The process of intimacy: similarity, understanding and gender.

Bryn Mawr College, USA.
Journal of Marital and Family Therapy (Impact Factor: 1.01). 07/1998; 24(3):273-88. DOI: 10.1111/j.1752-0606.1998.tb01085.x
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