Jane Elizabeth Thomas- Bachelor of Science
- Freelance researcher at Independent Researcher
Jane Elizabeth Thomas
- Bachelor of Science
- Freelance researcher at Independent Researcher
See https://www.nosper.com/research-papers for my methodology & conclusions on sexual response. Translations available.
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I am a sex researcher and educator. I explain sexual response, suggest ideas for sex play and help couples understand the emotional and sexual needs of the opposite sex.
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A new research approach reinterprets previous research findings to support a more realistic view of female sexual response. This paper attempts to answer the following questions:
What can we learn from the previous research?
What methods have been used?
What are the issues with each method?
What assumptions have researchers made?
What can we deduc...
Die bisherige Forschung enthält ungültige Annahmen über die sexuelle Reaktion von Frauen und muss neu interpretiert werden.
Ziel: Identifizierung der falschen Annahmen der Forscher und Vorschlag alternativer Interpretationen früherer Ergebnisse.
Les recherches menées jusqu'à présent comportent des hypothèses non valables sur la réponse sexuelle féminine et doivent être réinterprétées.
Objectif : Identifier les hypothèses erronées formulées par les chercheurs et suggérer des interprétations alternatives des résultats précédents.
Background: Current beliefs set unrealistic expectations for female sexual response, leading to misdiagnosis of female sexual dysfunctional and unhelpful advice for couples.
Aim: To establish the need for empirical evidence to support an understanding of female sexual response.
Method: A new research approach challenges preconceived ideas by esta...
Las creencias actuales establecen expectativas poco realistas sobre la respuesta sexual femenina, lo que lleva a un diagnóstico erróneo de disfunción sexual femenina y a un asesoramiento inútil para las parejas.
Une nouvelle approche de recherche remet en question les idées préconçues en établissant les réalités auxquelles les couples sont confrontés dans leur vie sexuelle. Cet article tente de répondre aux questions suivantes :
Quelles sont les hypothèses formulées sur la réponse sexuelle féminine ?
Quelles influences politiques et émotionnelles affectent...
Die gegenwärtigen Ansichten wecken unrealistische Erwartungen hinsichtlich der sexuellen Reaktion von Frauen, was zu Fehldiagnosen sexueller Funktionsstörungen bei Frauen und wenig hilfreichen Ratschlägen für Paare führt.
Jane's work includes the evidence for her conclusions: (1) Presenting the evolutionary precedents (2) Contrasting sexual behaviours according to sex and orientation (3) Explaining how orgasm is achieved regardless of sex and orientation (4) Interpreting the sex research findings (5) Demonstrating that no one can explain porno orgasms. Note: Porno o...
The differences between male and female responsiveness include: Orgasm is a vital aspect of male reproduction function; Men obtain an optimal sexual release from penetrative sex; Only men are aroused in anticipation of sexual activity; Only men are aroused by observing a partner's genitals; Women are sexually passive due to lack of erotic...
In order to experience arousal, a person must first be responsive. This is straightforward for men because their responsiveness is biological or hormonal.
My partner likes to take photographs of my genitalia while we are having sex. Note that I have no similar desire to photograph his penis! He enjoys seeing my labia slightly swollen and the lubrication that comes from my vagina. One morning when I was busy eating breakfast, he walked up and put his phone in front of my face. It showed a closeup of m...
On an ongoing basis, I ask sexologists, medical professionals, sex workers, gay men, lesbians, heterosexuals and anyone else, who might be assumed to be interested in the topic, to comment on my articles and quotes. Very few people comment, especially women. Some women get angry and defensive but they have nothing constructive to say. Some men thin...
When we look at how men orgasm, it is clear that a man must have an erection before he can attempt orgasm. Only when a man has an erection, does the penis respond (when the shaft is massaged) in such a way as to cause orgasm. This is true regardless of the activity a man engages in. So although an erection is a prerequisite for intercourse, a man a...
For women, sexual attraction does not include erotic arousal Women are attractive to men because their bodies cause intense male arousal. Women are attracted to other women because female bodies are more sensual and less overtly sexual than male bodies. Men are attractive to other men because of their easy arousal. Heterosexual women respond to men...
Sex drive has been defined in terms of the proactive role that men have in obtaining intercourse. Male sex drive is apparent from the way men behave. Men often view penetrative sex as a conquest. They know they have obtained something (intercourse) that women do not always want to give. Women, who seduce men, offer intercourse to get financial or e...
The penis is an external organ but the clitoris is internal The clitoris is the equivalent organ to the penis. They both develop from the genital tubercle in the foetus. The suggestion is that the two organs respond identically in the same scenarios (masturbation, intercourse and oral sex). Yet the penis is always stimulated directly. The clitoral...
Responsive women use surreal fantasy to generate arousal Before I started my research, I hadn't appreciated that my experience was so unusual. Reading Hite's work in my early twenties, reassured me that I was not alone. Both Kinsey and Hite documented many women who knew that orgasm is rarely possible with a lover. But in many years of talking abou...
Off the coast of France, at Cannes, there is an island where people are permitted to bathe nude. Nude bathing is popular in France, particularly along the south coast and there are many nudist beaches. My partner and I went there (not for that reason!) and walked around the island by the coast path. Knowing that I fantasise about homosexual erotica...
Sexual reproduction even in plants (pollination) involves pollen being transferred (by wind or bees, for example) from the male reproductive part (the anther, part of the stamen) to the female reproductive part (the stigma, the tip of the pistil) of the plant. The male part is active and the female part is static. This is how sexual reproduction is...
A woman may believe that she has orgasms with her lover. But if she is unwilling to have the same experience with an attractive stranger, it is the relationship rather than the act itself that is giving her pleasure. Her pleasure derives from the emotional significance of the act within the relationship she has with her lover. This explains why wom...
The basic male sexual function is instinctive. It is satisfied relatively easily by intercourse. Kinsey concluded that the vast majority of men (including the less educated) use intercourse as a quick (biological and functional) means of sexual release. They do not look for a response (erotic or emotional) from a lover. They do not need reassurance...
Women may use behaviours to provide turn-ons for a lover My first boyfriend was more than 6 years older than me. I was a virgin and he had plenty of sexual experience from one-night stands and also from longer-term relationships with women. It was natural that the first time we had intercourse, he was proactive in leading the activity. I just waite...
We tend to assume (on the basis of erotic fiction) that women in real life: Have the exact same sexual needs that men have; Respond to real-world erotic triggers as men do; Experience arousal and orgasm as easily as men do; Are driven to engage in intercourse just as men are; Masturbate as commonly and as frequently as men; Can masturba...
Sex research appears to indicate that many women orgasm both alone and with a lover. But all of this research is flawed because there is no agreement on what physical and mental stimuli cause women to experience orgasm. Erotic fiction shows women apparently having orgasms from whatever stimulation their lovers choose to provide. So while male orgas...
Understanding Sexual Response
Women are driven to engage in intercourse just as men are Men have a drive to obtain intercourse that we see throughout Nature. We observe the male of the species being motivated to mate with a female. In an attempt to establish political equality, feminists assert that women have a sex drive to engage in activity that potentially impregnates them....
Women experience arousal and orgasm as easily as men do Kinsey noted that women who could masturbate to orgasm said they also had orgasms with a lover. This is contrary to my experience. I wonder whether women who think that they orgasm with a lover (which is quite impossible) also think that they orgasm when masturbating because they assume that a...
Women masturbate as commonly and as frequently as men Most men masturbate at least when they are adolescent so they assume that women must have a similar experience. Men never seem to notice that women do not welcome images of male genitals nor are they willing to watch portrayals of sexual activity. Women never refer to the erotic turn-ons that mi...
Pornography shows women masturbating (or being masturbated by a lover). This self-stimulation by fingering around their glans never ends in orgasm. Women are shown continuing to engage in sexual activity after masturbating so orgasm is clearly not their goal. Despite the publication of Hite's findings that women are more successful with orgasm alon...
Kinsey explained that the vagina evolved from primitive egg ducts, which lack any sensitivity (in common with other internal organs of the body). The vagina is the result of glands that develop in the female foetus but not in the male. Just as the male glands (including the prostate) develop in the male foetus but not in the female. Both sets of gl...
Sexologists assume (as we all do) that women should orgasm in all the same scenarios that men do. These are (1) masturbation alone (the female anatomy and stimulation technique are never specified) (2) vaginal intercourse (3) manual stimulation of the clitoral glans with a lover (by herself or her lover) and (4) cunnilingus (oral stimulation of the...
Women are constantly aroused and orgasmic with a lover People are amazed when I question the orgasms actresses are portrayed as having in pornography. They cannot believe that anyone would doubt the fiction. Yet porn is clearly a male masturbation tool. Pornography involves portraying male fantasies that help men reach orgasm when they masturbate a...
Men are proactive lovers because of their arousal. Men enjoy exploring women's bodies because it is arousing for them. Foreplay existed well before any knowledge of the clitoris. A woman allows a man to stimulate her to the boundaries of her sense of propriety. I was just as passive with a lover as any other woman. The only activities I could consc...
We often hear sex educators blaming men for ignoring women's presumed sexual needs. But why are women so incapable of obtaining their own sexual satisfaction? Why are men responsible for defining women's pleasure? In porn we see women pleasuring a lover and, in turn, being pleasured. The pleasuring appears to be mutual. But while male pleasure focu...
Everyone applauds the idea that a man should care about his partner's orgasm. i But orgasm is an instinctive response to eroticism that occurs in our own brain not our partner's. When a couple's sex life falls apart, therapists focus on issues in the wider relationship rather than discuss sexual techniques. This is because sex is a male need and wo...
Orgasm involves identifying with the penetrating male
The erectile organs (penis and clitoris) develop from the same anatomy in the foetus called the genital tubercle. The penis and clitoris have crura alongside the corpora cavernosa that cause tumescence. i It is inconceivable that the organ responsible for male orgasm would not be the same organ that is responsible for female orgasm. Some sexologist...
Similarities between male and female responsiveness
The only reason women are assumed to orgasm without ever being mentally aroused is because most women are unaware of what is involved in sexual response. They observe men and conclude that only physical stimulation is required to achieve orgasm. Women overlook the significance of a man having an erection. They are oblivious to (or thoroughly shocke...
No boy reaches puberty and consciously decides to be aroused by girls. It just happens. If it doesn't, he may have a very low sex drive. If a boy is aroused by boys, he is probably homosexual. If a boy is aroused by both sexes, he may be bisexual. No one consciously chooses what concepts, body parts or objects cause their arousal. Mental arousal oc...
Orgasm is a one-off release followed by a recovery period With all the completely insane and goofy explanations, I get from women on the internet, it is tempting to believe that, somewhere, there must be women who are intelligent and sexually knowledgeable who could make a much better job of explaining their sexuality. I don't believe this is the c...
Stimulation that leads to orgasm is applied instinctively
Orgasm is achieved by massaging the corpora cavernosa
Male and female sexuality both contribute to reproduction
Whenever a man and a woman share physical intimacy, the man's arousal is very evident. A man's erection gives visual evidence, not only that he is aroused, but that he wants to obtain penile stimulation. He demonstrates this by massaging his erection. He is very appreciative when a partner offers to stimulate his penis by hand. He is even more over...
Stimulation and a focus on eroticism continue until orgasm
I used my own experience of sexual activity with a lover to draw conclusions about women's use of behaviours in responding to sexual scenarios in the way that men appreciate. Sociable sexual activity focuses on male orgasm because of men's acute arousal. Due to their lack of arousal, women may provide turn-ons and stimulation to assist with male or...
Orgasm has become a key word in talking about sex. Certainly, the most important aspect of women's participation in sex is whether they have an orgasm. Naturally, male orgasm is not an issue because it occurs reliably. My partner explained to me that orgasm was not his key focus during sex. Sexual release was a given but he wanted to extend the ple...
Learn About Sexuality provides information about sexuality:
Biological: reproduction, sex and gender; responsiveness, orientation and personality; and sexual anatomy & development of both sexes.
Emotional: engaging in intercourse; non-sexual intimacy; and our willingness to consent to sexual activity with others.
Intellectual: our motivation to ex...
There is a precedent for female masturbation in the animal world. Some female mammals do masturbate but since they do not ejaculate it is difficult to establish that female mammals stimulate themselves to orgasm. Misconception #4: Because of the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that women have a sex drive to achieve orgasm. Women do not h...
Male responsiveness declines very gradually from adolescence onwards. Few men masturbate regularly by the age of 50. At any age most men only masturbate in the absence of an offer of penetrative sex. It is a subtle point but masturbation clearly fulfils quite different functions for men and women. Male masturbation is primarily a kind of safety val...
For sexually precocious boys, half have an orgasm by the age of 7 and two-thirds by the age of 12. But until they start ejaculating, such orgasms are one-offs or sporadic. Most boys (90%) ejaculate for the first time between the ages of 11 and 15. The average white male has his first orgasm that leads to ejaculation by the age of 13 years 10½ month...
Male masturbation frequencies i vary significantly, indicating not only a range in responsiveness, but also the different conscious choices men make over how they enjoy their arousal cycle from erection to ejaculation. Sex is emotional for men because it connects them with lovers, family and society. Male mammals are often solitary creatures. They...
A man’s interest in his own penis comes from his frequent or regular state of arousal. His interest in the genitals of the opposite sex comes from his sex drive to penetrate a female. A woman conversely is neither spontaneously aroused not does she actively seek penetrative sex. This explains a woman’s sexual passivity with a lover. She has little...
The symbiotic relationship between men and women When living in an environment devoid of sexual stimuli (such as one without women) most men cease all forms of sexual activity. For example, the arousal cycle of men, who are locked up in prison with no access to any kind of visual media (magazines, television and internet), grinds to a halt. i This...
The young tend to be the most sexually active. So mature couples with decades of experience often assume that young people know more about sex than they do. In turn each generation rejects the wisdom of its elders. The sex researchers' findings have been so contentious that their work is simply ignored. So today we have no universally accepted acco...
Women typically get on well with homosexual men. Gay men often have the social skills that women appreciate but straight men tend to lack. Homophobia is largely down a certain kind of heterosexual man, who disrespects men (and women) for being on the receiving end of penetrative sex. Modern films often make references to the (grossly exaggerated) o...
Men are naturally responsive. So no man should feel inadequate about ejaculating quickly. i Men accept the misconception that women might be able to orgasm through intercourse if stimulated long enough because they want to prolong their own enjoyment of intercourse. Any sense of inadequacy over male speeds to orgasm could be easily overcome if a ma...
Factors that affect men's orgasm frequencies include their age, the age at which they reached adolescence as well as their level of education. Age is far and away the most significant factor in male sexual performance. i Men are most sexually active in late adolescence. Thereafter their responsiveness declines very gradually. A significant upside t...
For practical purposes male adolescence is assumed to coincide with a boy's first ejaculation. Boys who become adolescent first (before 12 years of age) often have the highest orgasm frequencies throughout their lives. i Statistics can be misleading. For example, men are taller than women on average but some women are taller than many men. Similarl...
Masturbation is least common among less educated males (89%). More men who are high school educated (95%) and who are college educated (96%) are involved in masturbation for at least some period of their lives. There are two suggestions for why college boys masturbate more than less-educated boys. The first is that college girls are not as easy to...
Society often implies that sex (like smoking and drinking) is a sign of maturity and worldliness. Films portray prostitutes as beautiful and classy young women offering a variety of sexual pleasuring techniques. Sadly, the run-of-the-mill prostitute does not provide 'dinner with a show'. i She feels no obligation to fake her presumed pleasure in re...
Sadly, researchers are often just as impressed with far-fetched accounts of female orgasm as the general public. Academics debate pure conjecture such as female ejaculation (copious quantities of vaginal juices produced by aroused females) based on age-old male fantasies and up-suck of sperm (pelvic contractions supposedly arising from so-called va...
Human sexuality has biological, emotional and intellectual components. The biological aspects are innate (we are born that way) and beyond our conscious control. Males of all species have a direct instinct to mate that females do not have. Women need to be persuaded to accept intercourse. For both sexes there is a huge range in responsiveness (freq...
The men with the highest overall orgasm frequencies throughout their lives are the less educated (those who are not educated beyond high school). Some men focus on enjoying their own responsiveness rather than a lover's arousal. Their self-absorption makes them relatively oblivious to a lover's perspective, who is relieved of any need to exaggerate...
Only some men like to offer their partners any form of foreplay. Other men (probably the majority) prefer to head straight for the joys of intercourse. i Because men are much more promiscuous than women on average, it is often assumed that all men are promiscuous. Many men think about having sex with various women throughout their average day. But...
Men’s acute arousal ensures that they approach sex with a clear agenda. Women are not aroused, which is why they talk about emotional sensations. Whether in real life or in pornography a woman provides an orifice (mouth, vagina or anus) for a man to ejaculate into. Women rarely demonstrate sexual initiative. For example, they do not commonly suck a...
Any discussion of female sexuality is usually aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being a realistic description of how women truly orgasm. Those who are paid to promote sex succeed in confusing us all (even women) over what is truly possible. Women who talk about orgasm are either promoting their therapy business, their personal service...
Regardless of gender, sexual activity that is aimed at achieving orgasm involves continuous rhythmic movements of the whole body focused primarily on the pelvis. The hips are thrust forward or gyrated in a rolling motion and the buttocks clamped together. The toes or feet may be pointed. Some experts advise women to tense their buttocks or point th...
Today we have no official account of human sexuality. So men's sexual knowledge of how women enjoy sexual pleasure (how women are assumed to achieve orgasm) comes from pornography or other fictional sources intended to cause arousal. For example, so-called squirting is completely fictional. Women cannot ejaculate. Similarly, the female breast is no...
Bisexuality indicates an ambivalence over a lover's gender Although men have varying levels of sex drive (which affect the frequency with which they want sex), once a man engages in specific genital stimulation he almost always does orgasm. i For men, physical stimulation leads to orgasm because they are easily aroused, especially with a lover. A m...
When we talk about consensual sex who exactly is consenting and what are they consenting to? Women may consent to intercourse but consent is a long way off sexual pleasure and no proof that a woman has an orgasm. Heterosexual lovemaking, for the most part, relies on a man stimulating a woman. Genital stimulation (both manual and oral) tends to rely...
Sexual phenomena (such as masturbation or gay sex) tend to be shocking and alien until we discover we enjoy them. Similarly once we experience arousal, we see the positive (rather than the offensive) aspects of eroticism. Anyone who objects to eroticism does not understand the nature of arousal. There is a belief that we all need sex. i But women e...
Inexperienced women explore various parts of their body before discovering orgasm but most women (84%) masturbate by stimulating the clitoris. Yet some women today will still buy G-spot wands and phallic vibrators.
There are some sex experts who refer to clitoral stimulation as if it can be directly substituted for vaginal stimulation. They imply...
If men were attracted to responsive women, presumably they would hope for a woman who could orgasm within say 5 seconds of being stimulated. In reality, a man needs a woman to offer intercourse for as long as he takes to ejaculate (no more no less). But a woman has no control whatsoever over how long the stimulation she obtains from intercourse wil...
Women are aroused by fantasy, not real-world turn-ons Men are aroused by thinking about sexual activity with someone they find attractive. Only two thirds (69%) of women ever have erotic fantasies. The rest (31%) admit that they have never once been aroused by thinking about eroticism. They are not even aroused by thinking about their own partners....
One would expect the regularity of intercourse to depend partly upon a woman’s motivation. But Kinsey found the rates of sexual outlet (made up mostly of intercourse) for married men who are early adolescents to be about twice as high as the outlet of men who become adolescent later. This was the same difference he found for single men (whose outle...
Men are turned on as a direct consequence of their drive to penetrate (a female) and thrust until ejaculation. A woman lacks this drive. Women are not naturally aroused by either sexual activity or genitalia i as men are. A woman aged 29 said she couldn't understand why a 70-year-old man would still want to chase women. She said "surely by that age...
Men do not make ideal lovers of women. Not only do they orgasm easily but men rarely appreciate what drives women emotionally or how women stimulate themselves to orgasm. We assume that only older generations viewed sex as a forbidden and taboo subject. But where are all the liberated couples today willing to discuss the sex play, they use to bring...
When a man has a new lover the novelty makes sex more exciting for a while but gradually he falls back to having intercourse with similar frequencies as before. Couples have intercourse more frequently when young but frequencies decrease over time. i Research indicates that this decrease in activity is due to aging rather than to tiring of sex with...
After fifty years of marriage one woman told me she had never been interested in men. Men tend to seek women out. Women don't need intercourse. They get affectionate companionship from their girlfriends and their children. Men often overlook the wider relationship after decades together. i There are many more men (than women) looking for casual sex...
Married men have sex more often than single men do Despite the complaints, research indicates that married men have more sex i than single men do. Men may look for other pleasures when they pay for sex but they are usually happy to settle for intercourse with their wives. So men may fantasise about (apparently available) single women but, ultimatel...
Doesn't anyone else find it odd (and very convenient!) that modern advice on female orgasm just so happens to reflect almost exactly how women's responsiveness is portrayed in pornography? Real women are obliged to exaggerate their apparent responsiveness to encourage a lover to keep going and to substitute for the much more obvious signs of male a...
Women's talk of orgasm does not lead to more sex for men Ironically (because only male responsiveness declines with age) women are often more sexually active when younger. Once a woman has children, she is much less motivated by sex. Women are more confident about admitting that intercourse does not cause orgasm as they age, by acquiring status or...
Films use sound effects to indicate a couple having sex off-screen: a regular banging (of a bed against a wall) and the woman's vocal accompaniment. Such scenes may represent a turn-on for men but it seems to me that men enjoy making female arousal into a tasteless joke. Male fantasies put tremendous pressure on women to conform to men's view of th...
Although intercourse provides little internal sensation, a woman feels some external pressure. When a man thrusts deeply i the base of his penis may thump or brush against her vulva (the clitoris and labia) and perineum (towards the anus). She may enjoy the eroticism of being dominated (from the whole-body contact and his weight) and the psychologi...
There are no female equivalents to the turn-ons that motivate men sexually. i Women often prefer intercourse in the dark and they do not enjoy observing their own genitals. The visual impact of her own and a lover's genitalia can even detract from a woman's enjoyment of sexual pleasuring. This is because a woman prefers a romantic view of sexual ac...
While women often fail to appreciate the importance men place on eroticism, men seldom appreciate the importance women place on affection. Sex is so much more rewarding for women when they feel affection for their lover. In the early days, a man is more motivated to show his appreciation for a lover by being affectionate. In assuming (implicitly or...
A woman who lies fairly inert during sexual pleasuring, communicates a lack of cooperation and causes a man to feel sexually unappreciated. Both social and sexual interaction rely on the active interest of the participants. In women's eyes men can seem impossible to please. But men wonder why women do not provide them with the sexual interaction th...
Few homosexual men orgasm solely from penetration. The penis is always involved. The anus and the entrance (vestibule) to the vagina have some sensitivity. But the internal organs (vagina and rectum) are much less sensitive. So the kind of stimulation that might lead to female physical arousal includes anal intercourse or using the fingers of one h...
Why is sexual pleasure taboo? Probably because of the associated exploitation (of women by men) and deceit (perpetrated by women on men). i Few people appear to be capable of appreciating objective sex information. The taboo involved in talking about sex means that most people prefer to say nothing. Political correctness prevents sexologists from q...
Research indicates that men are sexually active throughout their lives regardless of whether they are in a relationship. Women in relationships, in addition to never or rarely masturbating, only engage in sexual activity that is initiated by their partner. For the population as a whole, single women do not have intercourse as often or with as many...
Humans have sex in order to reproduce, to enjoy sensual or erotic pleasure and to form the emotional bonds that support family life over decades. Reproduction is the prime purpose of sex. So sex is presented in terms of intercourse, in which female orgasm plays no role, but which defines the biology whereby a man impregnates a woman. Sexual ple...
Samples based on volunteers will always attract people whose sexual (or political) motivation is well above the average for the general population. Women, who divulge their sexual histories, are either confident that orgasm is not possible with a lover or they are pleased to display their sexual prowess by claiming experiences that are considered n...
Despite the contrary research findings, society still promotes the idea that women orgasm from intercourse. Shere Hite's research gave inconclusive results i when she asked women how they achieve orgasm. Around half of her sample of women said they never or rarely orgasm from intercourse. An even split hardly lends authority to women's views either...
In the animal world (especially mammals) the male initiates mating. The male drive is evidenced by the behaviour of fighting over mating rights. There is not the same precedent for women's sex drive because there is no evidence to indicate that female mammals achieve orgasm as a result of mating (or at any other time). When female mammals are in oe...
Prostitutes are more sexually experienced than most women. Yet even they admit that they do not orgasm with clients. i A woman who claims to orgasm with a lover is either interpreting orgasm in emotional terms or she is using orgasm as a reward for her lover's commitment to the relationship. Faking represents an implicit cooperation that suits both...
The intense focus on women's bodies means that girls as young as five aspire to the sexual attributes and wardrobe of a Barbie doll. Teenage girls starve themselves and few women are willing to appear in public without wearing make-up, provocative lingerie and without waxing their legs. It is reassuring to be admired by a lover. Women enhance their...
Only women are ever described as frigid (meaning cold or unloving). An unenthusiastic lover is a turn-off and causes a man to feel unappreciated. i Even today so-called female sexual dysfunction continues to be defined in terms of a woman's ability, or her willingness, to cooperate with intercourse rather than in terms of her ability to achieve her...
A few women claim fantastic orgasmic feats, such as multiple orgasms. But orgasm ends sexual activity so these are, at best, just peaks of arousal. Many of these cases have more in common with a nervous disorder or some kind of nervous fit than a sexual release. If someone experiences orgasm like the ticking of a clock (or hiccups) it not likely th...
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Nothing in porn is real. You need to watch porn knowing that this is all completely fabricated. (Tracey Cox)
I am challenging porno orgasms portrayed by porno actresses. Men want to believe that women are pleasured through stimulation that they supply. So they think real women should respond in the same way. I have not found a single woman who can explain these orgasms. Women don’t even appreciate the role of eroticism in arousal. Women think arousal arises from their love for a partner. But arousal occurs when the brain responds to erotic stimuli. It has nothing to do with a relationship.
... the techniques of masturbation usually offer the female the most specific and quickest means for achieving orgasm. For this reason masturbation has provided the most clearly interpretable data which we have on the anatomy and the physiology of the female’s sexual responses and orgasm. (Alfred Kinsey)
… 44 percent of the women orgasmed regularly with clitoral stimulation by hand. (Shere Hite)
… women’s sexual response more commonly stems from intimacy needs rather than a need for physical sexual arousal … Rosemary Basson
… 42 percent (of women) orgasmed regularly during oral stimulation. (Shere Hite)
Vaginal orgasm has no scientific basis and the term was invented by Freud. (Vincenzo & Giulia Puppo)
Why do some women think that they are aroused by pornography? Clearly women do not know how their own arousal works so they copy what men use instead. Such claims make women attractive to men. However, whichever position is used for intercourse, a woman cannot see either her own genitals or her partner’s. Nor can she see the explicit act of penetration – penis thrusting into the vagina. Few women want to. So how could women evolve a liking for porn when they don’t see this view in reality?
But, by and large, coitus in marriage occurs with a regularity which is not equalled by any other type of sexual activity in the female, although it may be matched by the masturbatory, coital, and sometimes homosexual activity of the male. This suggests that it is the male rather than the female partner who is chiefly responsible for the regularity of marital coitus. (Alfred Kinsey)
Closely linked with the traditional pressure on men to maintain long erection and thrusting during intercourse is the idea that it is a man’s role to ‘give’ the woman an orgasm during intercourse. … In addition to the pressure created by this role, this idea also often puts the man in a no-win situation since the information he has been given – that thrusting during intercourse should bring a woman to orgasm – is faulty. This places him in a vulnerable position, leaving him to doubt his masculinity whenever female orgasm does not occur and also possibly pressuring the woman to fake orgasms. (Shere Hite)
Our society censors all sexual content. We have no authoritative account of our sexuality or of sexual response. So adults base their beliefs on erotic fiction, which is aimed at providing turn-ons that assist with arousal. Women’s sexuality is portrayed in a way that is appealing to men. Given this portrayal makes women attractive to men, women rarely complain that it is totally unrealistic. Women’s lack of confidence in their much less exciting experiences of sex in real life make it difficult to ever present the reality of women’s natural lack of responsiveness with a lover.
We have arrived at a point in our thinking as a society where it has become acceptable for women to enjoy sex, as long as we are fulfilling our roles as women – that is, giving pleasure to men… (Shere Hite)
There is an honesty in science which refuses to accept the idea that there are aspects of the material universe that are better not investigated, or better not known, or the knowledge of which should not be made available to the common man. (Alfred Kinsey)
Few researchers ever ask women in the population to comment on or confirm the theories that promote their supposed responsiveness. Alfred Kinsey & Shere Hite were the only ones brave enough to try to bring some realism to our understanding of female responsiveness. I am fighting for the recognition of those research findings which support my own experience. I want to see sexologists behave like scientists by producing new research to confirm or refute previous research rather than ignoring it.
