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An experiment was conducted to examine the appropriateness and effectiveness of five flirtatious opening lines enacted by a male participant to initiate conversation with a female participant. Video messages were constructed to represent the following opening lines: direct introductions, direct compliments, humor attempts, cute–flippant lines, and third-party introductions. Participants were 642 college students who viewed one of these five videos and reported on the appropriateness and effectiveness of an opening line after controlling for perceptions of actor physical attractiveness. Results indicated that participants rated the third-party introduction and direct introduction opening lines as the most appropriate, whereas the third-party introduction was perceived as the most effective. Direct compliments, humor attempts, and cute–flippant lines were rated as equally inappropriate and ineffective.
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Flirting Competence: An Experimental Study on Appropriate and Effective
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Keith Weber a; Alan K. Goodboy b;Jacob L. Cayanus c
a Department of Communication Studies, West Virginia University, b Department of Communication
Studies, Bloomsburg University, c Department of Communication and Journalism, Oakland University,
Online publication date: 28 April 2010
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Flirting Competence: An
Experimental Study on Appropriate
and Effective Opening Lines
Keith Weber, Alan K. Goodboy, & Jacob L. Cayanus
An experiment was conducted to examine the appropriateness and effectiveness of five
flirtatious opening lines enacted by a male participant to initiate conversation with a
female participant. Video messages were constructed to represent the following opening
lines: direct introductions, direct compliments, humor attempts, cute–flippant lines,
and third-party introductions. Participants were 642 college students who viewed one
of these five videos and reported on the appropriateness and effectiveness of an opening
line after controlling for perceptions of actor physical attractiveness. Results indicated
that participants rated the third-party introduction and direct introduction opening lines
as the most appropriate, whereas the third-party introduction was perceived as the most
effective. Direct compliments, humor attempts, and cute–flippant lines were rated as
equally inappropriate and ineffective.
Keywords: Competence; Flirtation; Flirting; Opening Lines; Pick-Up Lines
Romantic relationships may thrive or cease to develop based on initial communication
encounters between potential partners. Indeed, the act of flirting is an initial
communication encounter that revolves around sexual and relational expectations
Keith Weber (EdD, West Virginia University, 1998) is an associate professor in the Department of
Communication Studies at West Virginia University. Alan K. Goodboy (PhD, West Virginia University,
2007) is an assistant professor in the Department of Communication Studies at Bloomsburg University. Jacob
L. Cayanus (EdD, West Virginia University, 2005) is an assistant professor in the Department of Communi-
cation and Journalism at Oakland University. Correspondence: Keith Weber, Department of Communication
Studies, West Virginia University, 108 Armstrong Hall, P.O. Box 6293, Morgantown, WV 26506-6293. E-mail:
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(Egland, Spitzberg, & Zormeier, 1996; Henningsen, 2004) and constitutes one way to
establish intimacy, sexual intentions, and relational definitions (Egland et al., 1996).
Flirting can be seen as a major part of social relations and as an indication of interest,
and can be the first step in a long-term relationship (Koeppel, Montage-Miller,
O’Hair, & Cody, 1993; Levine, King, & Popoola, 1994). The main reasons to study
flirtation and initial interactions, according to Koeppel et al. are to promote under-
standing and to ‘‘make communicators aware of how to avoid potentially serious
mistakes in social relations’’ (p. 31).
Some empirical attention has been given to the concept of flirtation (e.g., Abbey,
1987; Abbey & Melby, 1986; Abrahams, 1994; Egland et al., 1996; La France,
Henningsen, Oates, & Shaw, 2009; Rodgers & Veronsky, 1999), as well as the nonver-
bal behaviors associated with sexual intentions of the source, such as eye contact and
smiling (e.g., Abbey & Melby, 1986; Koeppel et al., 1993; Kowalski, 1993; McCormick &
Jones, 1989; Walsh & Hewitt, 1985). Although research has primarily focused on
nonverbal behaviors, Kleinke, Meeker, and Staneski (1986) stated, ‘‘ultimately,
however, when we want to make a new acquaintance we have to think of something
to say’’ (p. 586).
According to Levine et al. (1994), opening lines (commonly referred to as pick-up
lines) refer to what an individual says when attempting to initiate romantic com-
munication. Kleinke et al. (1986) proposed three categories of opening lines: direct
(i.e., straightforward communication attempts), innocuous (i.e., implicit and vague
communication attempts), and cute–flippant (i.e., preplanned cliche
´s). Research sug-
gests that women perceive innocuous lines as the best strategies, followed by direct,
and then cute–flippant lines (Cunningham, 1989; Kleinke et al., 1986). Levine et al.
also discovered that cute–flippant lines were rated as the least positive. There is, how-
ever, another category of opening lines that studies have failed to investigate. Parks
and Eggert (1989) discussed the role of third parties and social networks as a form
of relationship initiation and noted that individuals may use friends or family to
introduce them to a person they find interesting or attractive. Similarly, Clark,
Shaver, and Abrahams (1999) found that two of the most instrumental relationship
initiation strategies were direct and third-party strategies. More recently, in a focus
group study (Weber, Cayanus, & Goodboy, 2005), participants revealed five common
opening lines. Three of these opening linesdirect introduction, third-party intro-
ductions, and cute–flippant linesare consistent with the research by Kleinke et al.
and Clark et al. However, the remaining two types of lines were coded as direct
compliments (i.e., flattering a prospect) and humor attempts (i.e., using innocuous
but amusing comments). As a result of the previous research on these types of lines,
the following hypothesis was proposed:
H1: The use of cute–flippant lines will be perceived as less (a) appropriate and (b)
effective than the use of direct introductions and third-party introductions.
Although there is research indicating how effective these first three types of attempts
might be, the remaining two types of lines found in the focus groups were coded as
direct compliments (i.e., flattering a prospect) and humor attempts (i.e., using
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innocuous but amusing comments). How these attempts might be perceived is
unclear at this point and as such, the following research question was forwarded:
RQ1: How will the use of humor appeals and direct compliments be perceived on (a)
appropriateness and (b) effectiveness as compared to cute–flippant lines, direct
introductions, and third-party introductions?
Similarly, whereas Cunningham (1989), Kleinke et al. (1986), and Levine et al. (1994)
suggested that direct lines are perceived more positively than cute–flippant lines,
Levine et al. found that men rate all opening lines more positively than women.
However, because Levine et al. did not test the effectiveness of third-party, humor,
and direct compliment opening lines, it is uncertain if men and women will differ
in their ratings of these types of appeals. As a result, the following research question
is forwarded regarding gender differences:
RQ2: Will gender differences exist in participants ratings of the opening lines?
The participants in this study were 642 college students from a large, mid-Atlantic
university. The mean age was 20.1 (SD ¼1.32), with a range of 18 to 36. There were
312 men and 308 women (22 did not report gender). Participation in this study was
completely voluntary, but extra credit was offered; students who chose not to partici-
pate in this study were given an alternative manner in which to receive extra credit.
Five different videos were created to portray an initial interaction between a male and
female character. These videos were filmed with professional recording equipment in
a bar that was rented for the day with a paid bartender and actors. The script for the
videos begins with two male friends meeting in a bar and chatting, when one of the male
characters spots an attractive women sitting across the room. The male actor decides to
approach the woman. All five scripts were two minutes in length and were exactly the
same until the moment when the male character first approaches the female character.
At the point of approach, the male character initiates a conversation with the female
character using one of the five opening lines targeted for study (see Table 1 for examples).
After viewing one of the five experimental videos, participants completed a brief
questionnaire and were told to respond to the items based on their perceptions of
the interaction between the two actors.
The Canary and Spitzberg (1987) Conversational Appropriateness Scale was used to
assess participants’ ratings of the appropriateness of the male actor in his interaction
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with the female actor (e.g., ‘‘Everything he said was appropriate’’). This scale is
comprised of 20 items that are measured on a 7-point Likert scale, ranging from 1
(strongly agree)to7(strongly disagree)(M¼3.73, SD ¼1.18; a¼.93). Responses
on the scale were recoded so that higher scores indicated that the participants
perceived the male actor to be more appropriate.
Five items from the 20-item Canary and Spitzberg (1989) Conversational
Effectiveness Scale were used to measure participants’ perceptions of how effective
the man was in initiating the interaction with the female actor (e.g., ‘‘His communi-
cation was effective’’). Only five items were chosen because many of the items on the
scale did not seem appropriate in this context. We felt that this was an acceptable
decision because Rubin, Palmgreen, and Sypher (1994) advised users of the scale to
create acceptable subscales in their review of the measure. The questionnaire asks
participants to respond to the items on a 7-point Likert scale, ranging from 1 (strongly
agree)to7(strongly disagree)(M¼3.46, SD ¼1.41; a¼.87). Consistent with previous
research, a statistically significant correlation was observed between the conver-
sational appropriateness and effectiveness measures in this dataset (r¼.65, p<.001).
Control Variables
In an attempt to control for extraneous variables, the actors were instructed to keep
their nonverbal cues constant in each of the experimental manipulations (e.g., stand
the same distance from each other, eye contact, facial expression, etc.). Nonverbal
immediacy scores on both the male and the female actors were collected for each of
the experimental groups to use as a control variable (e.g., ‘‘He smiled’’ and ‘‘He main-
tained eye contact’’). Eight representative items from the Nonverbal Immediacy Scale
(Richmond, McCroskey, & Johnson, 2003) were used to measure nonverbal behaviors
that increase perceived physical or psychological closeness (e.g., eye contact, smiling,
etc.), which are frequently construed as flirting behaviors (Walsh & Hewitt, 1985).
Table 1 Opening Lines, Descriptions, and Representative Examples
Opening line Description Example
Direct introduction Initiating a conversation with a
simple introduction.
‘‘Hi, my name is Josh. What is your
Direct compliment Giving a compliment based on
physical attraction.
‘‘I had to tell you how fine you are.’’
Humor attempt Attempting to enact humor to make
the other person laugh
‘‘Do you think I look like Johnny
Cute–flippant line Trite cliche
´s that are intended to
appear cute.
‘‘You must be tired because you’ve
been running through my mind
all day.’’
Using a common acquaintance to
perform the initial introduction.
‘‘Hi Kayla, this is my friend Josh.’’
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This scale asks participants to respond to the items on a 5-point Likert scale, ranging
from 1 (strongly disagree)to5(strongly agree). Results of an analysis of variance
(ANOVA) indicated that no significant difference existed in the ratings of the male
character’s use of nonverbal immediacy (M¼3.87, SD ¼0.66; a¼.72) between the
different videos, F(4, 623) ¼1.08, p¼.37. Similarly, results of an ANOVA indicated
no significant difference in the ratings of the female character’s nonverbal immediacy
(M¼3.44, SD ¼0.67; a¼.70) between the different videos, F(4, 621) ¼0.92, p¼.45.
Similar to nonverbal immediacy, it is possible that the difference in the perceived
attractiveness levels of the actors could serve as a confounding variable. Participants
were asked to ‘‘rate the attractiveness of’’ each actor on a scale from 1 (extremely
unattractive)to10(extremely attractive). Results of a paired ttest indicated that par-
ticipants rated the female actor (M¼6.55, SD ¼1.64) as being significantly more
attractivet(627) ¼22.71, p<.01than the male actor (M¼4.72, SD ¼1.78). As
a result, the difference in the actor’s attractiveness rating was used as a covariate in
all subsequent analyses. In addition, it is important to note that, across conditions,
no significant differences were found in either the men’s attractiveness levels, F(4,
625) ¼2.32, p¼.06, or the women’s attractiveness levels, F(4, 626) ¼0.14, p¼.97.
This finding removes the possibility that participants in any one treatment group
found the actors more or less attractive for some reason that we had not controlled for.
To test H1,RQ1, and to control for experiment-wide error rate (Hatcher, 1994;
Khattree & Naik, 2000; O’Rourke, Hatcher, & Stepanski, 2005), a multivariate analysis
of covariance was first computed utilizing the five different experimental opening line
conditions as the independent variables, with scores on the two outcome variables
serving as the dependent variables. In addition, the difference in the male and female
attractiveness ratings was entered as a covariate. The results of this analysis yielded a
significant model, Wilks’s K(8, 1,240) ¼0.54, p<.001. The individual analyses of
covariance (ANCOVAs) were then examined to test H1 and RQ1. Results of the first
ANCOVA revealed a significant model, F(4, 621) ¼125.13, p<.001 (partial g
A closer examination of Tukey’s multiple comparison test indicated that third-party
introduction (M¼5.70, SD ¼0.96) and direct introduction (M¼4.94, SD ¼0.89)
were rated as significantly more appropriate than direct compliments (M¼3.35,
SD ¼0.91), humor attempts (M¼3.29, SD ¼0.77), or cute–flippant lines (M¼
3.14, SD ¼0.87). Results of the second ANCOVA was also significant, F(4, 621) ¼
41.00, p<.001 (partial g
¼.21); and Tukey’s multiple comparison test indicated that
third-party introduction (M¼4.70, SD ¼1.42) was perceived as significantly more
effective than all other opening lines. In addition, the direct introduction opening line
(M¼4.44, SD ¼1.50) was rated as more effective than the direct compliments (M¼
3.26, SD ¼1.25), humor attempts (M¼3.02, SD ¼1.31), and cute–flippant lines
(M¼2.98, SD ¼1.28; see Table 2).
RQ2 was concerned with gender differences in the appropriateness and
effectiveness ratings. Results of individual ttests indicated that men rated the male
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actor as being significantly more appropriatet(618) ¼2.56, p<.01and
effectivet(618) ¼2.65, p<.01 (M¼3.85, SD ¼1.17 and M¼3.60, SD ¼1.41,
respectively)than did women (M¼3.62, SD ¼1.21 and M¼3.31, SD ¼1.39,
respectively). However, these differences accounted for less than 2%of the variance
in participants’ ratings.
The purpose of this study was to examine the appropriateness and effectiveness of
five different opening lines men use to initiate flirtatious communication with
women. The results indicated that participants rated both third-party introductions
and direct introductions as the most appropriate, but third-party introductions were
perceived as the most effective. Third-party introductions involve a sponsorship
effect if the individual performing the introduction is perceived positively by the
woman being approached. That is, if the third party performing the introduction
is seen as trustworthy by the female participant, it is likely that the participant would
attribute similar characteristics to the man being introduced. This idea is also consist-
ent with what persuasion researchers often refer to as a ‘‘sponsorship effect’’ (Gass &
Seiter, 1999).
One of the more surprising findings was the negative responses participants
exhibited with respect to the humor attempt condition. It is possible that participants
did not perceive the humor attempt message as funny. If this was the case, then it is
understandable how the humorous attempt opening line could be confused with an
attempt to use a cliche
´or a cute–flippant line. This finding highlights the risk an
individual takes when attempting to use humor to make a positive impression
(Wanzer & Frymier, 1999). Similarly, the direct compliment opening line may also
Table 2 Results of Analyses of Covariance Between Opening Lines and Conversational
Appropriateness and Effectiveness
Dependant variable Opening line MSDn
Third-party introduction 5.70
0.96 127
Direct introduction 4.94
0.89 230
Direct compliment 3.35
0.91 79
Humor attempt 3.29
0.77 98
Cute–flippant 3.14
0.87 93
Third-party introduction 4.70
1.42 127
Direct introduction 4.44
1.50 230
Direct compliment 3.26
1.25 79
Humor attempt 3.02
1.31 98
Cute–flippant 2.98
1.28 93
Note. Means with different subscripts are significantly different from each other.
F(4, 621) ¼125.13, p<.001 (partial g
F(4, 621) ¼41.00, p<.001 (partial g
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have been confused as a cute–flippant line. This would explain the negative response
elicited by this opening line. In retrospect, manipulation checks should have been
included with the questionnaire to be certain that the messages used were perceived
by the audience as representative of the meta-strategies for which they were intended.
Obviously, this is a significant limitation to this study.
Another limitation to this investigation was that only one videoand, therefore,
one opening linewas used to represent each strategy. Before researchers can make
generalizations as to which class of opening lines is most effective, it is necessary to
examine multiple messages representing each major strategy type. This might also
help to clarify if the humor attempt failed because humor is simply an ineffective
strategy or because the line used in the scenario was not funny. Future research
should test this possibility. Despite such limitations, however, results of this study
suggest that single men would be well-advised to consider using sponsorship from
third parties to initiate flirtatious conversation with women. If third-party sponsor-
ship is unavailable, men should consider using direct introduction opening lines and
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... Flirting conveys one's interest in a potential partner, whether it be to start a relationship, establish sexual intentions, or promote intimacy (e.g., Weber et al., 2010). Flirting entails an assortment of behaviors and styles such as being sincere, polite, or playful (Hall & Xing, 2015). ...
... Pick-up lines are one way that people may quickly and effectively engage in flirting behavior. Past studies have divided pick-up lines into direct (i.e., clearly convey interest), innocuous (i.e., to hide the intention and serve as a conversation starter), and flippant (i.e., use of humor; Kleinke et al., 1986; see also Weber et al., 2010). Flippant and innocuous pick-up lines may be used to protect the individual from rejection because they can hide a failed attempt as a question or joke (Kleinke et al., 1986). ...
... Past findings, as well as the current study, show that men rate women's pick-up lines that are direct as the most effective (Fisher et al., 2020;Kleinke & Dean, 1990;Kleinke et al., 1986;Wade et al., 2009;Weber et al., 2010). Direct lines do not obscure intent and explicitly convey interest, meaning that there is little probability of missing a mating opportunity. ...
... Such communications often tend to be covert, with the ability to create signals and to accurately receive them being key for success (e.g., White, Lorenz, Perilloux, & Lee, 2018). Flirting, including the use of pick-up lines, conveys interest in a potential partner, and communicates that one wishes to establish intimacy, to express sexual intentions, or to state relationship expectations (e.g., Weber, Goodboy, & Cayanus, 2010). Here we solely focus on one part of flirting: the use of pick-up lines. ...
... The overwhelming majority of research on pick-up lines pertains to how men commonly use them to encourage conversation with women in the hopes of securing a date (Kleinke, Meeker, & Staneski, 1986;Senko & Fyffe, 2010). There is a variety of lines one can use, which have been categorized in many ways; here we use the categories of direct, innocuous, and flippant (Kleinke et al., 1986; see also Weber et al., 2010). Direct lines clearly convey interest, for example, "You're hot, can I have your number?" ...
... Men tend to rate the flippant line users as being more likeable and promiscuous, as well as less selfish and domineering, than do women (Kleinke & Dean, 1990). Similarly, Weber et al. (2010) found that third-party and direct introductions were the most effective interaction. ...
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... Despite 40 years of research on initial interactions, only a few communication studies have examined initial interactions in the romantic context (i.e., Houser, Horan & Furler, 2008;Lindsey & Zakahi, 1996;Weber, Goodboy, & Cayanus, 2010). ...
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... Although initially perceived negatively, interviewees labeled their later responses as neutral to the following questions: "Do you want to have children?", "Do you not like me because I'm black?", and "Are they [breasts] real?" Interviewees reported perceiving these questions as beyond the norms of acceptable and predictable behavior for initial interactions; they reported decoding such questions as a sign that they had lost control of events in the initial interaction. These results are consistent with Weber et al's (2010) finding that some opening lines (direct compliments, humor attempts, and cute-flippant lines) can be perceived as inappropriate in flirtatious initial interactions. "Questions can be face-threatening" (Tracy, 2002, p. 129), especially when the questioner uses questions to enact a power play (Wang, 2006). ...
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We interviewed 16 undergraduate students soliciting (a) metaphors to describe initial interactions as well as (b) memorable questions posed by attractive strangers of the opposite sex. Using thematic analysis, we discovered that the interviewees metaphorically described initial interactions in terms of time, control, sexuality, valence, and extremes. All interviewees recalled memorable questions posed by attractive strangers of the opposite sex. Our analyses indicated that typical memorable questions could be characterized as nonsexual control attempts that were perceived by the receivers as positive but extreme. Interviewees’ initial impression of memorable questions typically became more positive over time.
... The second difference lies in the time dimension, especially on the assumption of when flirting should take place. Some studies (Whitty, 2003;Downey & Vitulli, 1987;Clark, Shaver, & Abrahams, 1999;Henningsen, 2004;Weber, Goodboy, & Cayanus, 2010;Kaspar & Krull, 2013) take flirting as the initial stage of encounter between two individuals, who are assumed to have a prospect for some kind of sexual relationship. Flirting is taken to be synonymous with the attention-getting effort, which occurs at the initial stage of encounter. ...
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Two studies were conducted to examine the strategies used to initiate romantic relationships. In Study 1, participants responded to questions about general romantic relationship initiation strategies derived from the literature. In Study 2, participants wrote narrative accounts of their romantic relationship initiation experiences, which were coded for relationship goals and initiation strategies. The effect of biological sex on the evaluation and use of relationship initiation strategies was assessed in both studies. Overall, the normative pattern of goals and strategies prominently included love and intimacy goals and direct and emotional-disclosure strategies. Men tended to be more active and direct in the beginning stages of relational development and to be more interested than women in the goal of sexual intimacy; women used passive and indirect strategies more often than men. Results are discussed in terms of Buss and Schmitt’s sexual strategies theory and Reis and Shaver’s model of interpersonal intimacy.
Gender-related responses to opening conversational gambits were examined in two field and one laboratory experiment. In Experiment 1, a male approached female singles bar patrons, using one of six opening lines, classified as direct, innocuous, or cute-flippant. The cute-flippant lines were found to elicit significantly more negative responses than did the direct and innocuous lines. In Experiment 2, male and female experimenters delivered direct, innocuous, and cute-flippant lines to opposite-sex bar patrons. The experimenters also touched half of the subjects while delivering the opening lines. Female subjects again responded more negatively to the cute-flippant approaches compared to the direct and innocuous gambits. Male subjects displayed significantly more positive responses than did female subjects, regardless of the opening gambit. Interpersonal touch had no significant effect on heterosexual responses. A third, laboratory experiment examined whether gender differences in personality inference processes or in mindlessness could account for female discernment and male responsiveness. Males responded more positively than did the females to the two cute-flippant, the two direct, and one of the innocuous lines and made more positive personality attributions about the individuals who delivered them, suggesting that the genders differ in their attributions in this domain. Although both males and females were influenced by the perceived sociability of the target, judgments of sexiness were closely related to males' interest in the female target but not to females' interest in the male. Females, in contrast were more influenced by the male targets' perceived brightness than by their sexiness.
Perceptual dimensions underlying flirtatiousness judgments were examined in a three‐phased study. This study was conducted to answer the following research questions: (a) What perceptual dimensions underlie flirtatiousness judgments? (b) Do men and women use similar perceptual dimensions in assessing flirtatiousness? and (c) Do men and women vary in the degree to which they employ these perceptual dimensions in making their judgments? Based on an INDSCAL procedure and regression analyses completed on the sorting data of 94 participants (47 men and 47 women), six perceptual dimensions underlying flirtatiousness judgments were found: sexual assertiveness, overtness, invitation, playfulness, nonverbalness, and unconventionality. Additionally, men and women used identical dimensions in assessing the flirtatiousness of the episodes employed as stimuli. With a slight exception for perceptions of invitation, men and women judged the flirtation episodes similarly on the uncovered dimensions. The practical and theoretical implications of these results are discussed.
In recent years nonverbal immediacy has received considerable attention from researchers concerned with instructional communication, interpersonal communication, and organizational communication. Unfortunately, the instruments used to measure nonverbal immediacy in these contexts sometimes have been problematic in terms of their reliability estimates. This research attempted to overcome this problem, or failing that, to identify the cause(s) of the reduced reliability. The research resulted in a scale with high reliability when used as either a self‐report or an other‐report measure. It was also found to be equally reliable across the contexts of instructional, interpersonal, and organizational communication. Content validity of the scale is good and an initial test of predictive validity produced a high validity correlation. Unexpected sex differences were observed in the results and these are discussed in this report.
The studies described in this article examine retrospective reports of naturally occurring misperceptions of friendliness as sexual interest. Previous research has demonstrated that men perceive other people and situations more sexually than women do. The purpose of this research was to examine how this gender difference in perceptions of sexuality is exhibited in actual interactions between women and men. Two surveys of undergraduates were conducted. The results indicated that a large percentage of both women and men had experienced such misperceptions, although more women had than men. Most of these incidents were quickly resolved without problems; however, others involved some degree of forced sexual activity and left the individual feeling angry, humiliated, and depressed. Gender differences in the characteristics of these incidents and reactions to them are described. The implications of these findings for future research on gender differences in perceptions of sexual intent are discussed.