other partner as a breakup recipient. Due to
differences in gender characteristics, most would think that females would handle this termination far
worse if and when they are the recipients. According to research, women are often perceived as more
emotional than men, especially in personal relationships, and therefore are stereotyped as experiencing
more anxiety, guilt, sadness, and anger following relational dissolution than men [1,4]. Surprisingly,
there is evidence that this gender assumption is incorrect and that women are actually the more
responsible party when deciding to end the relationship. According to Hill and colleagues [3], women
tend to play the role of breakup initiator more often than do men. Due to this role association, it could
be assumed that women would experience fewer emotional upheavals, surprises, and disturbances.
Women become conscious of relational problems sooner than men do, which allows them time to
prepare for the inevitable and consequently leave men surprised by the revelation [1]. Men tend to be
more vulnerable, shocked, or upset when relational terminations occur. They have been found to
handle the ending of a romantic relationship worse than women, as well as been found to have stronger
feelings of sadness, depression, and loneliness [8].
The idea that men are generally more emotionally distraught from a break-up could be connected to
the notion that men tend to fall in love quicker and harder than do women. Males have been found to
recognize their love for their partner much sooner than females and will be more apt to call new
emotional feelings love [2]. Kanin, Davidson, and Scheck [9] reported that a female within a
relationship will act more rationally, which will slow the pace of mate selection and commitment.
These differences in approaches and ideas about love are supported by another study stating that
“males may fall in love more easily than females…and may display greater romanticism in their
relationship beliefs” ([10], p. 416). This combination of occurrences leads to men’s lives being
changed dramatically after a relationship ends [1,11].
2.2. Gender Socialization
From early childhood, the American culture encourages and socializes boys and girls to think, act,
and portray themselves in certain ways based on and evaluated through one’s cultural norms. There are
many differences that are attributable to femininity and masculinity to which children, adolescents, and
adults are subjected.
Research has shown that the message sent to boys in Western culture is that they are to be
aggressive, self-reliant, and therefore practically emotionless through the internalization of anything
from depression to physical pain in order to be considered tough and assertive [12]. To be self-reliant
is to depend on no one for anything, especially women. As observed by Wood, manliness and the view
of a “real man” incorporates extreme autonomy, emotional control, and dependency only on
himself [12]. On the contrary, girls are taught to be cooperative and responsive towards others, share
information within close relationships, and to be responsible for taking care of family [12,13]. The
polarizations of these gendered characteristics provide evidence that women are raised under the
preconceived notion that they are responsible for relational orientations and experienced in dealing
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with all the emotions that are associated with them, whereas men are taught that emotions are not
acceptable and so they can be lost in how to handle or control them properly when an emotional
revelation occurs. As observed by Canary, Emmers-Sommer, and Faulkner [14], the stereotypical
typology of females being relationship specialists, as well as emotionally sensitive, will only contribute
to the prevalence of the mistaken belief that they handle relational dissolution worse.
The expectations of these gendered attributes hold boys and men in tight roles they are rigidly
socialized to portray, whereas girls and women are given more freedom to express themselves. Boys
and men are especially held within the restraints of what is determined as acceptable by cultural norms.
For instance, girls are allowed to be strong and independent, but it is unacceptable for boys to cry or to
need assistance from others, therefore confining boys within the restrictions of masculinity [12]. Due
to this strict restriction on gender representation, it is unacceptable for men to display feelings of
sadness or being distraught, which can leave men unsure about how to properly deal with these
emotions. Additionally, when faced with negative emotional situations of relational termination, men
are stuck within the confines of masculinity, and therefore not socially allowed to express emotions
judged as feminine, in particular, expressing negative feelings. When placed in an emotionally trying
situation, men typically have fewer means, particularly through socialization, to express or deal with
the resulting emotions, which allows for the potential of distraction through a rebound relationship.
Several key variables that are representative of these differences in gender socialization will next be
explored, particularly as they might manifest a connection to rebound relationships.
2.3. Lee’s Love Styles
The way individuals approach love and relationships is yet another aspect in which men and women
differ. Lee [6] argues that there are certain tendencies that both sexes unconsciously use to approach
romantic connections. The three primary styles of love are eros (romantic, passionate love), storge
(friendship love), and ludus (game playing love); with three secondary love styles consisting of
combinations created from the primary styles: mania (possessive love), agape (selfless love), and
pragma (practical love) [6,15].
The typologies developed by Lee are centered on the types of relationships people form instead of
based on the individuals themselves. Lee [6] also found individuals to portray different love styles
simultaneously within different relationships. However, there are noted patterns of certain
classifications men and women tend to portray. Although individuals can utilize different love styles
simultaneously based on their interpersonal needs, there are consistencies in the usage of particular
styles based on sex type. Men tend to be more ludic or game-playing lovers, whereas women are
mostly pragma lovers [15,16]. Ludic individuals tend to view love as a game, in which it is ideal to be
carefree in the dating scene, be content with more than one partner at a time, and keep relationships at
a relatively superficial and noncommittal level. Pragma, or practical, love style consists of individuals
who seek certain desirable qualities in a partner before beginning a relationship in order to find an
optimal match, but who also want to be confident that the relationship will work well to satisfy their
basic needs [16–18].
Since women and men have notably different approaches to relationships and love styles, there
might be a correlation between this difference and how each handles relationship dissolution. One
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noteworthy explanation of how males’ and females’ traditional socialization tendencies affect
approaches to relationships comes from Dion and Dion [19]. They propose that women have a more
pragmatic approach to relationships and marriage rather than being guided by idealistic reasons, which
is also supported by Hendrick and Hendrick [15]. Women typically have contributed less to the family
system economically, which influences the standard of living based on their choice of husband [19,20].
Men differ from this approach significantly because they have been socialized to be self-sufficient,
and, therefore, they create their own standard of living rather than depending on their spouses [19,20].
Women’s more practical approach to finding a partner, which involves a more specific set of
characteristics they desire in that partner [15,16], should in turn make them more aware of different
dimensions within the dyad. This awareness and “checklist” type of approach to relationships could
help them be more conscious and evaluative of problems, differences, and the overall future of the
romantic connection. The pragma love style is known for creating rational calculations based on
attributes portrayed by the current or potential lover, also referred to as “love planning”. Men, on the
other hand, absorb the ludic love style, which avoids emotional intensity within themselves and from
their partners [15]. Now, this avoidance of emotional intensity might intuitively suggest that men
would be less distressed by breakups than women, rather than more. Furthermore, this might indeed be
the case for superficial relationships without commitment and/or a declaration of love. However, we
believe that quite the opposite is likely for relationships that have progressed to a level of depth,
long-term commitment, and perhaps love [10,11]. In other words, because of their generally
nonchalant approach to involvements, men might be blindsided by how to handle strong emotional
connections once those feelings are finally noticed and perceived, that is, once men shift from a
game-playing approach as they fall in love with a particular significant other.
2.4. Parental Investment Theory
Parental investment is the contributions and responsibilities parents will have to endure in order to
provide and ensure their offspring’s best reproductive success [7]. Essentially, this is the cost that
parents will have to take responsibility for when having offspring. Bjorklund and Shackelford support
this theoretical perspective through their observation that conflict arises between males and females in
relationships over how much should be invested in mating versus how much in parenting [21] Parental
investment also implies that males and females carry different duties and responsibilities within mating
and to their offspring. Females are inherently burdened with carrying and providing for the fetus from
the time of conception to birth, and thereafter they assume the role of primary caregiver because the
offspring feeds from its mother until weaned. Males have relatively low investment for the
reproduction of their offspring, which is basically their “replenishable” sperm [21–23].
The weight of responsibility on males and females influences the approaches taken when
considering mate selection. According to Kenrick, Sadalla, Groth, and Trost [24], typically women
would be investing the most into a relationship, therefore leading to the notion that they will be picky
when selecting a mate. Men, who typically invest the least, would be more competitive towards
potential threats or imposers. Bjorklund and Kipp [22] state that when women are trying to choose
their partners, there are numerous qualities that are observed to determine whether or not the man is a
good mate. Women not only take into account whether their partners will be able to provide the
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necessary resources to take care of her and their potential children, but also whether or not good genes
will be passed along. This approach assumed by women is seen as a more cautious and selective
strategy [22]. Women have more potential investments than do men, which leads them to be more
selective with their sexual partners. Men naturally have little involvement in the reproduction process,
simply providing their sperm, and they are less likely to assume the primary care position, therefore
allowing them to be less selective in partners than women because of their potential lack of investment
in any offspring that results [23]. Women, therefore, are more selective than men when considering
romantic relations due to differing amounts of potential investment made, which further supports the
idea that women are more relationally aware than men. Although it takes a more distinctly
evolutionary approach, some of the findings in research based on sexual strategies theory also support
this analysis. For example, Buss and Schmitt [25] found that men preferred larger numbers of sexual
relationships within a given time frame and were less selective about sexual mates.
This relates to and shares similarities with the types of love styles that are adopted by males and
females. As previously stated, women are more future-oriented, cautious, and trait-oriented in
approaching serious relationships due to their pragma love style and inherent investment in offspring.
The result of this circumspective method is that women are more consciously attuned to the
relationship and whether or not it has a future. They are better able to adjust, prepare, know, and act
upon their feelings of discontentment when a relationship is not meeting their needs or “checklist”.
Therefore, women become more aware of issues present within a relationship, which creates a sense of
preparedness regarding the relational termination [1]. Men, on the other hand, are more competitive,
less invested, and detached from this conscious awareness of relational direction. They are less likely
to look for the characteristics or traits in support of parent investment, and are less concerned about the
nature of the relationship. Men’s naivety can cause them to be unaware that a current relationship has
already been cancelled by their partner, due to her concerns about whether investment and other
criteria are being met. Therefore, men can be more taken aback by relational termination and, once
again, not sure how to properly sort through their emotions.
2.5. Social Support Networks
When examining the social support networks for males and females, there are clear, noticeable
differences in the size and usage of the networks. Several researchers conclude that a social support
network is comprised of individuals who have a relationship with the individual supported, and
provide an assortment of resources to that individual [26,27]. Social support is an exchanging of
positive affective states between individuals that can help to decrease certain reactions linked to
negative mental states [28]. These support systems that individuals build help to provide relief from
negative events. An increase in positive benefits, such as feelings of belonging, intimacy, sense of
self-worth and control, can be given and received from support networks [29,30]. Having a strong
social support system offers many positive advantages for individuals who are at times struggling. We
have a tendency to search for companionship or social contact, which is most likely caused by our
need for affiliation, social comparison, and intimacy [31]. In general, having a good support system is
strongly desired and extremely helpful during times of distress.
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Men and women often have different types of support systems, from their size to the purpose they
serve. Rueger, Malecki, and Demaray [8,32] suggest that girls and women are more likely to use their
social networks for support than are boys and men. Women report that their networks supplied many
different functions, that they received more emotional support from their networks than did men, and
that men have less affective or emotional social participation than do women. Men isolate the number
of confidants they acquire and most tend to only have one, their spouse, which leaves them quite
vulnerable [28]. When a dyad is no longer together, women will be able to turn to their support
systems for the psychological protection and collaboration to manage their upsets. Men have fewer
individuals they can rely on and turn to for the same support, especially considering that their primary
confidant was their now absent partner. Day and Livingstone [33] found that women are more likely to
confide in others and men are more independent and refrain from expressing their emotions, which is
created from the socialization to which both sexes are subjected. This scenario, once again, leaves men
lost about how to cope with their upset feelings and negative emotions.
Overall, the provided explanations display how women are taught to encircle themselves with many
different relationships, are pragma lovers who are hesitant and picky when choosing partners, and are
high in parental investment, all of which supports their selective nature; also, they have a vast support
system to help them manage relational dissolutions. On the contrary, men are socialized to be less
experienced within romantic relationships, are ludic lovers who are often taken aback by relational
dissolution, are less invested and selective in relationships, and have fewer support networks to help
them navigate through a break-up. Therefore, men are less adaptive to, equipped for, and prepared for
relational terminations.
Subsequently, the above summarization leads to predictions regarding previously discussed
variables, such as gender socialization, love styles, parental investment, and social support, and the
effects of relational termination on an individual.
H1: Because of differences in gender socialization, love styles, parental investment, and social
support, males experience greater emotional distress in the aftermath of a breakup than do females.
More specifically, this study poses hypotheses aimed at predicting the love styles predominately
established by men and women, and apparent social support. The addition and contribution of gender
socialization and parental investment reinforce the established argument, but will not be precisely
accounted for within the study’s survey. The following hypotheses are to re-establish (through
replication of previous findings—see the cited references above) the importance of love styles and
social support.
H2: Women are more likely to display the pragma love style, whereas men will be more
ludic lovers.
H3: Female participants have more social support than do men.
Now, how do men cope with the distress from break-ups? The following section explores and
provides insight into the types of coping mechanisms that men employ to assist in handling negative
emotional arousal, which then suggests a possible connection with rebound relationships.
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2.6. Coping Mechanisms and Rebound Relationships
There are a variety of ways or approaches for coping with taxing occurrences, and of course there is
a noticeable difference in strategies men and women will employ. Coping mechanisms are employed
by individuals in attempts to resolve difficulties or manage their internal or external demands that are
challenging to their psychological resources [34,35]. Choo et al. ([9], p. 261) state that “men tend to
use emotional distraction or dampening techniques following breakups, involving such things as
burying themselves in work or sports to forget or ignore the pain resulting from the recent breakup”.
There are other means of coping that men will utilize, such as avoidance or physical recreation [8].
Therefore, men will try to avoid the negative thoughts or emotions that are correlated with the
relational dissolution by focusing their attention elsewhere, which suggests the possibility that men
could also very easily distract themselves by means of another relationship. This then introduces the
idea that men could be more likely than women to enter into rebound-type relationships after relational
termination as a way to redirect themselves away from the negative emotions associated with the
recent break-up.
Rebound relationships, for the purpose of this study, are considered romantic relationships
subsequent to the breakup of a serious relationship for the purpose of alleviating distress associated
with the breakup. These relationships are initiated within a short period of time after the relational
termination—an average of 6.23 weeks—and are relatively superficial in nature [5]. This definition
was empirically determined in a previous study by examining and coding participants’ responses to a
question about how rebound relationships should be defined [5]. Rebound relationships are relatively
under researched, possibly because the work that has been done is inconclusive about whether these
types of relationships even exist. This is seen in the work of Nicholas Wolfinger, who wanted to test
for a rebound effect after marriage, which resulted in “a single straightforward finding: there is no
rebound effect” ([36], p. 18). On the other hand, the research of Spielmann, Macdonald, and Wilson [37]
suggests that the rebound effect is real, a way of detaching emotionally from ex-partners by focusing
on new partners. There are fundamental aspects that are to be surveyed, which should create clarity for
this relational form. There appears to be an underlying gender effect, which posits that one sex is more
likely to enter into these relationships than the other. This notion is based on the previously offered
explanations for why men do not manage relational dissolutions well, and the idea that men tend to use
distraction as an emotional coping mechanism, causing them to be more prone to jump into rebound
relationships than women. In research thus far, there is no apparent correlation between men’s coping
mechanisms and the tendency or likelihood for men to become involved in rebound-type relationships.
However, upon looking closely at the social and relational characteristics of men, such a correlation
could potentially be established.
More specifically, this likely difference between distress levels of males and females, and the
likelihood of seeking out rebound relationships as a means of coping with the overbearing negative
emotions associated with relational terminations, suggest the following:
H4: Males are more likely than females to enter into subsequent rebound relationships as a coping
mechanism for dealing with higher distress levels.
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3. Methodology
3.1. Participants
Participants (N = 201) were enlisted from varying communication studies courses at a
medium-sized southern university. Institutional Review Board approval was obtained before data
collection began. The sample consisted of 107 females (53.23%) and 91 males (45.27%), with a mean
age of 21.76 (SD = 4.04) and an age range from 18–62. Approximately 58.7% were Caucasian, 17.9%
were African-American, 12.9% were Hispanic, 4% were Asian, 11% were of mixed ethnicity, and 3%
were other ethnicity. The approximate educational classification of the participants was 8% freshmen,
22.9% sophomores, 30.3% juniors, and 36.3% seniors. Also, the marital status or relational
classification of the participants consisted of 44.3% single, 8.5% casually dating, 31.8% seriously
dating, 8.5% engaged, 4.5% married, and 1% divorced. Additionally, 26.4% of the participants
considered themselves to be the breakup recipient (in their most recent breakup), 52.7% of participants
were the breakup initiator, 16.4% of participants were involved in a mutual breakup, and 4.5% had
never experienced a breakup before. The communication studies courses utilized ranged from basic to
upper level classes, which offered a variation in student demographics, such as classification.
3.2. Survey Basics
The purpose of this survey was to gain a more in-depth look at rebound relationships and the
developed variables. The survey was a combination of scales focusing on love styles, social support,
emotional distress after the most recent breakup, rebound relationships, emotional attachment to the
most recent ex-partner, the perception of the break-up message used, and demographic information.
3.3. Survey Makeup
Lee’s love styles were measured through 42 love items provided in the Love Attitudes Scales [15].
The respondents were to answer using a 5-point Likert scale, where 1 = strongly disagree,
2 = moderately disagree, 3 = neutral, 4 = moderately agree, and 5 = strongly agree. These scales were
used to classify which love style each respondent fell into, such as eros (Cronbach’s α = 0.75), ludus
(Cronbach’s α = 0.65), storge (Cronbach’s α = 0.70), pragma (Cronbach’s α = 0.77), mania
(Cronbach’s α = 0.75), and agape (Cronbach’s α = 0.83).
Social support was measured through the use of 12 items from a revised edition of the
Multidimensional Scale of Perceived Social Support [38], which used a 7-point Likert scale ranging
from 1 = strongly disagree to 7 = strongly agree. Participants were asked to respond to statements
concerning social support, such as “There is a special person who is around when I am in need” and “I
get the emotional help and support I need from my family.” The internal reliability of the scale was
found to be strong at 0.86 (Cronbach’s α).
The next section of the survey focused on involvement in rebound relationships. A combination of
questions was used to assess the respondents’ past and future involvement in rebound relationships.
The first question addressed whether or not the respondents had been involved in a rebound
relationship, which was followed by a question about how frequently they had been in such a
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relationship based on a 5-point Likert scale of 1 = rarely, 2 = infrequently, 3 = sometimes, 4 = often,
and 5 = very often. The next two questions about rebounds were hypothetical in nature. The
respondents were asked how likely they were to be involved in rebound relationships in the future,
which was measured using a 7-point Likert scale ranging from 1 = very unlikely to 7 = very likely. The
final question addressed how likely it is that rebound relationships occur in general, which was
measured on a 7-point Likert scale ranging from 1 = very unlikely to 7 = very likely. Overall rebound
tendency was computed by combining scores for two items, personal rebound frequency and
likelihood of personal future rebounds. Because both the individual items represented some aspect of
rebound tendency, we believe this combination of items was justified and produced a more valid
overall measure. The internal reliability of this combined scale was 0.64 (Cronbach’s α). Because of
concern that possible negative connotations of the word “rebound” might bias respondents against
admitting to being involved in rebounds, the word was not used in any of these questions, nor
anywhere else in the survey. Instead, the definition of rebounds arrived at in other empirical research,
and referred to above [5], was used. That definition given to participants was “a romantic relationship
that was initiated soon after a previous relationship breakup, used to help cope with emotional distress
being experienced, and which was likely at least somewhat superficial in nature”.
Following the rebound section, emotional distress due to the most recent break-up was measured
using the Intensity and Duration of Emotional Distress Index [39]. The respondents answered three
items concerning intensity: “Immediately after the breakup, how difficult was it for you to make an
emotional adjustment?” “Immediately after the breakup occurred, to what extent did it disrupt your
typical, everyday functioning and routine?” “How upset were you immediately after the break-up?”
These questions were answered based on a 7-point Likert scale where 1 = not at all and 7 = a great
deal/extremely. The respondents then answered three items focused on duration: “How long did it take
you to make an emotional adjustment after the breakup?” “How long were you upset after the
breakup?” “How long did the breakup disrupt your typical, everyday functioning and routine?” An
8-point Likert scale was utilized when responding, where 1 = 1 week or less and 8 = about 2 months or
more. As suggested by Simpson [39], all 6 items were combined to create a more reliable index. In the
current study, for the first section of scales focusing on distress intensity, internal reliability was 0.88
(Cronbach’s α). The second section of the scales determined the duration of distress, and was found to
have internal reliability of 0.89 (Cronbach’s α). The combination of these scales had a very strong
internal reliability as well (Cronbach’s α = 0.92).
To further our knowledge of emotional distress and rebound relationships, a measure of emotional
attachment to the most recent ex-partner from a romantic relationship was included due to its
relationship to emotional distress. Emotional attachment was measured through Spielmann,
MacDonald, and Wilson’s [37] adapted version of Wegner and Gold’s hot- versus cold-flame
questionnaire. The respondents used a 5-point Likert scale, where 1 = strongly disagree and
5 = strongly agree, when replying to four items: “Sometimes I still get sort of an aching feeling in my
heart when I think about my ex-partner”; “I am still in love with my ex-partner”; “If my ex-partner
could come back into my life, I would immediately leave any current relationship I was in”; and
“Losing my ex was the worst thing that ever happened to me.” Internal reliability of this measure was
found to be strong (Cronbach’s α = 0.85).
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Respondents were then asked to provide, from their most recent breakup, the message that was
communicated to indicate that the relationship was over. This was an open-ended question, which
allowed for freedom in response, and it was designed in part to prompt recall of the situation so that an
evaluation of that message could be assessed in a follow-up question. Two researchers separately
developed a set of identifiable categories that they felt represented the respondents’ perceived reasons
delivered within the breakup message. The researchers then revealed to one another the categories they
had developed and worked to establish one set of agreed upon reasons that best represented the
breakup messages given by the respondents. The researchers, separately, coded each message using the
established reasons. The breakup messages frequently contained multiple reasons, therefore allowing
the researchers to apply more than a singular reason to the messages. Scott’s pi, a standard statistic for
assessing intercoder reliability, was employed.
The reasons found within the breakup messages were: no reason given (99% agreement, Scott’s pi
was 0.97), dislike from family and/or friends (99% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.66), infidelity (98.5%
agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.86), physical distance (100% agreement), difference in interests, values,
and goals (97% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.85), desire for independence (96.5% agreement, Scott’s pi
was 0.52), interest in another (100% agreement), difference in commitment level (90% agreement,
Scott’s pi was 0.36), boredom (99% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.50), lack of attraction (98.5%
agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.66), trust and/or jealousy issues (98% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.79),
altercations (98.5% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.85), other’s personal issues (96% agreement, Scott’s pi
was 0.71), communication problems (95.5% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.5), unmet emotional needs
(96% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.73), unresponsiveness (97.5% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.69),
issues with alcohol and/or drugs (100% agreement), better as friends (99% agreement, Scott’s pi was
0.9), feelings faded (96.5% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.79), relationship timing (97% agreement,
Scott’s pi was 0.83), and breakup was mutual (99% agreement, Scott’s pi was 0.95).
The follow-up item (referred to above) was that respondents were next asked to assess how
positively or negatively the message was perceived using a 7-point Likert scale, ranging from 1 = very
negatively to 7 = very positively. Demographic characteristics of the respondents were collected at the
end of the survey.
3.4. Data Analysis
All of the data analyses were performed using the Statistical Package for the Social Sciences
(SPSS). Specifically, two versions of a General Linear Model (GLM) with a variation to the initial
GLM, were used to test all hypotheses. Two GLMs were used primarily in order to examine emotional
distress as both an outcome and predictor variable. Recall that emotional distress has been
conceptualized as something that would depend upon a number of social and psychological factors, but
which should also predict rebound tendencies.
4. Results
4.1. Hypothesis 1
The logic of the literature review and rationale suggested that males would experience greater
emotional distress in the aftermath of a breakup than would females. A GLM (GLM I) was constructed
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that included relationship history (breakup initiator or recipient), gender, and the evaluation of the
breakup message as independent variables, with overall emotional distress, intensity of distress, and
duration of distress as dependent variables. However, the results of GLM I showed no significant
relationship of gender to any of the measures of emotional distress.
4.2. Hypothesis 2
A modified version of GLM I was constructed to examine the hypothesis that females would exhibit
the pragma love style more, whereas males would exhibit more of the ludus love style. The modified
GLM I only changed with the addition of game playing love or ludus love style, pragmatic love or
pragma love style, and social support as dependent variables. This hypothesis was partially supported.
Gender was found to be a significant predictor of the ludus love style or game playing love,
F (1, 158) = 13.75, p < 0.0001, partial η
2
= 0.08. Males (M = 2.53, SD = 0.79) did indeed score higher
on ludus than females (M = 2.10, SD = 0.60). However, there was no significant difference between
the sexes regarding the pragma love style (for females, M = 3.48, SD = 0.71; for males,
M = 3.47, SD = 0.79).
4.3. Hypothesis 3
The modified GLM I was also used to evaluate the expectation that women rely more on social
support than do men. This hypothesis was confirmed. Gender was found to be a significant predictor of
social support, F (1, 158) = 8.30, p = 0.0025, partial η
2
= 0.05. Females (M = 6.15, SD = 0.74) reported
perceived social support more than males (M = 5.82, SD = 0.81).
4.4. Hypothesis 4
Because it was expected that males would have higher distress levels in reaction to relational
breakups, this hypothesis predicted that males would be more likely to enter into subsequent rebound
relationships. Although it has already been shown that males did not suffer from higher distress levels
than females, an unexpected finding was that males (M = 2.30, SD = 1.18) experienced greater levels
of emotional attachment to ex-partners than did females (M = 1.85, SD = 0.97), t(155.50) = 2.77,
p = 0.006. Emotional attachment was measured for its possible relation to emotional distress, and,
therefore, it was not expected to produce such a finding so distinct and apart from emotional distress.
In addition, it has already been shown that males exhibited more ludic love style tendencies than
females (see H3 results above). A second GLM (GLM II) was constructed that included gender,
relationship history, and the two love styles most likely to be influential (ludus and pragma) as the
factorial predictors, with emotional attachment, social support, and emotional distress as covariates and
rebound frequency, likelihood of future rebounds, and overall rebound tendency as dependent
variables. As a complement to the H3 results, GLM II results demonstrated an influence of the ludus
love style on rebound tendencies, Wilks’ λ = 0.92, F (2, 96) = 4.33, p = 0.008, partial η
2
= 0.083. In the
case of ludus love style and rebound tendency overall, F (1, 97) = 8.14, p = 0.005, partial η
2
= 0.08.
When looking at ludus love style and rebound frequency, F (1, 97) = 7.47, p = 0.007, partial η
2
= 0.07.
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Additionally, ludus love style was related to entering future rebounds, F (1, 97) = 5.17,
p = 0.025, partial η
2
= 0.05.
Therefore, because gender was so strongly related to the variables of emotional attachment and the
ludus love style, a final version of GLM II was constructed that excluded those two variables as
predictors. The results of the testing of this model demonstrated support for H4. The overall model
results demonstrated a significant impact of gender on the rebound tendency variables, Wilks’
λ = 0.91, F (2, 99) = 4.83, p =.005, partial η
2
= 0.09. The specific results showed that gender had a
significant impact on each of the three measures of rebound tendency. In the case of rebound tendency
overall, males (M = 5.51, SD = 2.15) scored higher than females (M = 4.15, SD = 2.15),
F (1, 100) = 8.24, p = 0.003, partial η
2
= 0.08. For rebound frequency, males (M = 2.29, SD = 1.20)
also scored higher than females (M = 1.92, SD = 0.98), F (1, 100) = 2.74, p = 0.05, partial η
2
= 0.03.
Finally, males (M = 3.22, SD = 1.70) indicated a greater tendency toward future rebounds than females
(M = 2.23, SD = 1.51), F (1, 100) = 9.75, p = 0.001, partial η
2
= 0.09.
Finally, because emotional attachment and ludus love style were associated with rebound tendency
overall and were higher for males than females, and because males exhibited more rebound tendency
overall than females, it was suspected that emotional attachment and ludus might mediate the
connection between gender and rebound tendency overall. Using the four steps proposed by Baron and
Kenny [40] for testing for mediation effects, it was found that emotional attachment and the ludus love
style did in fact mediate between gender and rebound tendency overall (see Figure 1). First, linear
regression demonstrated that gender was correlated with rebound tendency overall, B = 1.31, t = 2.92,
p = 0.004. Second, the regression also showed that gender significantly predicted the potential
mediator of emotional attachment, B = 0.46, t = 3.25, p = 0.001. Third, in a regression that included
gender and emotional attachment as predictors, emotional attachment significantly predicted rebound
tendency overall, B = 0.71, t = 3.63, p = 0.0004. Fourth, the results of step three show a partial
mediation effect because sex was still related to rebound tendency, though not with statistical
significance, B = 0.84, t = 1.86, p = 0.07.
Figure 1. Emotional attachment to ex-partner and ludus love style mediates the connection
between gender and rebound tendency.
With regard to ludus as a mediator, it was shown that, using linear regression, gender significantly
predicted ludus, as men were found to be more ludic, B = 0.42, t = 4.07, p = 0.0001. Next, ludus
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significantly predicted rebound tendency overall, B = 1.02, t = 3.27, p = 0.001. Because sex was still
related to rebound tendency, but without statistical significance (B = 0.78, t = 1.73, p = 0.09), partial
mediation was established for ludus as an intervening variable between gender and rebound
tendency (see Figure 1).
A more current method of mediation analysis, one that is generally considered more accurate, also
confirmed and clarified these results. This method, which uses a bootstrapping procedure through a
computer program by Hayes [41] called Process used in conjunction with SPSS, produced the
following results. First, it showed that, indeed, when ludus and emotional attachment were included
along with gender as part of a model predictive of rebound tendency, gender was no longer a
significant predictor of rebound tendency (coeff = 0.49, t = 1.09, p = 0.28) while both ludus
(coeff = 0.93, t = 3.03, p = 0.003) and emotional attachment (coeff = 0.57, t = 2.92, p = 0.004) were
significant predictors. In addition, this method provided a path analysis clearly demonstrating that there
were significant indirect effects of gender on rebound tendency through both ludus (effect = 0.40, p = 0.03,
95% CI = 0.18–1.01) and emotional attachment (effect = 0.39, p = 0.03, 95% CI = 0.09–0.96).
A second overall model tested using Process was the same as the first, except that emotional
distress and social support were included as covariates. The results were quite similar, though not
identical. In the model predicting rebound tendency, gender was, again, not a significant predictor
(coeff = 0.48, t = 1.06, p = 0.29), while ludus (coeff = 0.95, t = 2.95, p = 0.004) and emotional
attachment (coeff = 0.52, t = 2.21, p = 0.003) were significant predictors. Neither of the two covariates
were significant predictors of rebound tendency. The only substantive difference was in the path
analysis, which continued to show a significant indirect effect of gender on rebound tendency through
ludus (effect = 0.43, p = 0.03, 95% CI = 0.10–1.02), while the indirect effect of gender on rebound
tendency through emotional attachment approached significance (effect = 0.32, p = 0.07, 95%
CI = 0.02–0.78). It appears likely that this change in the indirect effect through emotional attachment
was due to the fact that two highly correlated predictors were both included in the model, that is, a
bivariate correlation between emotional attachment and emotional distress was r = 0.46, p < 0.001.
Because our original rationale included examining emotional distress due to a break-up as both a
predictor (of rebound tendencies) variable and an outcome (of gender) variable, we decided to
construct a final Process model that would shed light on the path from gender to rebound tendency
through emotional distress as the mediator. The model itself showed that sex was not significantly
predictive of emotional distress, nor was emotional distress predictive of rebound tendency. Therefore, it
came as no surprise that the path analysis showed nothing approaching a significant indirect effect of
gender on rebound tendency through emotional distress (effect = 0.02, p = 0.82, 95% CI = 0.11–0.24).
Another note worth mentioning about the results is that, although social support did not emerge as a
statistically significant predictor of rebound tendencies within a GLM, a bivariate correlation did
reveal that social support was negatively related to future rebound tendency (r = 0.12, p = 0.05).
There was also a negative relationship of social support to rebound frequency that approached
significance (r = 0.13, p = 0.08) and a similar relationship of social support to overall rebound
tendency (r = 0.14, p = 0.06).
Finally, an unexpected finding was that women (M = 4.10, SD = 0.63) exhibited the eros love style
more than men (M = 3.87, SD = 0.76), t = 2.25, df = 184, p = 0.03.
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5. Discussion
There were several variables that focused on gender differences, which the literature and rationale
developed as a key identifier as to who would enter rebound relationships. The results concerning
whether males or females would experience higher levels of emotional distress after a breakup (H1)
showed no significant difference between the two. Gender was also evaluated based on love styles. It
was thought that women would display more of the pragma love style, whereas men would exhibit
ludic tendencies (H2). Partial support was found for this hypothesis, that men were indeed more ludic,
but there was no significant difference between the genders on pragma love style. There was an
unexpected finding that women were found to display the eros love style more than men, which has no
connection to the rationale provided for this study. Any interpretation of this finding as it would
pertain to emotional distress and rebound relationships would be highly speculative at this point. In
H3, the study sought to demonstrate that women rely more on social support than do men, which was
indeed supported by the findings. In conjunction with the established rationale, women have networks
that they can confide in and turn to for support during difficult times, whereas men are more
independent and tend to rely on themselves [28,33]. Although social support did not turn up as a
significant predictor of rebound tendencies in the GLM in which it was included, the direction of that
relationship was as expected. This indicates that social support might contribute somewhat to rebound
tendencies, especially in light of the most essential gender finding discussed below.
This finding was that males were more likely to enter into a rebound relationship than women, as
suggested by H4, but not apparently as a means of coping with emotional distress, which H4 also
presumed. Although emotional distress was eliminated due to insignificant findings, males were found
to have higher emotional attachment for their ex-partners than women. As previously reported, males
were also found to display more ludus love style. Initially, GLM II did not portray significant findings
for gender as a predictor of rebound tendencies. However, because both emotional attachment and the
ludus love style were strongly correlated with gender, the GLM II was revised leaving those two
variables out. This revision resulted in gender emerging as a significant influence on rebound
tendencies, with males more likely to enter rebound relationships than women. Finding that emotional
attachment and ludus were associated with rebound tendencies and gender, and that males displayed
more rebound tendencies, it was suspected that mediation effects might be occurring. The Baron and
Kenny [40] four-step process demonstrated the occurrence of mediation in both cases: emotional
attachment and ludus mediated the relationship between gender and rebound tendencies. These results
were largely supported as well by the method of mediation analysis described by Hayes [41]. They not
only provide a solid empirical foundation for the existence of rebound relationships, but also the
additive of significant relationships between variables. The essential interpretation of these findings is
that while males do exhibit greater rebound tendencies, they do so largely because of the stronger
emotional attachment they have to ex-partners as well as their own ludic tendencies. An initial
response to this is that because the ludus love style involves avoiding emotional intensity in
relationships, how can it be that men also scored higher in emotional attachment to ex-partners, and
what does this combination of findings have to do with increased rebound tendencies for men? Upon
closer inspection, we believe the answers become clearer. While men appear to be more likely to treat
relationships in general with less emotional intensity (as in the ludus love style), this does not imply
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that once they “fall” for someone else and begin a committed romantic relationship that includes
feelings of love that they will continue to approach that particular relationship with the same lower
level of emotional intensity. Furthermore, if that is indeed the case, they might be prime candidates for
experiencing high levels of emotional attachment to the ex-partner once that special, committed, loving
relationship does dissolve. Indeed, this higher level of emotional attachment that men experience to
ex-partners from intense relationships might very well be, in part, because they have not been involved
in as many of them as women have (due to ludic tendencies) and, hence, are unfamiliar with how to
cope with such dissolutions. This situation implies an immediate need for a coping strategy, a strategy
that appears for many men to take the form of a distracting rebound relationship, especially
considering the relative lack of social support systems that men also appear to have.
A broader theoretical implication is that it appears that males do not enter rebounds more often
because of some biologically based need to get on with another relationship, but instead because of
more socially learned experiences and characteristics that compel them in that direction. Although
these mediated effects were unexpected, they do strengthen and add understanding to the overall
argument and finding that men are more likely to enter rebound relationships than women.
Limitations
One specific limitation of this study involves the recall and evaluation of breakup messages.
Participants were asked to recount that message through answering an open-ended question and to rate
how negatively or positively they perceived the breakup message to be. Because there were no
significant findings concerning the evaluation of these messages, the decision was made not to pursue
whether the specific type of message might have some influence. Perhaps future research should revisit
these types of messages, as well as other communicative issues surrounding the initiation and
development of rebound relationships.
Another limitation was that the sample was limited to college students. It appears plausible that the
motivations and experiences prompting involvement in rebounds could be different for this age group
as compared to an older sample, and research is needed to assess this possibility.
Finally, the study’s basic methodology represents another limitation. Asking participants to recall
memories about past relationships has and will continue to be used in relationships research, but it does
have the potential for inaccuracy due to faulty memory. Additional research that uses other
methodologies (e.g., diary keeping about current relationships, as in Ragsdale [42]) is, therefore, needed.
6. Conclusions
This study sheds light on the development of rebound relationships, which have been overlooked
and understudied by researchers. Men were predicted and found to be more likely to enter rebound
relationships, but due to strong emotional attachments to ex-partners and their ludic nature rather than
to experiencing high levels of emotional distress. Preliminary research found that these relationships
occur after a relational termination, help cope emotionally with the previous relational termination, are
rather superficial in nature, and occur shortly after the previous relational termination. Rebound
relationships are largely uncharted territory, therefore opening many avenues for future research
essential to the understanding of these kinds of relationships. Specifically, the application of
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attachment theory to the partner who assumes the role of rebounder might shed light on the strength of
the rebound relationship, as well as its duration. In the current study, the primary focus was on the role
of gender in the initiation of rebound relationships. Therefore, we felt that the inclusion of attachment
theory was beyond the scope of this study, especially considering that there appears to be little to no
evidence connecting gender to particular attachment styles. Another source for potential research is the
development of rebound relationships through the analysis of stage theory and comparison to the
development of regular romantic relationships. Additionally, it might be helpful to develop a rationale
in the future to examine the eros love style and its connection to rebound relationships since it turned
up an unexpected finding in this study related to gender. Also, research on self-construal, especially
regarding any gender differences in interdependent versus independent self-construals [43], might shed
additional light on both the precursors of rebound relationships and the ways in which rebound
relationships are negotiated and conducted. Lastly, it might be productive to shift the focus on the
partners involved in the rebound relationship through the lens of equity theory, which determines
relational satisfaction based on partner’s perceptions of how equitable the relationship is [44].
Determining whether those involved in rebound relationships feel under- or over-benefitted [44] might
provide insight into the differences in perception the partners have of the relationship, as well as
differences between rebound and non-rebound relationships regarding levels of equity.
In conclusion, we believe the findings from this study not only provide evidence for some of the
precursors of rebound relationships, but also create a foundation for future research by opening the
door further to an under-studied dimension of romantic relationships.
Conflicts of Interest
The authors declare no conflict of interest.
Author Contributions
Cassie Shimek was responsible for the idea conceptualization and most of the research and writing
concerning the literature review and rationale. She also was largely responsible for the design of the
survey. Richard Bello contributed most of the statistical analysis and much of the writing of the results,
discussion, and conclusion. However, it is important to note that the authors collaborated to some
degree on virtually all sections of this study.
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... Thus social forces may encourage men to conceal emotions by actively suppressing thoughts, avoiding reminders or cutting-off contact with their ex-partners (Shimek & Bello, 2014). Further, males may seek to avoid negative emotions related to the relationship breakup by distracting themselves with alternate activities such as fitness, work or recreation or redirecting their attention towards forming a new relationship ( Shimek & Bello, 2014). The results of the current study suggest that males may benefit more from engaging in strategies that enable them to avoid or distract themselves from the breakup as they may perceive less control and thereby feel less able to deal directly with relationship issues than women in this domain. ...
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The development and maintenance of romantic relationships has been a central focus of psychological research over the past few decades, whilst the dissolution of such relationships has received significantly less attention. This is of growing concern, as sociological changes indicate that the number of individuals experiencing non-marital relationship breakups is on the rise. Whilst previous research suggests that the dissolution of such relationships is likely to end in heartache, recent studies indicate that some individuals bounce back and exhibit positive adjustment. To date, little is known about how and why some individuals fare better than others. Furthermore, available research has primarily focused on trait-like factors that predict post-breakup distress, offering little opportunity for intervention. This raises two important questions: What individual characteristics and coping strategies are related to positive post-breakup adjustment? And, can we identify trainable factors that offer opportunity for intervention? This thesis sought to explore these questions in two research studies and a research practicum. Study one aimed to identify positive psychological factors (e.g. mindfulness, optimism, hope, self-esteem and self-compassion) associated with adjustment following the breakdown of a non-marital relationship. Findings indicated that positive psychological factors were strongly related on post-breakup adjustment, over and above the circumstances of a relationship breakup. Further, the factors related to poor adjustment (lower mindfulness, self-esteem and optimism) differed somewhat from those related to positive adjustment (greater mindfulness, hope and self-compassion). These findings suggest that clinicians could usefully focus on building dual pathways to post-breakup resilience. Based on the findings of study one, an experimental single case design study was conducted to investigate the therapeutic benefits of a brief online self-compassion intervention designed to help people cope with relationship breakups. Findings indicated that a majority of participants reported improvements in self-compassion, breakup distress, affect and wellbeing after the intervention. These findings offer preliminary evidence that self-compassion may be a useful clinical tool for supporting individuals after the breakdown of a romantic relationship. Study two qualitatively explored the range and helpfulness of coping strategies employed by males and females after a relationship breakup. The main findings of the study indicated (i) a general consensus in the coping strategies reported most frequently by males and females, (ii) females tended to rate active forms of coping as more helpful, whilst males rated more avoidant forms of coping as more helpful, (iii) females and males who rated the helpfulness of coping strategies in this way, also tended to report greater wellbeing following the breakup. These surprising results are interpreted and discussed through the lens of role constraint theory. Taken together, these studies indicate that clinical interventions developed to assist individuals in the aftermath of a relationship breakup should consider the role of individual characteristics, social roles and coping strategies, and should seek to not only reduce distress but also build wellbeing and positive adaptation.
... The strongest case in point is a meta-analysis by Tamres, Janicki, and Helgeson (2002), which revealed that women are more likely to engage in active coping strategies such as seeking emotional support from friends, deliberating about the problem, or engaging in positive self-talk (Davis, Shaver, & Vernon, 2003). Coping behaviors most characteristic of men include "distraction," which is enacted by engaging in excessive work or sports (Choo et al., 1996), quickly entering rebound relationships (Shimek & Bello, 2014), or using more drugs or alcohol (Davis et al., 2003). This literature also suggests that women engage in more constructive coping than men do, which provides women with stronger feelings of closure, including greater assurance that their ex-partner was not a good partner for them. ...
... Men, by comparison, usually experience greater ambivalence, especially if they cope ineffectively with the new situation. As a result, men often remain emotionally attached longer (Shimek & Bello, 2014), are less likely to believe that their ex-partner was not right for them, and, consequently, should be more likely to preserve positive evaluations of their ex-partners. ...
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... The syndrome disturbs individuals' performance and causes harmful physical and psychological reactions that can persist for a long time (2). The breakup of a relationship can result in various issues, such as depression, anxiety, distress, pessimism, loss of focus, professional and educational failure, loss of appetite or overeating, altered libido, loss of motivation and energy, physical problems, and even suicide (4)(5)(6)(7). A breakup can be one-sided or mutual with an agreement. ...
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