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The specific importance of communicating about sex to couples’ sexual and overall relationship satisfaction

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This study examined the impact of general and sexual communication on couples’ overall and sexual satisfaction. Data were collected from 116 heterosexual, monogamous couples in relationships of at least three months’ duration. Open sexual communication accounted for unique variance in both sexual and overall relationship satisfaction; general communication effectiveness did so only for overall satisfaction. The relationship between open sexual communication and overall satisfaction was stronger for males, and the relationship between open sexual communication and sexual satisfaction was stronger for couples who had been together longer. The three-way interaction of open sexual communication, relationship length, and gender significantly predicted overall relationship satisfaction but not sexual satisfaction. Sexual satisfaction mediated the relationship between open sexual communication and overall satisfaction.
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... Given a plethora of previous research that suggests sexual disclosure predicts sexual, relational, and sexual communication satisfaction (Byers, 2011), and identity gaps predict relational and communication satisfaction (Jung, 2011(Jung, , 2013Jung & Hecht, 2004, it was predicted that both sexual disclosure and identity gaps contribute to satisfaction. Revealing sexual fears, fantasies, likes, dislikes, histories, and safety measures may lead directly to changes in the relationship because in addition to reflecting a communication climate in which that type of vulnerability is permitted, it allows the communication partners to make changes in their sexual relationship, which affects the overall quality of the relationship (Byers, 2011;Montesi et al., 2011;Noland, 2010). In addition, cognitive, behavioral, and affective dimensions of discrepancy or tension between parts of the self that occur in communication relate to satisfaction with the relationship and communication because they reflect relational partners' ability to affirm or undermine salient aspects of the self in communication. ...
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