Uri Weinblatt

• Doctor of Psychology
• Systemic Mirroring Family Therapy Institute

Non-violent resistance (NVR) is an approach for parents and other caregivers that helps to increase presence and overcome impulsive and dangerous behaviors, while reducing conflict and escalation. The practical, evidence-based advice accompanies a detailed list of all the new applications of NVR and an overview of the supporting literature. A step-...

Shame is the emotion responsible for collaboration between people. In western culture, the first description of shame is found within the story of the first collaborative failure – Adam’s and Eve’s eating from the forbidden fruit. Using the biblical story of the Garden of Eden as a background, this chapter presents the emotion of shame and discusse...

This chapter describes the main ways in which shame influences and is influenced by relationships. When people experience shame, they do one of two things: they either fight or withdraw. When fighting, conflict participants (partners, parents and children, teachers and students) try to reduce their shame by transferring it to their adversary. In wi...

While parents are extremely vulnerable to experiencing shame, they also have a built-in advantage in regulating shame, namely, the advantage of being two. Parents’ greatest resource for shame regulation is their relationship with each other. When parents work well as a team, give each other supportive feedback, and comfort each other after having a...

Teachers are ordinarily taught that effective communication with kids who misbehave in the class revolves around problem solving. Although such conversations are useful in low shame states, when shame is the major factor fueling the problematic behavior, such conversations lead either to noncooperation or to promises which, if broken, lead to more...

This chapter presents a model for understanding and regulating shame in relationships. According to this approach, when one experiences a strong shame reaction, three related problems arise in the system: the individual’s problem is loss of voice – we lose the ability to express what is most alive for us. It is a reduction in one’s experience and r...

When shame surpasses a certain threshold, the ability to collaborate with others comes to a halt. For adolescents who experience high levels of shame, such situations are common. These teens often display various problems, such as self-cutting, school refusal, aggression, drug abuse, and other dysfunctional behaviors. They persistently refuse to ad...

The relationship between shame and communication is interesting and in many ways tragic. When a person tries to communicate his shame, he will often do so in ways which either alienate or shame the other person. Whereas the most effective way to reduce shame is by means of talking, it is often through these same efforts that we hurt the other, lead...

This accessible guide introduces systemic mirroring, an innovative approach to understanding and managing the disruptive presence of shame in family therapy. Shame is analyzed in individual and interpersonal contexts, and in two basic problematic states—experiencing too much or too little shame—often found at the root of serious problems between ch...

The emotion of shame is often the driving force behind power struggles and relationship impasses in the family. It is also the most public emotion, as it is closely related to how we are perceived and evaluated by others. This article explores how interventions of NVR therapy can regulate shame of parents and children through the treatment of the t...

A parent-training approach to the treatment of violence against siblings according to the principles of non-violent resistance was developed aiming at resisting the violence, providing protection to the victims and reducing escalation between the parents and the violent child.

Nonviolent resistance (NVR) is a new training model aimed at helping parents deal effectively with their helplessness, isolation, and escalatory interactions with their children. The purpose of this study is to evaluate training in NVR with the parents of children with acute behavior problems. Seventy-three parents (41 families) were randomly assig...

Non-violent resistance and violence among siblings A parent-training approach to the treatment of violence against siblings according to the principles of non-violent resistance was developed aiming at providing protection to the victims, reducing escalation between the parents and the violent child, and propitiating the positive elements in the re...

Agressieve en zelfdestructieve kinderen en adolescenten vertonen een waslijst aan gedragingen die hun ouders en leerkrachten voor grote problemen Stellen: provocaties, woede-uitbarstingen, risicovol en zelfdestructiefgedrag, geweld jegens anderen, zichzelf en eigendommen, spijbelen of helemaal niet meer naar school gaan, promiscuїteit, drugsmisbrui...

The authors proposed guidelines for parents of aggressive or violent youths. They insist on the importance of restoring parental presence without subduing the child.