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Sexual Identities and Complementarity in Lesbian and Gay Male Relationships

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This exploratory survey assessed Burch's (1993) hypothesis that sexual identities form the basis for romantic attraction in lesbian and gay male partnerships. Thirty-two lesbian and 30 gay male couples identified themselves as either a primary homosexual, bisexual homosexual, or other. Significant differences were found between lesbians and gay males on their self-identifications as primary or bisexual homosexuals. More gay male than lesbian couples comprised primary/primary dyads, whereas, more lesbian than gay male couples consisted of primary/bisexual dyads. Specific recommendations for further study of complementarity in lesbian and gay male relationships are presented.

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... Aronson, Wilson, and Akert (1994, p. 386) concluded that the research evidence for complementarity is mixed at best, and based on a few studies only. By contrast, the findings of Dryer and Horowitz (1997) and related literature (e.g.. Beach, Whitaker, Jones, & Tesser, 2001; Bor, Prior, & Miller, 1990; Carroll, Gilroy, Hoenigmann-Stovall, & Turner, 1998; Gross & Mcllveen, 1998; Kerckhoff & Davis, 1962; Lange, Jerabek, & Houran, 2004; Nowicki & Yaughn, 1999; Pilkington, Tesser, & Stephens, 1991) all increasingly speak to the importance of complementarities across various relationship types. This seems consistent with the four general perspectives on compatibility as delineated by Levinger (1986). ...
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