Custody disputes involving allegations of domestic violence: Toward a differentiated approach to parenting plans

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Premised on the understanding that domestic violence is a broad concept that encompasses a wide range of behaviors from isolated events to a pattern of emotional, physical, and sexual abuse that controls the victim, this article addresses the need for a differentiated approach to developing parenting plans after separation when domestic violence is alleged. A method of assessing risk by screening for the potency, pattern, and primary perpetrator of the violence is proposed as a foundation for generating hypotheses about the type of and potential for future violence as well as parental functioning. This kind of differential screening for risk in cases where domestic violence is alleged provides preliminary guidance in identifying parenting arrangements that are appropriate for the specific child and family and, if confirmed by a more in-depth assessment, may be the basis for a long-term plan. A series of parenting plans are proposed, with criteria and guidelines for usage depending upon this differential screening, ranging from highly restricted access arrangements (no contact with perpetrators of family violence and supervised access or monitored exchange) to relatively unrestricted ones (parallel parenting) and even co-parenting. Implications for practice are considered within the context of available resources.

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CUSTODY DISPUTES INVOLVING ALLEGATIONS OF
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: TOWARD A DIFFERENTIATED
APPROACH TO PARENTING PLANS
Peter G. Jaffe, Janet R. Johnston, Claire V. Crooks, Nicholas Bala
Premised on the understanding that domestic violence is a broad concept that encompasses a wide range of
behaviors from isolated events to a pattern of emotional, physical, and sexual abuse that controls the victim, this
article addresses the need for a differentiated approach to developing parenting plans after separation when
domestic violence is alleged. A method of assessing risk by screening for the
potency
,
pattern
, and
primary
perpetrator
of the violence is proposed as a foundation for generating hypotheses about the type of and potential
for future violence as well as parental functioning. This kind of differential screening for risk in cases where
domestic violence is alleged provides preliminary guidance in identifying parenting arrangements that are appro-
priate for the specific child and family and, if confirmed by a more in-depth assessment, may be the basis for a
long-term plan. A series of parenting plans are proposed, with criteria and guidelines for usage depending upon
this differential screening, ranging from highly restricted access arrangements (no contact with perpetrators of
family violence and supervised access or monitored exchange) to relatively unrestricted ones (parallel parenting)
and even co-parenting. Implications for practice are considered within the context of available resources.
Keywords:
custody disputes
;
allegations of domestic violence
;
parenting plans
INTRODUCTION
Highly conflicted, separated spouses disputing custody put their children at high risk and
take up a disproportionately large amount of professional and court time, posing special
challenges to all who work in the family justice system. Typified by the parents’ high levels
of hostility, distrust, fear, and blaming of one another, these cases become especially
difficult when there are allegations of domestic violence or child abuse. Inevitably questions
arise that reflect ongoing debates in the field: Do these allegations have a factual basis of
spousal or child abuse involving violent, negligent, substance-abusing, and criminal behavior?
If so, is sufficient evidence available to sustain these findings in a court of law, and if not,
what to do? What access should violent parents have, if any, to their children?
Where the violence is severe, ongoing, and clearly committed by one party, the answers
to these questions are fairly evident, albeit often difficult to implement. But what if abuse
appears to be jointly inflicted, less serious in nature, or a relatively isolated event? During
the past decade, a growing body of social science research has addressed the wide range
of violent and abusive behavior in families, documenting its severity, frequency, and
injurious outcomes and arguing about who perpetrates it and for what apparent purpose (for
a review, see Kelly & Johnson, 2008). There is an emerging consensus that the following
types of spousal violence
1
are relevant to family law cases, with the first two receiving
more research attention than the others (Dalton, Carbon, & Olesen, 2003; Johnson,
Correspondence: pjaffe@uwo.ca; johnston@sjsu.edu; ccrooks@uwo.ca; bala@queensu.ca

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1995, 2005; Johnston & Campbell, 1993; Pence & Dasgupta, 2006; Statistics Canada, 2001;
Ver Steegh, 2005):
•Abusive-controlling violent
relationships (ACV), also called
battering
or
intimate
terrorism
(or coercive
controlling violence
; see Kelly & Johnson, 2008): This is an
ongoing pattern of use of threat, force, emotional abuse, and other coercive means
to unilaterally dominate one partner and induce fear, submission, and compliance in
the other. In studies of shelter and criminal court samples, men are the offenders and
women are victims in most cases of this type.
•Conflict-instigated violence
(CIV), also called
situational
or
common couple violence
(or
situational couple violence
; see Kelly & Johnson, 2008): In these cases, violence
is perpetrated by both partners, who have limited skills in resolving conflict. These
cases involve bilateral assertion of power by the man and woman, without a regular
primary instigator, and are identified more often in community samples.
•Violent resistance
(VR): This occurs when a partner uses violence to defend in
response to abuse by a partner. Women have been identified most clearly as this type
in shelter samples and in studies of victims who have killed their batterers. In some
cases, this may in law constitute self-defense, but in other cases it may be an
overreaction.
•Separation-instigated violence
(SIV): This is isolated acts of violence perpetrated by
either a man or a woman reacting to stress during separation, divorce, and its
aftermath in a relationship that has not otherwise been characterized by violence or
coercive control.
Other types of spousal violence identified in the literature merit further research
attention, especially women’s violence. It has been argued that most females who are
violent belong to two of the aforementioned types (VR or CIV). Debates are ongoing as to
the numbers who are primary instigators and, if so, whether they are distinctively different
from male batterers (ACV; Dutton, 2005; Loseke & Kurz, 2005; Straus, 2005). Intimate
partner violence is also prevalent in same-sex relationships and is an area for further
research.
HOW IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RELEVANT TO POSTSEPARATION PARENTING
ARRANGEMENTS?
Research on parent–child relationships and parenting styles in families where domestic
violence occurs is sparse, mainly limited to clinical observations; most of the literature
does not differentiate between types of violence. Despite this, if we take into account
the context of different studies, we can glean some insights—and make reasonable
hypotheses—about typical parenting issues relevant to the different types of violence
identified within those particular settings.
2
These insights provide the rationale for legal
and programmatic changes that include a differentiated approach to domestic violence as
a relevant factor in determining the appropriate postseparation parenting arrangement and
are as follows:
•Spousal abuse does not necessarily end with separation of the parties
. While in a
majority of cases the incidence and risk of violence diminishes once the parties are
separated, in a small proportion of cases, especially abusive battering relationships

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(ACV), the intensity and lethality of domestic violence escalates after the victim
leaves the relationship (Hotton, 2001; Statistics Canada, 2001). Furthermore,
promoting parent–child contact where ex-spouses are prone to become physically
violent when in conflict (CIV) may create opportunities for renewed domestic
violence over visitation issues and exchanges of children (Jaffe, Lemon, & Pois-
son, 2003; Sheeran & Hampton, 1999). In the worst cases (ACV), terrorizing con-
trol of an ex-spouse is achieved by refusing to return the child after visits, abducting
the child, or threatening to do so (Greif & Hegar, 1993; Johnston & Girdner,
2001).
•In extreme cases, domestic violence following separation is lethal, especially in the
case of the more abusive relationships (ACV)
. Domestic violence and homicides are
inextricably linked. National statistics from the United States and Canada
clearly suggest that women are three to four times more likely than men to be the
victims in intimate partner homicides. Moreover, this threat escalates at the time of
separation for both genders (Fox & Zawitz, 1999; Statistics Canada, 2001; Websdale,
2003). In the most tragic of these cases, children are witnesses to the homicide/
suicide or victims of abduction/murder themselves (Jaffe & Juodis, 2006).
•Perpetrators of domestic violence are more likely to be deficient if not abusive as
parents
. There is a wide range of capacity to parent among high-conflict and
violent families, ranging from frankly abusive, to poor or marginal, to adequate or
even good-enough parenting. However, common features are lack of warmth, coercive
tactics, and rejection of their children (Anderson & Cramer-Benjamin, 1999; Azar,
2002; Straus, 1983). This pattern is especially true for those exhibiting abuse and
coercive control of their spouse (ACV), probably also true for couples who resort to
physical force to resolve conflict (CIV), and less likely or time limited if the
violence was an isolated event (SIV). A review of research, largely based on women
in shelters, suggests that children whose mothers had been assaulted by their male
partners are more likely to be directly abused (Appel & Holden, 1998; Edleson,
1999). Where there is a pattern of abuse (ACV), erratic role reversals, swings from
permissive to rigid, authoritarian parenting, and periodic abandonment are also com-
mon. Children of such primary abusers are subjected to emotional abuse such as
name calling, cruel put-downs, and distortion of their reality by telling false and
frightening stories. At times they are made the favorite at the expense of siblings who
are isolated or outrightly rejected. At other times they may be encouraged in morally
corrupt and criminal behavior (Bancroft & Silverman, 2002; Johnston & Campbell,
1993). Boundary violations between adult abusers (ACV) and children are more
likely, especially where substance abuse is also involved, with a greater incidence of
child sexual abuse being reported (Wilson, 2001).
•Individuals who have a pattern of abuse of their partners (ACV) and those who com-
monly resolve conflicts using physical force (CIV) are poor role models for children
.
Poor role modeling occurs even after the parental separation, whether or not parents
mistreat their children directly, because when children witness one parent assaulting
the other, their sibling, or other family member, and using threats of violence to
maintain control, their own expectations about relationships tend to emulate these
observations. Moreover, often very frightened by these scenes, young children tend
to identify more intensely with the violent parent (i.e., “I will become powerful and
mean like my dad and everyone will be scared of me”). To the extent that there is
potential for the abusive parent to be violent in subsequent intimate relationships,

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children’s exposure to poor modeling will continue (Bancroft & Silverman, 2002;
Johnston & Campbell, 1993).
•Abusive ex-partners (ACV) are likely to undermine the victim’s parenting role.
In a
range of obvious and more insidious ways, abusive ex-partners are likely to attempt
to alienate the children from the other parent’s affection (by asserting blame for the
dissolution of the family and telling negative stories), sabotage family plans (by
continuing criticism or competitive bribes), and undermine parental authority (by
explicitly instructing the children not to listen or obey; Bancroft & Silverman,
2002; Johnston, Walters, & Olesen, 2005). This facet of the abuser’s parenting needs
to be considered when deciding what access, if any, the perpetrator should have to
the children, what interventions are needed to address these problems, and the
prognosis for change with treatment (Scott & Crooks, 2004).
•Abusive ex-spouses (ACV) may use family court litigation as a new forum to continue
their coercive controlling behavior and to harass their former partner
(Jaffe et al.,
2003). Litigation exacts a high emotional and financial price, especially for abused
women already overwhelmed with the aftermath of a violent relationship. Some
authors have suggested that some perpetrators have the persona and social skills to
present themselves positively in court and convince assessors and judges to award
them custody (Zorza, 1995). In some of these cases the perpetrators are self-repre-
sented, heightening the possibilities for abuse through intimidating or berating a
former partner in cross-examination, unless an astute judge intervenes.
•Diminished parenting capacities among victims of domestic violence often occurs
.
Preoccupation with the demands of their abuser (ACV), a conflict-ridden marriage
(CIV), or a traumatic separation (SIV) may render parents physically and emotionally
exhausted, inconsistently available, overly dependent upon, or unable to protect their
children from the abuser (Anderson, 2002; Lieberman & Van Horn, 1998). For the
majority of victims, separation from the perpetrator of domestic violence may
provide an opportunity for improvement in both general functioning and parenting
capacities. However, those who have been victimized by prolonged abuse and control
(ACV cases) are likely to suffer sustained difficulties—like anxiety, depression,
substance abuse, and posttraumatic stress disorder—all of which can compromise
their parenting for some time (Herman, 1997). Female victims may have been
brainwashed by the abuser into accepting their own and their children’s abusive
treatment, and intimidated and embarrassed male victims tend not to protect the
children from their abusive mother’s rages (Johnston & Campbell, 1993). Poor self-
esteem, lack of confidence in their parenting, and inability to control their children,
especially their older sons, makes the female victim an obvious target of blame by
the abusive ex-spouse and may raise the suspicions of family court professionals as
to her fitness to parent. During the court process, these parents may present more
negatively than they will in the future once the stress of the proceedings and life
changes have attenuated (for a review, see Jaffe, Crooks, & Bala, 2005).
•Victims’ behavior under the stress of the abusive relationship (ACV) and during the
aftermath of a stressful separation (SIV) should not inappropriately prejudice the
residential or access decision
. In the face of a real threat of violence, victims who
live in fear of their ex-partner are not paranoid, nor may it be appropriate for them
to promote a relationship between their children and the other parent. In cases of
ACV, parents’ voiced concerns about their ex-partner’s abusive predispositions and
their own refusal to communicate or reluctance to agree to the child’s liberal access

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should not be seen as unwillingness to cooperate or as manifestations of parental
alienation. Similarly, victims of abuse who leave the family home without the
children should not be viewed as abandoning, neglectful, or irresponsible parents; in
these cases, leaving alone may be the only way that they believe that they appease
their volatile partner (Jaffe et al., 2003). Likewise, distraught individuals who
have suffered a traumatic separation (SIV) may parent in a less child-centered
manner than they would normally, although their compromised functioning is
usually time limited (Johnston & Campbell, 1993).
•Victims of abusive relationships may need time to reestablish their competence as
parents and opportunity to learn how to nurture and appropriately protect
themselves and their children
. Time, protection, and support allow an adequate
opportunity for a distinction to be made between the majority of victims of spousal
abuse who are able to reestablish effective parenting, and the small minority of cases
where the victim’s mental status will be chronic—a product of prior psychological
problems and a history of repeated victimization in earlier relationships such that
they cannot ever parent adequately.
DIMENSIONS OF VIOLENCE RELEVANT TO PARENTING PLANS
Although domestic violence is a very important factor to consider when making parenting
plans, capacities of perpetrators and victims to parent adequately are likely to vary greatly
depending upon the nature of the violence. However, other than clinical descriptive criteria,
instruments to reliably differentiate between types of violence and how they might relate
to parenting have yet to be developed. What can be done under these constraints? We
propose that three basic factors should be considered: the
potency
,
pattern
, and
primary
perpetrator
of the violence (henceforth referred to as a PPP screening).
First, level of potency—the degree of severity, dangerousness, and potential risk of
serious injury and lethality
3
—is the foremost dimension that needs to be assessed and
monitored so that protective orders can be issued and other immediate safety measures
taken and maintained. Prior incidents of severe abuse and injuries inflicted on victims are
an important indicator of the capacity of an individual to explode or escalate to dangerous
levels. In some cases, explosive or deadly violence can erupt with little or no history of
abuse, but other warning signs are often evident (see Table 1, Part A for indicators of
potency).
Second, the extent to which the violence is part of a
pattern
of coercive control and
domination (rather than a relatively isolated incident) is a crucial indicator of the extent of
stress and trauma suffered by the child and family and the potential for future violence (Stark,
2007). It also suggests what kind of protective, corrective, and rehabilitative measures to
take (e.g., high-security supervision of visits, substance abuse or psychiatric treatment). A
history of using physical violence and power assertion are obvious indicators of a pattern
of abuse. However, overt acts are often mere tips of the iceberg in a deeply embedded
pattern of coercive control that can be long hidden from public scrutiny. It is also important
to consider the degree of submission induced in the victim, the control asserted by a
partner’s insistence on unilateral authority in multiple domains, and after separation the
more subtle harassment and control exerted through manipulation of the children and/or
continued litigation (Kropp et al., 1999; Palarea, Zona, Lane, & Langhinrichsen-Rohling,
1999). See Table 1, Part B for a list of indicators of the pattern of violence and coercive
control. There may be circumstances where the level of violence is related to the perpetrator’s

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history of mental illness or substance abuse and these factors will have to be considered in
regards to both assessment and intervention strategies.
Third, whether there is a
primary perpetrator
of the violence (rather than it being mutually
instigated or initiated by one or the other party on different occasions) will indicate whose
access needs to be restricted and which parent, if either, is more likely to provide a nonviolent
home, other things being equal (Nielson, 2004). Accounts of the violent incident(s) by the
participants themselves should be assessed with caution, because victims may tend to
Table 1
The PPP Screening
Part A: Potency of Violence (level of severity, dangerousness, or risk of lethality)
1. Are there any threats or fantasies of homicide and/or suicide? If so, does the person have a specific plan to
Aact on them?
2. Are weapons available (guns, knives, etc.), indicating the means are accessible?
3. How extreme was any prior violence? Were injuries caused, and if so, how serious?
4. Is the person highly focused upon/obsessed with the specific victim as a target of blame?
5. Is there a history of mental illness—especially thought disorder, paranoia, or severe personality disorder?
6. Is the person under the influence of drugs or alcohol, indicating diminished capacity to inhibit angry
impulses? Is there a history of substance abuse?
7. Does the person express a high degree of depression, rage, or extreme emotional instability (indicating a
propensity to act irrationally and unpredictably)?
8. Is the party recently separated or experiencing other stressful events like loss of job, eviction from home,
loss of child custody, severe financial problems, etc.?4
Part B: Pattern of Violence and Coercive Control
1. Is there a history of physical violence including: Destruction of property? Threats (to hurt self or loved
ones)? Assault or battery? Sexual coercion or rape?
2. Has there been disregard or contempt for authority (e.g., refusal to comply with court-ordered parenting
plans, violation of protective orders, a criminal arrest record)?
3. How fearful and/or intimated is the partner?
4. Is there a history of emotional abuse and attacks on self-esteem?
5. Does one party make all decisions (e.g., about social, work, and leisure activities; how money is spent; how
children are disciplined and cared for; household routines and meals; personal deportment and attire, etc.)?
6. Has the partner been isolated/restricted from outside contacts (e.g., with employment, friends and family)?
7. Is there evidence of obsessive preoccupation with, sexual jealousy, and possessiveness of the partner?
8. After separation, have there been repeated unwanted attempts to contact the partner (e.g., stalking,
hostage-taking, threats or attempts to abduct the partner or child)?
9. Have there been multiple petitions/litigation that appear to have the purpose of controlling and harassing?
Part C: Primary Per petrator Indicators: Who is the primary aggressor, if either?
1. Who provides a more clear, specific and plausible account of the violent incident(s)? Who denies, minimizes,
obfuscates, or rationalizes the incident? (The victim more likely does the former; the perpetrator the latter).
2. What motives are used to explain why the incident(s) occurred? (Victims tend to use language that suggests
they were trying to placate, protect, avoid, or stop the violence, whereas perpetrators describe their intent
being to control or punish).
3. What is the size and physical strength of each party relative to the amount of damage and injury resulting
from the incident(s)? Does either party have special training or skill in combat? (Perpetrators who are better
equipped are able to cause the greater damage).
4. Are the types of any injuries or wounds suffered likely to be caused by aggressive acts (the perpetrator’s) or
defensive acts (the victim’s)?
5. If the incident(s) involved mutual combat, were the violent acts/injuries by one party far in excess of those
of the other? (Violent resistors [VR] tend to assert only enough force to defend and protect; when primary
perpetrators retaliate, they are more likely to escalate the use of force aiming to control and punish).
6. Has either party had a prior protective order issued against them—whether in this or a former relationship
(indicating who was determined to be the primary aggressor in the past)?

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assume more blame, and abusers usually minimize or deny their conduct. Moreover, the
motivation to conceal or admit violent behavior varies depending upon the aggressor’s views
of the consequences of doing so (i.e., he is unlikely to admit abusive behavior to a judge, but
may do so in an appropriate therapeutic intervention). Nevertheless, it is helpful to obtain
a detailed account of the violent incidents—within the context of the relationship—from
each party separately. However, professionals need to be wary of differentiating the abuser
from the victim based on who claims to be the victim; who is more charming, charismatic, and
likeable; who appears more organized, reasonable, and sensible; and who feels more entitled
and morally outraged. Sociopaths, narcissists, and chauvinists—who use violence for inter-
personal control—can make a very smooth presentation whereas the victim can appear
emotionally distraught and disorganized (Bancroft & Silverman, 2002; Herman, 1997). See
Table 1, Part C for a list of indicators that help discriminate who might be the primary perpetrator.
In general, a PPP screening provides the legal or mental health professional with
a
working hypothesis
as to the type of violence involved in any case. Furthermore, multiple
indicators, especially those that are more potent, signal the more difficult and high-risk
cases where full measures of protection are needed for the victim and child, and highly
restricted access orders are warranted. For example, multiple indicators of potency and a
clear pattern of using coercive-controlling tactics by a primary perpetrator indicate a
probable high-risk abusive controlling relationship (ACV). Several indicators of moderate
severity or potency and use of violent tactics to resolve conflict with neither party as the
primary perpetrator suggest moderate-risk common couple violence (CIV). Levels of
potency commensurate with the threat posed by a violent partner suggest a violent resistor
(VR); and few indicators of potency with acts of violence only around the time of separation
instigated by one or both parties suggest an isolated incident related to the separation (SIV).
The latter types of case may require few, if any, restrictions on custody and access arrange-
ments in the longer term.
Who can undertake this kind of preliminary assessment? We suggest that family
court and related professionals—judges, attorneys, mediators, custody evaluators, and
social workers—can do so provided they have access to relevant facts and appropriate
training, even at an interim stage in the proceedings. Because the risk of misdiagnosis can
have very serious consequences, attempts to reach a definite conclusion about the nature
and effects of domestic violence in a case or make recommendations about a long-term
plan of care should be undertaken by qualified mental health professionals with specialized
domestic violence training who undertake a multilevel, multimethod assessment with both
parents and their children.
CREDIBILITY OF ALLEGATIONS
Multiple, serious conflicting allegations of child maltreatment, domestic violence, and
parental abuse of drugs and alcohol are commonly raised in high-conflict custody-litigating
postseparation families. Substantiation of claims can be difficult, which poses great
challenges for professionals involved in making parenting plans. With regard to substan-
tiation of those claims, published research is limited, and studies are mostly of small and
nonrandomly drawn samples,
5
but findings from the few studies that exist indicate a
significant proportion of domestic violence allegations (50– 75%) and child abuse allegations
(22–52%) in family law matters can be subsequently substantiated in some manner (Bala,
Mitnick, Trocmé, & Houston, in press; Bala & Schuman, 1999; Brown, 2003; Johnston,
Lee, Olesen, & Walters, 2005; Shaffer & Bala, 2003; Thoennes & Tjaden, 1990).

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The practical dilemma that remains in making parenting plans in high-conflict separat-
ing families is: What reliable evidence can be gleaned from the mutual finger pointing and
counterblaming of a “he-said/she-said” variety? To reconcile these conflicting stories, a
naïve professional in the family court system may dismiss or minimize the claims of both
spouses or erroneously conclude that the abuse is mutual when it is not. Alternatively, a
women’s advocate may immediately harbor the suspicion that the male must be the perpetrator
and lying about his allegations or denials (Neilson, 2004). There are a number of steps to
avoiding premature or erroneous judgments.
Systematic inquiry from the following multiple sources can yield direct or circumstantial
information that supports or refutes the parents’ respective claims (Austin, 2000). Each
corroborating piece of information then needs to be weighed and aggregated by a neutral
screener who has been trained to avoid common errors in human perception. First, objective
verification of specific incidents can be provided by police and medical reports, self-
admissions, or eye witness accounts. Second, corroboration of aspects of an allegation by
neutral third parties—like neighbors, teachers, or babysitters—is important. Relatives may
offer useful information, but their allegiance and potential bias must be considered.
Conversely, the absence of denials of violence by credible others who are alleged to have
observed the violence (older teenagers, adult children, and nonrelatives sharing the family
home) may be a curious omission that needs to be explored. Third, the psychological status
of the alleged abuser and victim may affect credibility assessment. For the alleged abuser,
a diagnosis of a severe sociopathic or mental illness like bipolar disorder, major depression,
panic disorder, schizophrenia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or substance abuse problems
may be relevant. For the alleged victim, the presence of reality testing problems, psychotic,
paranoid, or histrionic personality disorders are pertinent.
The specific abuse complaints need to be examined in terms of their logical and
emotional meaning for the complainant: Did the abuse involve deep shaming and humiliation?
Was the victim made to feel responsible? Was the abuse normalized, that is, seen as justly
deserved punishment or discipline? How an abusive incident is perceived needs to be
understood in terms of the family and cultural context in which it is made. Particular
behaviors may be deemed especially insulting and offensive in some minority ethnic
families in ways that may not be understood by most others (e.g., slapping with shoes in
an Islamic culture). Moreover, a victim might have multiple abusers (e.g., her spouse and
mother-in-law in some Indian families); or the violence to which the children are exposed
is between family members other than the parents (e.g., between father and mother’s new
boyfriend or involving older siblings).
Last but not least, in assessing credibility, the timing of the disclosure and stage of the
legal proceedings are potentially relevant, although often difficult to interpret. Although
allegations made for the first time in the context of family litigation may appear to be self-
serving, in order to buttress a claim for custody or restriction of access to the other parent,
more often there are other valid reasons for a delay in disclosure. Some victims may
hesitate to report violence in an attempt to reduce conflict, while others may not initially
recognize what they have experienced as abuse until they have some distance and
counseling. For example, a woman may not recognize that sexual abuse can even happen
in the context of a marriage, but may later come to understand her experience as a violation
of her rights. Unfortunately, in these cases, she might be subjected to an unjustifiable extent
of suspicion by justice system professionals when she discloses sexual abuse for the first
time after separation. Reports of abuse first made in the context of litigation should never
be dismissed solely because of the timing of disclosure.

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Unfounded Allegations of Abuse.
Although existing research provides sobering estimates
of the problem of domestic violence and child abuse, we cannot ignore the other side
of the coin—that a notable proportion of allegations cannot be substantiated. There are
several diverse sources of misunderstandings and suspicions of abuse in highly conflicted
and violent families that need to considered in making parenting plans.
First, it is important to acknowledge that a proportion of these allegations may be valid
disclosures that simply lack convincing data to substantiate them (Moloney et al., 2007).
After all, most family violence occurs behind closed doors; is not reported to any authorities
or professionals; is the subject of shame and denial by the victim and other family members;
or is normalized, excused, and rationalized within some families and cultures (e.g., as is
excessive child corporal punishment and coercive marital sex).
Second, both clinical observation and empirical studies indicate that only a small
number of unfounded child abuse allegations are due to deliberate or malicious fabrication
(Bala et al., in press; Brown, 2003). More commonly, the accusing parent has an honestly
held (albeit erroneous) belief about the abuse. Suspicions of child abuse, especially for
young children during visitation, may arise from distressed behavior of the child of
ambiguous origin or relatively benign incidents that are misreported to parents who are no
longer communicating with one another. Where parents harbor fear, distrust, and negative
convictions about one another, the potential for such misunderstanding is greatly increased.
Such distortions are too often reaffirmed by family, friends, and even professionals in a
world now split in two, sometimes generating a form of tribal warfare within an adversarial
legal system focused on finding fault (Johnston & Roseby, 1997).
There is virtually no research on the extent to which spousal abuse allegations are clearly
false and maliciously fabricated, but this issue is becoming an increasing concern for the
justice system. An unintended negative consequence of bringing social and statutory attention
to the relevance of domestic violence in child custody determinations is the possibility of
encouraging fabrication, or more commonly exaggeration and biased recall in reporting
events, in order to support legal claims and to access services and social supports (White,
2007). On the other hand, it is critical to emphasize that the making of false allegations of
spousal abuse is much less common than the problem of genuine victims who fail to report
abuse, and the widespread false denials and minimization of abuse by perpetrators (Jaffe
et al., 2003; Johnston, Lee, et al., 2005; Shaffer & Bala, 2003).
Finally, the psychological vulnerabilities of the parents may also play a role in
unfounded allegations. Individuals (made vulnerable by their own histories of deprivation
and trauma) are inordinately humiliated by the divorce—and what it implies about their
deficiencies. These individuals may defend themselves by vigorously deflecting the
blame onto the former partner, becoming convinced that the other parent is irrelevant,
irresponsible, or even dangerous, in contrast to themselves who are truly perceived as the
caretaker who is essential, responsible, and safe. Furthermore, many of these same
individuals, panicked by feelings of loss and abandonment, try to use their children as
substitutes for, bridges to, and weapons to punish their ex-partner for leaving. Children in
turn can become distressed, cling to the needy parent, and may resist contact with the
other, evoking allegations of parental alienation on one side and child abuse or children
witnessing spousal abuse on the other.
In cases of most severe vulnerability, one partner experiences the other’s rejection,
custody demands, or accusations as such a devastating attack and profound loss in defense
to which he or she develops paranoid ideas of betrayal, conspiracy, and exploitation by the
ex-mate. Indeed, in this small minority of cases, the rage of the rejected partner could

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result in abduction and/or murder of children and victim parent and/or suicide of the
rejected partner. These kinds of situations remind us that highly conflicted divorcing
families and domestic violence cases are not discrete populations, but rather share
common dynamics that can precipitate further violence, sometimes with lethal conse-
quences. It follows that parents with unfounded allegations should not be simply dis-
missed, but treated with the same differential concern in making parenting plans, lest they
escalate to violence and subject their children to ongoing emotional abuse (Johnston &
Roseby, 1997).
PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING PARENTING ARRANGEMENTS AND RESOLVING
CONFLICTING PRIORITIES
In most domestic violence cases there are multiple factors to consider. What is needed
is a risk–benefit analysis of different kinds of parenting plans that are in the best interests
of the particular child and family (Sturge & Glaser, 2000). What are some guiding principles
for undertaking this kind of analysis? It is submitted that the goals of any plan should be
prioritized in the following order:
1. Protect children directly from violent, abusive, and neglectful environments;
2. Provide for the safety and support the well-being of parents who are victims of
abuse (with the assumption that they will then be better able to protect their
child);
3. Respect and empower victim parents to make their own decisions and direct
their own lives (thereby recognizing the state’s limitations in the role of
loco
parentis
);
4. Hold perpetrators accountable for their past and future actions (i.e., in the context
of family proceedings, have them acknowledge the problem and take measures
to correct abusive behavior); and
5. Allow and promote the least restrictive plan for parent–child access
that benefits the
child
, along with parents’ reciprocal rights.
Premised on the notion that the goal of protecting children must never be compromised,
the strategy is to begin with the aim of achieving all five goals and to resolve conflicts by
abandoning the lower priorities. This approach provides a pathway to just and consistent
resolution of many common dilemmas. For example, in principle, if a parent denies engaging
in his or her substantiated violence and does not comply with court-ordered treatment,
Priority 5 should be dropped or modified by suspending or supervising access. Furthermore,
the victim should be allowed to relocate upon request (forgoing Priorities 4 and 5). If the
victim is subsequently abused by a new partner, these principles imply an alternative safer
place to live can be offered along with a choice: Live with your violent mate or have the
care and custody of your child (Priorities 3, 4, and 5 are dropped, and Priority 2 may have
to be dropped as well). Note that Priority 5, as stated, implies that access may need to be
suspended in some cases even though a violent parent has sought and benefited from
corrective treatment (e.g., if a child, traumatized by the parent’s past abusive tirades, con-
tinues to be highly distressed and resistant to supervised visits despite reasonable efforts to
alleviate that distress).
It must be acknowledged that constraints on a parent–child relationship like supervised
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constitute an important threat to parents’ civil liberties, but also establish an artificial and
potentially difficult environment for both parent and child to relate freely and fully. For
these reasons, intrusive constraints should not be imposed lightly and should require the
accountability of all parties. Any court-imposed restrictions on a parent’s regular and
unsupervised access need to include: explicit goals with behavioral criteria that need to be
met in order for the parent and child to graduate to a less restrictive option, a timely review
of progress, and/or monitoring by the family court or its designated agent. Likewise, any
removal of restrictions on a parent’s access to his or her child should be contingent upon
cessation of the threat of violence, as well as credible reports of successful progress or
completion of treatment for the problem (of violence, substance abuse, or mental illness).
To w hat extent is it important to consider children’s expressed wishes when making
access arrangements that are feasible and safe? In general, it is important to be responsive
to their need for age-appropriate input and, in particular, the requests and concerns of a
child who is rejecting a violent parent need to be respected.
6
However, the spoken
preferences of children who have been abused or witnessed violence can take many forms
and should be interpreted with caution, optimally with the help of a child therapist. Some
children can be intensely angry at an abusive parent but only feel safe enough to verbally
resist or refuse visitation—even minimal contact within the safe confines of supervision—
after the separation. In other cases, children who have witnessed or sustained abuse, out of
fear, become aligned with the more powerful perpetrator and reject an innocent victim
parent. More commonly, youngsters from abusive homes grieve the loss of a parent who
does not visit them; they imagine that they have been abandoned, blame themselves for the
parent’s absence, and worry greatly about that parent’s welfare. All of these possible
motivations for the child’s expressed preferences need to be teased out.
Usually in setting up the conditions under which access occurs, one can be responsive
to many of the child’s concerns (e.g., who should attend, what activities to expect, where
the visits take place, and perhaps how long they will last). Furthermore, children need to
be prepared for resuming unrestricted access, armed with coping skills and safety plans,
together with an explanation of why it has become permissible to see their visiting parent
on their own again. It may also be important for parents who have been violent to acknowledge
their behavior directly to their child and to take steps to reassure him or her about their
commitment to nonviolence and the measures they have taken to ensure future safety.
However, much caution is needed to avoid subtle emotional manipulation and ensure
a genuine commitment to change by the abuser such that these kinds of conversations
may need to take place with the help of a counselor who is experienced with parent–child
reunification.
DIFFERENTIAL PARENTING ARRANGEMENTS
In the following section we outline a range of parenting arrangements, with corresponding
definitions, criteria for use, and special considerations of each, designed for postseparation
and divorced families where there has been high conflict and violence. We have applied the
family violence literature to these arrangements within the context of our experience as
custody assessors, trainers, and researchers, but acknowledge there is only a limited scientific
foundation to build on and that the proposed guidelines are preliminary. The range of
parenting arrangements discussed in this section includes co-parenting, parallel parenting,
supervised exchanges, supervised access, and no access, as depicted in Table 2, Sections
A–E. The legal frameworks of joint and sole custody are also discussed.

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Table 2
Proposed Parenting Plans in High Conflict and Violent Separating and Divorced Families
Section A:
CO-PARENTING
Access arrangements Other provisions Appropriate for Not appropriate for
Shared decision-making on
major issues—education,
health, etc.
Common child care
practices, consistent
routines, discipline
expected across homes
Ongoing communication
& joint problem solving
by parents
May be called joint legal
& joint physical custody
Time share ranges with
specific provisions stipulated
in court order or by agreement
of the parties
Explicit court access order
includes holidays: explicit
dates, times, places of exchange
Flexibility & compromise
re schedule are encouraged,
where possible
Court order provides back-up
when no agreement is reached
about any temporary changes
negotiated by parents directly
If requested by either party,
permanent court order, such
as restrictions on taking child
out of area w/o consent, etc.
Protocols for telephone access
to child
Comfortable place of exchange
for both parents & child
Protocols for communicating
emergency information
Parents sufficiently able to
communicate, have measure
of trust in & respect for one
another; able to be child focused
or able to resolve difficulties
Re DV: Low ratings on potency,
pattern, & primary perpetrator
of violence, e.g.,
•Low levels of Separation-
induced Violence [SIV] after
crisis is passed & trauma
resolved
•For other types of past violence,
only with substantial history
of successful parallel
parenting & cessation of
abuse & control
Some mentally ill & substance
abusers with substantial proof
of rehabilitation
Cases with DV in general
Chronic conflict, coercive
interactions, inability to
joint problem solve, no
history or capacity to
cooperate & communicate
Mentally ill & substance
abusers in general

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Table 2
Continued
Section B:
PARALLEL PARENTING
Access arrangements Other provisions Appropriate for Not appropriate for
Divided decision-making
responsibilities, different
issues allotted to each parent
Parenting plan provides
for clear boundaries &
separation between parents
Time-share schedule requires
minimal communication,
seeks to avoid direct parent-
parent contact,
and
also
provide stability &
continuity in child’s life
May be joint or sole legal
& physical custody (if joint,
the time-share schedule
should meet all the above
criteria)
Unsupervised day &/or
overnight visits for VP
Time sharing between
parents may range, as
specified by the court
Natural transition times &
places minimize disruption
of child’s school, social, &
extra-curricular activities
Explicit court order for
access (times, dates, place
of exchange, holidays, etc.)
Expect adherence to details
of court order (not flexibility
& compromise re changes)
Consistent, safe child-care
practices within separate
homes are emphasized
rather than common practices
Protocols in place to avoid
conflict, threat of any
violence, & sabotage
between parents
Permanent restraining
orders in place
Restraints from taking
child out of area w/o consent
Neutral place of exchange—
safe & comfortable for child
(e.g., neutral relative, visiting
center, school, library)
Structured telephone access
to child
Rules in place for
communicating emergency
information between parents
Other necessary info
communicated by email,
etc. (never by child)
Procedure in place for
resolving any new issues,
e.g., parenting coordinator
Each parent has a positive contribution
to make in time spent with children,
but direct parent-parent contact
provokes acrimony
Chronically conflicted non-violent
couples (incl. repeated unfounded
DV allegations)
Re DV: Moderate-low ratings on
potency, & pattern, no primary
perpetrator, e.g.,
•Conflict-instigated violence [CIV]
•Separation-induced violence [SIV]
during & post-crisis
•Other types (incl. abusive
relationships [ACV] with credible
evidence of good progress &/or,
completion of treatment)
•Victims traumatized by past
violence of any type (incl. VR),
but no longer a threat
Infants, & very young
children, & special needs
children who require
consistent & closely
coordinated care across
family homes
Child experiences
ongoing symptoms of
trauma & distress
Findings that one parent
poses a physical, sexual,
or emotional threat of
abuse to child
Any on-going threat of
violence to one parent
by the other

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Table 2
Continued
Section C:
SUPERVISED EXCHANGE
Access arrangements Other provisions Appropriate for Not appropriate for
Decision-making authority
& parenting time assigned
solely to the parent more
able to provide a non-
violent home
Time-share schedule
requires minimal
communication, seeks to
avoid direct parent-parent
contact,
and
also provide
stability & continuity in
child’s life
Usually sole legal custody
& sole physical custody
Monitored exchange
between parents
Transfer of child by third
party at neutral site to
buffer child & prevent
ongoing conflict at
transitions
Exchange supervisor
monitors behavior of all
parties, enforces rules,
& helps communicate
essential information
Access usually limited
to several hours or day
visits, but may have
overnights
Explicit court order for
access (times, dates, place
of exchange, holidays, etc.)
Specific goals & behavioral
criteria that need to be met
for VP to graduate to non-
monitored exchange
Explicit court orders in
place detailing exchange
arrangements (all times,
dates, location, monitors)
Safety provisions for victim
parent & child in place, e.g.,
escort to site, protective
orders in place
Permissible activities &
persons allowed / not allowed
during visits (optional)
Restraints from taking child
out of area w/o consent
Rules in place for behavioral
etiquette at time of exchange,
& permission for any
attendance at child activities
Re DV: Moderate ratings on
potency, pattern, & primary
perpetrator of violence where
risk or fear of renewed violence
or conflict occurs only when
parents meet, e.g.,
•Conflict-instigated violence [CIV]
•Violent Resistors [VR] & other
victims with residual trauma from
past violence
•Separation-instigated [SIV] during
crisis period
•Other types (incl. abusive
relationships [ACV] with credible
evidence of good progress &/or,
completion of treatment
Chronically conflicted non-violent
couples
(incl. repeated unfounded
allegations)
Problematic behavior or distress at
transition by either parent &/or
child needs checking
Any current threat of violence
and ongoing concerns about
safety & wellbeing of child
with either parent alone
Inadequate monitoring or
non-neutral monitor

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Table 2
Continued
Section D:
SUPERVISED ACCESS
Access arrangements Other provisions Appropriate for Not appropriate for
Decision-making authority
& parenting time assigned
by court to the parent more
able to provide non-violent home
Sole legal custody & sole
physical custody
Supervised Visits for VP
Supervised in a safe place
with a neutral supervisor
who agrees to terms of a
detailed supervision order
and is able to control the
VP and willing to report
violations to court
Explicit court order for
access (times, dates, place
of exchange, supervisor, etc.)
Duration of visits usually
limited to a few hours
Specific goals & behavioral
criteria that need to be met to
graduate to monitored exchange
Safety provisions for victim
parent & child in place, e.g.,
escort to site, protective orders
in place
Support & treatment services
offered, but victims
(& violent
resistors)
empowered by
respecting self-determination
Court-ordered treatment/rehab
for abuser
Re DV: High ratings on potency
alone & moderate-high ratings
on potency, pattern, & primary
perpetrator of violence
•Currently or recently violent
(all types of violence)
•Abusive relationships [ACV]
Current substance abusers &
acutely mentally ill, if treatment
in progress
Temporarily for ambiguous
cases during a DV assessment
Parents with established risk of
child physical, sexual abuse,
abduction threat to child
Child may have been traumatized
by DV or abuse, but wants contact
or stands to gain from parent’s
continuing involvement
Child’s ongoing distress
& lack of any apparent
benefit in contact
Inadequate supervision
available, i.e., lacks training,
skills, not neutral for child
or parents
Child or visiting parent
needs more intensive
therapeutic intervention
Visiting parent has met
explicit conditions for
less restrictive access
Custodial parent remains
distrustful & wants
supervision despite
unfounded abuse
allegations following
full assessment

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Table 2
Continued
Section E:
SUSPENDED CONTACT
Access arrangements Other provisions Appropriate for Not appropriate for
Decision-making authority
& parenting time assigned
by court to the parent more
able to provide non-violent home
Sole legal custody &
sole physical custody
All access or visiting rights
with VP are suspended
as
per specific court order
May resume after court
review for specified period
of times, contingent on
specific remedial behaviors
being reliably demonstrated
Report critical incidents to
child protection services
Referral of case to child
protection services if
suspension is expected to
be long term or permanent
Specify goals & behavioral
criteria that need to be met
to graduate to supervised
access
No meaningful parent-child
contact seems possible: no
remorse or willingness to change
by abusive parent [ACV]
Persistent distress or refusal
of child to supervised visits
Parent’s (VP) non-compliance
with terms of supervised
contact order
Re DV: Very high ratings on
potency, pattern, & primary
perpetrator
, e.g., abusive VP’s
[ACV] with
•Attempts or threats to abduct,
seriously hurt, kill, or blatant
use of child to hurt & harass
other parent
•Conviction for serious assault
or attempted homicide or
homicide of family member
•Child completely estranged
from parent &/or family due
to trauma of past abuse by VP
Some severe current substance
abusers & acutely mentally ill
(no treatment)
Supervised visitation is
not conveniently available
Custodial parent’s (CP)
unjustified refusal to make
child available for supervised
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CO-PARENTING
Co-parenting refers to an arrangement in which parents cooperate closely postseparation in
all significant aspects of raising their children. This arrangement approximates the
preseparation ideal for the children, where both parents are actively involved in the lives of
their children, share information, and problem solve the normal challenges of parenting as
they arise. Within the broad definition of co-parenting, there may be a range of divisions
of time spent in each parent’s home and flexibility in scheduling, taking into account the
distance between homes and the children’s changing needs and stages of development, as
well as changes in the parents’ schedules. From a legal perspective, the term “joint custody”
is the typical legal framework for a co-parenting arrangement. The terms “co-parenting,”
“shared parenting,” and “joint custody” are often used interchangeably, especially as the
word “custody” is being increasingly replaced with concepts like parenting time and contact.
Joint custody does not require a particular time split (i.e., equal time with each parent), but
rather is intended to establish a nonconflicted parental relationship that allows for ongoing
joint decision making about significant issues and significant time spent in the home of
each parent.
There may be a parent who will frustrate the possibility of co-parenting, in spite of the
best efforts of the other parent and third parties, such as mediators. There is considerable
debate about whether or not co-parenting should be imposed on an unwilling parent. These
cases require special skills on the part of custody assessors, lawyers, and judges to properly
assess the authenticity of the resistance to co-parenting. Understanding the underlying
reasons for the resistance is important. For example, a parent who has felt bullied or
victimized and experiences considerable anticipatory anxiety in dealings with the other
parent may have a legitimate aversion to co-parenting. On the other hand, a parent who has
never lived with the other parent may resent having to involve the other parent in his or her
life as a result of co-parenting, but may be helped to develop an effective co-parenting
relationship. Table 2, Section A provides criteria for its use and misuse in family violence.
PARALLEL PARENTING
In contrast to the cooperative nature of a co-parenting arrangement, parallel parenting
is an arrangement where each parent is involved in the children’s lives, but the relationship
is structured to minimize contact between the parents and protect the children from exposure
to ongoing parental conflict, typically by having each parent make day-to-day decisions
independently of each other when the children are in his or her care, and responsibility for
major decisions (e.g., education) is assigned to one parent. There is limited flexibility in a
parallel parenting arrangement, and the parents typically abide by a very structured and
detailed schedule. Parallel parenting developed in recognition of high-conflict separations
in which both parents appear sufficiently competent. Rather than encourage co-parenting,
the goal of this plan is to disengage the parents from each other and their long-standing
hostilities.
Parallel parenting will typically involve a child spending more time in the care of one
parent, who will be the primary residential parent, though there can be roughly equal time
in the care of each parent. The hope is that, over time, parental hostility may decline and
parallel parenting may evolve toward some form of co-parenting, but this may take years
and in some cases will never occur. Therapy for the parents to deal with their feelings
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co-parenting, but this is not always a realistic possibility. The legal framework for parallel
parenting may be joint or sole legal and physical custody, depending on the philosophy of
the court or parties establishing the arrangement and the resources available to counsel and
monitor the family. The time-share arrangement, however, should not be one that divides
the child’s world into two spheres that do not relate to one another or unduly disrupts the
child’s continuity in schooling, social, and extracurricular activities. Criteria for appropriate
use of parallel parenting and factors that contraindicate its use are outlined in Table 2,
Section B.
SUPERVISED EXCHANGE
Supervised or monitored exchange involves transferring children from one parent to the
other under the supervision of a third party. The supervision can be informal, through the
use of a responsible third party (e.g., by a family member, neighbor, or volunteer) who uses
a specified venue for the exchange. The supervision can also be formalized through a
supervised access center or use of a designated professional, such as a child care worker
or a social worker. The underlying premise is that, by either staggering arrival and departure
times or having third-party witnesses, the parents will be on their best behavior (or at least
avoid direct confrontation) or will not come into physical contact. An important caveat is
that using the police station for exchanges, while a popular arrangement for some profes-
sionals, is not a preferred solution. Although a police station may offer a parent a sense of
security, it is not a child-centered environment and may cause undue anxiety in the child.
Table 2, Section C outlines the details associated with monitored exchange.
For supervised exchange and the following two arrangements (i.e., supervised access
and no contact), sole custody is definitely the framework for the parenting plans. By sole
custody, the court is establishing that one parent is clearly in charge of all major decisions,
while the noncustodial parent has more limited contact and access to important information
about the children (e.g., school reports).
SUPERVISED VISITATION (ALSO KNOWN AS SUPERVISED ACCESS)
Supervised visitation is a parenting arrangement designed to promote safe contact with
a parent who is a risk due to a range of behavior from emotional or physical abuse to
possible abduction of the child. It may also be appropriate where a child has fears of a
parent, for example, because of having witnessed that parent perpetrate abuse or because
of having been directly abused by that parent. Although supervised access is a long-
accepted practice in the child protection field, it has emerged more recently in the parental
separation context with parents who pose a risk to the children and/or the other parent. Similar
to supervised exchanges, supervised access varies in structure, with supervisors ranging
from extended family or volunteers to a specialized center with professional staff with
expertise in these issues.
In most instances, supervised access in domestic violence cases should be viewed as a
transition phase after which either supervision is dropped or access is terminated, depending
on the change shown by perpetrators of violence and the child’s adjustment. Related to this
plan is the concept of supervised therapeutic access,
7
which involves a mental health
professional who is attempting to heal a troubled parent–child relationship through counseling
and support during the access visits. Although a genuine attempt at intervention is important,
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most skilled therapist and supervised access may be required as a longer-term solution. In
other cases, long-standing limitations of a parent (e.g., due to chronic mental health
problems) may necessitate ongoing supervised access. The Supervised Visitation Network
in the United States has excellent standards and guidelines, as well as sample contracts
available on their Web site (see also Sheeran & Hampton, 1999). The appropriate use and
misuse of supervised visitation is briefly outlined in Table 2, Section D.
SUSPENDED CONTACT
Contact between a child and parent may be suspended in the short term or long term for
a host of reasons. When the decision to suspend contact is made based largely on a child’s
vehement refusal to see a parent, it is extremely challenging to disentangle the factors
leading to this resistance. Differentiating between estrangement for valid reasons and
pathological alienation can be a formidable challenge and should be done by a mental
health evaluator with expertise in both child alienation and domestic violence. When there
is a reasonable basis in fact for a child to be fearful of a parent due to exposure to domestic
violence, it is inappropriate to label the nonoffending parent as engaging in alienation.
When a parent has engaged in alienating behavior, appropriate attempts at therapeutic
intervention should be implemented in an attempt to restore the damaged parent–child
relationship.
There is in law a presumption that the best interests of the child will be promoted by a
child having a relationship with both parents, thus requiring significant evidence of risk of
harm to the child before terminating access (Shaffer & Bala, 2003). In cases where it is
established that a parent presents an ongoing risk of violence to the child or parent,
emotional abuse to the child, or abduction, however, no meaningful parent–child relation-
ship is possible. In these cases, the court may be forced to suspend all access. These cases
present a significant challenge for lawyers and mental health professionals to provide thorough
and credible information to the court to obtain an order to at least temporarily end the
parent–child relationship. Criteria for suspended access are shown in Table 2, Section E.
IMPLICATIONS FOR PRACTICE IN THE CONTEXT OF LIMITED RESOURCES
There is often a large gap between the ideal plan that a family requires and the actual
resources available in a community. There is also debate about the effectiveness of various
programs to change behavior quite apart from a family member’s willingness to attend (e.g.,
batterers’ treatment; Gondolf, 2004).
In reality, many courts have to make do with limited resources, impeded by litigant
poverty, waiting lists, and a lack of culturally appropriate service providers. Often multiple
services need to be accessed, including services for batterers, victims, and children exposed
to domestic violence, requiring coordinated service delivery and communication of
information beyond the mandate, policy, confidentiality, and record-keeping practices of
individual agencies involved. To compound these problems, it is often not clear that
anybody is in charge of monitoring treatment compliance and progress.
Parenting plans that differentiate among patterns of domestic violence on the basis
of safety and prognosis should allow for better triage—more careful matching of scarce
resources appropriate to the needs of victims and children. The PPP screening that is
proposed in this article is a systematic way of doing a preliminary differential assessment
of what are often complex cases. It may have an added advantage to the extent that it helps

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a wide range of professionals recognize cases that are beyond their expertise, requiring
more specialized assessment by highly trained professionals.
The guidelines proposed in this article are designed to provide the general framework
for family court orders for children, victims, and violent parents whose access to their
children is restricted contingent upon their rehabilitation. If so, some next steps would
involve developing model court orders for each type of parenting plan, with a menu of
options specifying explicit behavioral goals and treatment contracts that could be adapted
for use by busy judges and others drafting and monitoring court orders. These kinds of
court orders require the support of corresponding treatment contracts for services
within the community that fully inform families about the programs they are required to
attend, including goals, procedures, limits of confidentiality, responsibility for payment,
expectations for completion, and accountability to the court. Case management protocols
and timelines also need to be developed to help coordinate between services and monitor
progress over time.
In sum, differentiated parenting plans in the context of domestic violence that are more
explicitly articulated, implemented, and monitored should benefit families who would
receive services more appropriate to their needs. These plans could also help mental
health and legal professionals—therapists, parenting counselors, custody evaluators,
family attorneys, and judges—to better coordinate their roles and provide checks and
balances to their interventions while ensuring accountability for violence, protecting civil
rights of all parties, and monitoring cost-effectiveness of nonvoluntary, court-ordered
interventions.
NOTES
1. Here a cautionary note: The research findings are from samples obtained from different sources and of
widely different sizes. Furthermore, the studies use varying methodologies and definitions (e.g., what constitutes
violence and the criteria for substantiation of allegations). For these reasons, the findings summarized in this
article provide only a partial and incomplete picture and may not hold true for the broader population, nor even
for the special subpopulation of those-disputing custody within family court, especially with respect to gender
differences in perpetrating the different types of violence.
2. Parenting and parent–child relationships have been examined in domestic violence agencies and women’s
shelters (e.g., Bancroft & Silverman, 2002) and in families litigating custody (Johnston & Campbell, 1993), and
these observations and findings can be compared with those from empirical studies of general community samples
(e.g., Straus, 1983).
3. Numerous instruments have been developed for this purpose, from early checklists like the CTS (Straus,
1979) to more recent comprehensive assessment kits like SARA (Kropp, Hart, Webster, & Eaves, 1999). The list
of indicators in Table 1, Part A is one of many ways to screen for potency or severity of violence when making
custody and access plans. For others, see Campbell (2005).
4. Whereas generally multiple positive indicators signal higher risk, some are more important than others, for
example, #1, #2, and #3. Some at risk for lethal violence are difficult to detect because the person has highly
secretive and organized paranoid delusions, for example, #1, #4, and #5, but not #6 or #7. While not critical
predictors by themselves, #6, #7, and #8 can act as precipitants or aggravate a violence prone individual or situation.
5.
See supra
note 1.
6. These cases need to be treated differently from those of an alienated child in a nonviolent high-conflict
divorcing family, albeit in practice, the latter are difficult to distinguish from those who are realistically estranged
(Drozd & Olesen, 2004).
7. Therapeutic supervised access offers an opportunity for access between a parent and child to occur in a
supervised setting with a therapist intervening, promoting healthy parenting, relationship building, and cooperation
between the parties. Therapeutic supervised access is a specialized short-term intervention aimed at assisting
parents toward nonsupervised access while meeting the needs of the children.

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