Assessing Intimacy: The Pair Inventory*
ABSTRACT PAIR, acronym for Personal Assessment of Intimacy in Relationships, was developed as a tool for educators, researchers and therapists. PAIR provides systematic information on five types of intimacy: emotional, social, sexual, intellectual and recreational. Individuals, married or unmarried, describe their relationship in terms of how they currently perceive it (perceived) and how they would like it to be (expected). PAIR can be used with couples in marital therapy and enrichment groups.
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ABSTRACT: Extensive research has evaluated emotional abilities measures among individuals, but the validity of these constructs in a couples context has yet to be examined despite theoretical perspectives often highlighting the detrimental effects of poor emotional abilities on interpersonal functioning. The current study evaluates four measures of emotional abilities in a sample of 104 couples (emotional intelligence, self-rated alexithymia, partner-rated alexithymia, and couples’ emotional awareness). Results indicate emotional intelligence and alexithymia are significantly associated with mood and relationship functioning of both self and partner. These findings support the utility of brief measures of emotional abilities to inform clinical practice with couples.American Journal of Family Therapy 01/2012; 40:189-207. · 0.54 Impact Factor
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ABSTRACT: The present study evaluated intimacy as a mechanism for the effects of relationship-enhancing (self-disclosure, mutual constructive communication) and relationship-compromising communication (holding back, mutual avoidance, and demand-withdraw communication) on couples' psychological distress. Seventy-five men diagnosed with localized prostate cancer in the past year and their partners completed surveys about communication, intimacy, and distress. Multi-level models with the couple as unit of analyses indicated that the association between mutual constructive communication, mutual avoidance, and patient demand-partner withdraw and distress could be accounted for by their influence on relationship intimacy. Intimacy did not mediate associations between self-disclosure, holding back, and partner demand-patient withdraw communication and distress. These findings indicate that the way in which couples talk about cancer-related concerns as well as the degree to which one or both partners avoid talking about cancer-related concerns can either facilitate or reduce relationship intimacy, and that it is largely by this mechanism that these three communication strategies impact psychological distress. Relationship intimacy and how patients and partners communicate to achieve this intimacy is important for the psychological adjustment of early stage prostate cancer survivors and their partners.Journal of Cancer Survivorship 12/2009; 4(1):74-85. · 3.57 Impact Factor
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ABSTRACT: People experience autonomy when they perceive their behaviour to be volitional rather than driven by external controls. Previous research has studied autonomy in relationships at a general level, focusing on people’s motivations to maintain their romantic relationships, as measured by the Couple Motivation Questionnaire (CMQ; Blais et al., J Personal Soc Psychol 59:1021–1031, 1990). To supplement the CMQ, we developed the Motivations for Relational Activities (MRA) scale, which assesses the extent to which people feel autonomous and controlled in a variety of specific relational activities. The purpose of this study is to examine the unique contributions of general motivations to maintain a relationship (CMQ) and motivations toward specific relational activities (MRA) in the prediction of relationship well-being. Results showed that the MRA and CMQ both independently and significantly contributed to the prediction of relationship well-being (i.e., commitment, intimacy, satisfaction, and vitality within the relationship) and were differentiated by their associations to dimensions of personality and attachment.Motivation and Emotion 04/2012; 33(2):184-202. · 1.23 Impact Factor