The Process of Intimacy: Similarity, Understanding and Gender

ArticleinJournal of Marital and Family Therapy 24(3):273-88 · July 1998with22 Reads
DOI: 10.1111/j.1752-0606.1998.tb01085.x · Source: PubMed
Abstract
This study examined gender and three aspects of marital intimacy using a method to establish both objective and subjective indices of intimacy. Fifty couples answered the Personal Assessment of Intimate Relationships (Schaefer & Olson, 1981) twice: once as a self-report and once to respond as they predicted their spouses would answer. Couples who were less accurate in predicting each other's responses also diverged in their experience of intimacy and reported lower intimacy. Results suggest that high intimacy is based on both understanding and similarity of intimate experience. Women reported significantly higher levels of intimacy and were also better than men in predicting their partners' feelings. These findings suggest that women may be more attuned to intimacy or that definitions and assessment of intimacy are gender biased or both.
    • "Our results may also have clinical implications in couple counseling to help couples increase their level of intimacy and understand gender differences that may impact the quality of their romantic relationship. Marital therapists may target their intervention on the understanding of one partner's intimacy representation and needs – particularly on the engagement and communication dimensions – and thus facilitate the expression and feelings of intimacy in romantic relationships (Heller & Wood, 1998; Schnarch, 1991 ). Therapists could also discuss with couples about the relationship dynamic and how gender socialization may partially explain their difficulties in the expression of intimacy. "
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    • "The items used to measure emotional intimacy here did not include physical closeness. It is not unusual for male partners to give lower intimacy ratings than their female counterparts (Heller & Wood, 1998). Men, compared to women, are more likely to focus on sexual cues on a rst date (Morr-Serewicz & Gale, 2008) and interpret intimacy through sexual behaviors (Ridley, 1993). "
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    • "Relationship intimacy had a larger weight than did individual sexual behavior, and it was the single strongest predictor of sexual satisfaction. This finding is not in line with previous studies that revealed that men place greater emphasis on individual aspects of sexual satisfaction than on dyadic aspects (Carpenter et al., 2009; Heller & Wood, 1998; Peplau, 2003). Among homosexual men, sexual satisfaction was associated with not having sexual difficulties , higher frequency of sexual activity, short-term relationships, and higher level of relationship intimacy. "
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