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Who’s got the Upper Hand? Hand Holding Behaviors Among Romantic Couples and Families



The hand holding behavior of romantic couples and family dyads (n = 886) in public locations around Myrtle Beach, South Carolina was observed. Over 90 % of males in heterosexual romantic couples, parents in parent child pairs, and older siblings in child sibling pairs tended to place their hand on top when holding hands, displaying what we consider social dominance. Women holding hands with men in romantic relationships placed their hand under their partner’s hand, and women switched to have their hand on top when holding hands with a child. Results are discussed in relation to social dominance theory and social role theory, along with implications for equality among the sexes.
Whos got the Upper Hand? Hand Holding Behaviors
Among Romantic Couples and Families
Terry F. Pettijohn II &Shujaat F. Ahmed &
Audrey V. Dunlap &Lauren N. Dickey
#Springer Science+Business Media New York 2013
Abstract The hand holding behavior of romantic couples and family dyads (n=886)
in public locations around Myrtle Beach, South Carolina was observed. Over 90 % of
males in heterosexual romantic couples, parents in parent child pairs, and older
siblings in child sibling pairs tended to place their hand on top when holding hands,
displaying what we consider social dominance. Women holding hands with men in
romantic relationships placed their hand under their partners hand, and women
switched to have their hand on top when holding hands with a child. Results are
discussed in relation to social dominance theory and social role theory, along with
implications for equality among the sexes.
Keywords Hand holding .Equality among sexes .Social dominance .Social roles
Nonverbal behaviors offer a wealth of information about the social dynamics within
interpersonal relationships. When people hold hands, the hand holding behavior
communicates information that partners have some type of established relationship.
We do not just hold hands with strangers, but the way in which people hold hands
could indicate additional information about the status differential and equality be-
tween the couple. In order to hold hands, one partners hand must be on top with palm
facing back while the other partners hand is underneath, with palm facing up. Being
on top or in front may indicate superiority in body positioning (Brown 1965).
Similarly, Borden and Homleid (1978) found that males generally hold hands with
their dominant hand and thereby place their romantic partners on their dominant side
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DOI 10.1007/s12144-013-9175-4
Portions of this research were presented at the 22nd Annual Association for Psychological Science
Convention, Boston, MA.
T. F. Pettijohn II (*):S. F. Ahmed :A. V. Dunlap :L. N. Dickey
Department of Psychology, Coastal Carolina University, P.O. Box 261954, Conway, SC 29528-6054,
Present Address:
S. F. Ahmed
Illinois Institute of Technology, Chicago, IL, USA
(for the majority, this is the right side). Chapell and colleagues (1998) investigated
hand holding behaviors in romantic, college-aged, heterosexual couples and found
mens hands to be the upper hand significantly more often than womens. Differences
in height, age, hand preferences, ethnicity, culture, and sex of the person initiating the
hand holding were studied in a follow-up study of over 15,000 couples by Chapell
and colleagues (1999). Although there were some interesting variations, Chapell and
colleagues (1999) conclude the male hand on top sex difference is a robust
We wanted to replicate the male upper hand effect found in previous research
(Chapell et al. 1998,1999), as well as expand these investigations beyond romantic,
heterosexual couples to families. We predicted that when romantic couples hold
hands, the dominant partners hand will be on top. In our culture, despite advances,
men continue to maintain a hierarchal social advantage over women, due in part to the
way sexual stereotypes frame social relations (Ridgeway 2011). Consistent with
social dominance theory (for example, Sidanius and Pratto 1999,2012) and social
role theory (Eagly 1987,1996; Eagly and Wood 2012), men maintain dominance
over women. Within families, parents maintain dominance over children, and older
children maintain dominance over younger children.
Therefore, we predicted that: 1) Maleshands will be on top when holding the
hand of a female romantic partner; 2) Parents(malesand females) hands will be on
top when holding the hand of a child; and 3) Older childrens hands will be on top
when holding the hand of a younger child. While men are consistently considered
dominant, when women take on the social role of mother they become dominant over
their children, and their hand-holding behavior is thereby predicted to reverse.
The hand holding behaviors of 886 romantic couples and family dyads (80.1 %
Caucasian, 10.2 % African American, 6.4 % Hispanic, 2.5 % Asian, and .8 % other)
were observed in public locations along the beach, public parks, and popular tourist
shopping areas around the Myrtle Beach, South Carolina area during the summer.
Approximately 14 million tourists visit the Grand Strand each year, and the majority
include families (56 %) or couples (26 %) (Myrtle Beach Area Chamber of Com-
merce 2010).
Four independent observers, blind to the study hypotheses, naturally observed
each couple and family dyad in public and coded for observed sex (male or female),
race (Caucasian, African-American, Hispanic, Asian, or Native American), age
category (child ages 112, teenager ages 1319, adult ages 2060, older adult ages
60 and over), height category (partner one taller, partner two taller, equal height),
whose hand was on top (partner one or partner two), and relationship type (romantic
or family). The hand on top in each handholding pair was defined as the hand that
was observed to be held in front of and on top of the other partners hand with the
palm facing back. Observers randomly selected locations at random times on random
days and independently made their observations. Observers sat on a bench or chair,
waited, and recorded observations with paper and pencil on a clipboard. Which
member of the couple initiated hand holding behavior was not recorded. Previous
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research has demonstrated that males maintain the upper hand position when holding
hands with females regardless of who initiated the handholding (Chapell et al. 1999,
Study 6). The couples and family dyads were never approached or interviewed.
Among heterosexual romantic couples observed (n=362), the male partners hand
was on top of the females hand while holding hands in 87.85 % of the cases,
=207.39, p<.001, φ=.76. In romantic couples where the female was taller than
the male or both partners were of equal height (n=45), men still had the upper hand in
68.89 % of the cases, χ
=6.42, p<.01, φ=.38. Among adults holding hands with
children (n=469), the adults hand was on top of the childs hand while holding hands
in 97.65 % of the cases, χ
=426.03, p<.001, φ=.95. Female adults hands were on top
of the childs hand in 98.25 % of the cases and male adults hands were on top of the
childs hand in 97.24 % of the cases. Female adults had the upper hand when holding
hands with female (98.3 %) and male (98.1 %) children equally. Among children
holding hands with other children (n=42), the older childs hand was on top of the
younger childs hand when holding hands in 97.62 % of the cases, χ
=38.10, p<.001,
φ=.95. There was not enough variation in race to conduct meaningful comparisons
(the overwhelming majority of our sample was Caucasian).
Results were consistent with previous research related to romantic partner hand holding
patterns (Chapell et al. 1998,1999), and the current predictions expanding the focus on
family relationships. These results cannot be explained by height differences or age
differences alone. While males are typically taller and older than their female partners in
heterosexual relationships, our research and past research (Chapell et al. 1999)suggests
height and age differences play a lesser role in determining hand holding positions than
sex. Furthermore, current findings reveal new details relating social dominance (for
example, Sidanius and Pratto 1999,2012) and social roles (Eagly 1987,1996)tohand
holding behavior, especially in the area of family dynamics. Women, in particular,
interestingly change their hand holding orientation between romantic partners and
children as the power differential changes. Furthermore, women keep their hands on
top of both male and female children equally. There were even specific instances in our
investigation where we saw a man holding a womans hand with the mans hand on top,
and then the same woman holding a childs hand with her other hand, with the womans
hand on top. Women adopt many different social roles in our culture (Eagly and Wood
2012), and in the current investigation, a womanshand-holdingorientationshifted
depending on whether her role was that of a romantic partner (submissive to a man) or a
parent (dominant over children).
Future research, including experimental manipulations of power differentials in
hand holding scenarios, may build on these initial observations. Other investigations
may consider hand holding behaviors among those with homosexual orientations,
cultural differences, and other special populations as representations of gradations of
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