Assessing intimacy: The PAIR inventory

Journal of Marital and Family Therapy (Impact Factor: 1.01). 06/2007; 7(1):47 - 60. DOI: 10.1111/j.1752-0606.1981.tb01351.x


PAIR, acronym for Personal Assessment of Intimacy in Relationships, was developed as a tool for educators, researchers and therapists. PAIR provides systematic information on five types of intimacy: emotional, social, sexual, intellectual and recreational. Individuals, married or unmarried, describe their relationship in terms of how they currently perceive it (perceived) and how they would like it to be (expected). PAIR can be used with couples in marital therapy and enrichment groups.

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    • "One's perception of closeness, intimacy , or satisfaction can be used to measure the development of a relationship. Intimate experience, that is, the level of affective closeness of intimate behaviors in friendships and romantic relationships (Schaefer & Olson, 1981), is closely related to the extent to which intimacy is perceived in that relationship (Levinger & Senn, 1967). Partners with high relationship satisfaction also reported higher levels of intimacy and commitment (Rusbult & Buunk, 1993). "
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    ABSTRACT: This study investigated how messaging app Line’s character sticker use may contribute to the perception of intimate experience and enhance relationship satisfaction in both positive and negative emotion situations. A 2 (situation valence: positive emotion and negative emotion) × 3 (response style: text, sticker, and text and sticker) × 3 (scenario: career, romance, and education) mixed design, with situation valence and response style between-subjects variables and scenario a within-subjects variable, was employed. The results revealed the combination of a text and sticker response to a partner’s disclosure can produce the highest level of intimate experience, followed by text- and sticker-only responses. It further suggests that the cartoon-like Line sticker may better convey positive than negative emotions because the detailed illustration is more similar to real-life nonverbal behavior expressing humor and happiness and that may facilitate imagined closeness between communication partners when moving through space. The hyperpersonal affordance of text-based messages to foster relationship may be further distinguished between the cognitive and the affective levels in the messaging app context.
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    • "Because some definitions of intimacy include sexuality (cf. Schaefer & Olson, 1981), in this study we specifically focus on emotional intimacy defined, following Sinclair and Dowdy (2005, p. 194), as " a perception of closeness to another that is conducive to the sharing of personal feelings, accompanied by expectations of understanding, affirmation, and demonstrations of caring " . There is a consensus that emotional intimacy is important for adjustment and psychological well-being and a characteristics of a healthy relationship that buffers daily stress (Miller & Lefcourt, 1982; Prager, 1995). "
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    ABSTRACT: Emotional intimacy cuts across contexts as diverse as sexual motivation and satisfaction, psychological and physical health, and relational well-being. Although the experience of intimacy and its effects on sex life may be gender and sexual orientation-specific, the role of intimacy in personal and sexual relationships has been studied mostly among heterosexual individuals and couples. Using the minority stress framework (Meyer, 2003) to address this gap in knowledge, the present study comparatively explored levels and predictors/correlates of emotional intimacy, and its association with sexual satisfaction among coupled heterosexual and gay/bisexual men sampled online in a predominantly homonegative country (Croatia). Heterosexual participants (n = 860; M age = 36.4, SD = 9.09) were recruited in 2011 and gay/bisexual participants (n = 250; M age = 29.4, SD = 7.13) in 2013. Controlling for age and relationship duration, gay/bisexual men reported higher levels of emotional intimacy than heterosexual men. Suggesting that the role of emotional intimacy in sexual satisfaction is not sexual orientation-specific, the strength of the association between these two constructs was similar in both samples. However, internalized homonegativity, which was negatively associated with emotional intimacy in this study, remains a challenge to creating and maintaining intimacy in male same-sex relationships.
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    • "Intimacy with partner. The intimacy subscale from the personal assessment of intimacy in relationships questionnaire (Schaefer & Olson, 1981) was completed to assess mothers' intimacy with their spouse or partner living in the home. Six statements describing relationships were presented to mothers [e.g., My (spouse/partner) listens to me when I need someone to talk to]. "
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    ABSTRACT: Parent–child conflict in the context of a supportive relationship has been discussed as a potentially constructive interaction pattern; the current study is the first to test this using a holistic analytic approach. Interaction styles, defined as mother–child conflict in the context of maternal sensitivity, were identified and described with demographic and stress-related characteristics of families. Longitudinal associations were tested between interaction styles and children's later social competence. Participants included 814 partnered mothers with a first-grade child. Latent profile analysis identified agreeable, dynamic, and disconnected interaction styles. Mothers' intimacy with a partner, depressive symptoms, and authoritarian childrearing beliefs, along with children's later conflict with a best friend and externalizing problems, were associated with group membership. Notably, the dynamic style, characterized by high sensitivity and high conflict, included families who experienced psychological and relational stressors. Findings are discussed with regard to how family stressors shape parent–child interaction patterns.
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